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I'm having a bbq this week, I invited the parish priest, and he RSVP'd.

It's not a house-blessing, but I don't want to be impolite. You understand. Thank you.

edit: because I may understand house-blessings incorrectly: it's my mother's house, and she isn't (technically) Orthodox. Because there is some ceremony involved in the house-blessing, no?
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Re: what is the etiquette when an Orthodox priest visits your house?
« Reply #1 on: July 25, 2016, 10:25:23 PM »
Greet him as normal at the door (ask his blessing), welcome him into the house, and end of etiquette. He's a normal person being invited to a social gathering. There isn't much more to it than that. Don't psyche yourself out.

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Re: what is the etiquette when an Orthodox priest visits your house?
« Reply #2 on: July 26, 2016, 12:01:35 AM »
Is it possible you are quietly wishing for a house-blessing but unsure how to get it, with your mother not Orthodox and so on, and so that's partly why you've invited your priest to the barbecue?
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Re: what is the etiquette when an Orthodox priest visits your house?
« Reply #3 on: July 26, 2016, 12:12:56 AM »
Is it possible you are quietly wishing for a house-blessing but unsure how to get it, with your mother not Orthodox and so on, and so that's partly why you've invited your priest to the barbecue?

This isn't about me.

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Re: what is the etiquette when an Orthodox priest visits your house?
« Reply #4 on: July 26, 2016, 04:14:55 AM »
Is it possible you are quietly wishing for a house-blessing but unsure how to get it, with your mother not Orthodox and so on, and so that's partly why you've invited your priest to the barbecue?

This isn't about me.

Am I wrong in thinking that if one wants a house blessing one has to state that fact in advance of a priest's visit so that he can bring the required--what word do I need here??--items? (And perhaps warn non-Orthodox guests that they might get wet.)

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Re: what is the etiquette when an Orthodox priest visits your house?
« Reply #5 on: July 26, 2016, 05:43:57 AM »
He might expect, and you could/might ask him to bless the food - and if he is obviously a priest (dressed as such) non-orthodox might not find this too surprising.   If you are not technically the host and this is not an event swarming with orthodox then it might be better to keep things low-key.

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Re: what is the etiquette when an Orthodox priest visits your house?
« Reply #6 on: July 26, 2016, 12:38:48 PM »
Is it possible you are quietly wishing for a house-blessing but unsure how to get it, with your mother not Orthodox and so on, and so that's partly why you've invited your priest to the barbecue?

This isn't about me.

Am I wrong in thinking that if one wants a house blessing one has to state that fact in advance of a priest's visit so that he can bring the required--what word do I need here??--items? (And perhaps warn non-Orthodox guests that they might get wet.)

That sounds correct. My question relates to MCarmichael's unspoken desire, if he has one -- which I'd warmly recommend he just discuss frankly with his priest.
"Love ... is an abyss of illumination, a mountain of fire ... . It is the condition of angels, the progress of eternity" (Climacus).

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Re: what is the etiquette when an Orthodox priest visits your house?
« Reply #7 on: July 26, 2016, 01:18:39 PM »
A priest at my church (now retired) used to say it's important to make the house as clean as you can before the visit. You don't want to be embarrassed.  :D

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Re: what is the etiquette when an Orthodox priest visits your house?
« Reply #8 on: July 26, 2016, 01:23:28 PM »
So you invited a priest for a house-blessing masqueraded as a barbecue, a house-blessing when barbecue is just a bait, a barbecue when a house-blessing is an option or just a general barbecue for your friends and you now have no idea why had you invited there a random priest in the first place and what to do with him now?
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Re: what is the etiquette when an Orthodox priest visits your house?
« Reply #9 on: July 26, 2016, 01:25:24 PM »
Children!


Its just a bbq.


The poster is an inquirer....so he has not taken the 'Priests in social situations' course yet...and thus doesn't know -what- to do with a Priest at a normal bbq.
The REST of this nonsense is other people ASSuming he wants other things....


Invite him in. offer him a beverage...and food when the food is ready. 
All opinions expressed by myself are quite tragically my own, and not those of any other poster or wall hangings.

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Re: what is the etiquette when an Orthodox priest visits your house?
« Reply #10 on: July 26, 2016, 01:29:00 PM »
A priest at my church (now retired) used to say it's important to make the house as clean as you can before the visit. You don't want to be embarrassed.  :D

I guess I can forget about ever inviting my priest round then.  ;)

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Re: what is the etiquette when an Orthodox priest visits your house?
« Reply #11 on: July 26, 2016, 01:37:32 PM »
Children!


Its just a bbq.


The poster is an inquirer....so he has not taken the 'Priests in social situations' course yet...and thus doesn't know -what- to do with a Priest at a normal bbq.
The REST of this nonsense is other people ASSuming he wants other things....


Invite him in. offer him a beverage...and food when the food is ready. 

I'd say I am morce concerned about "inviting people from different social cirles to a party" what is rarely a success.
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Re: what is the etiquette when an Orthodox priest visits your house?
« Reply #12 on: July 26, 2016, 01:38:48 PM »
Children!


Its just a bbq.


The poster is an inquirer....so he has not taken the 'Priests in social situations' course yet...and thus doesn't know -what- to do with a Priest at a normal bbq.
The REST of this nonsense is other people ASSuming he wants other things....


Invite him in. offer him a beverage...and food when the food is ready. 

I'd say I am morce concerned about "inviting people from different social cirles to a party" what is rarely a success.


Possibly true....but I would hardly take advice from people on the internet about that...;P
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Re: what is the etiquette when an Orthodox priest visits your house?
« Reply #13 on: July 26, 2016, 06:45:20 PM »
Children!


Its just a bbq.


The poster is an inquirer....so he has not taken the 'Priests in social situations' course yet...and thus doesn't know -what- to do with a Priest at a normal bbq.
The REST of this nonsense is other people ASSuming he wants other things....


Invite him in. offer him a beverage...and food when the food is ready.

I'm perfectly happy to believe you, and actually do more-or-less think you're right. However, I'll just gently point out to folks that the OP contained 3 or 4 times more of the word "house-blessing" than "bbq." So, I just wanted to see our mutual friend blessed in some way, and not refrain from forthrightly discussing anything on his mind with Father.
"Love ... is an abyss of illumination, a mountain of fire ... . It is the condition of angels, the progress of eternity" (Climacus).

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Yes we who are far from sainthood we can recognize a living saint and I'm talking from personal experience.Yes they are gentle soo gentle it can not be described it is like gentleness and humility in one and also they have this light this energy it's beyond words...and when you are near them you feel ecstatic and very happy

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Re: what is the etiquette when an Orthodox priest visits your house?
« Reply #14 on: Yesterday at 10:04:00 PM »
Children!


Its just a bbq.


The poster is an inquirer....so he has not taken the 'Priests in social situations' course yet...and thus doesn't know -what- to do with a Priest at a normal bbq.
The REST of this nonsense is other people ASSuming he wants other things....


Invite him in. offer him a beverage...and food when the food is ready. 

I'd say I am morce concerned about "inviting people from different social cirles to a party" what is rarely a success.

If the Lord wills, it will be just me, my mother, and the aformentioned priest.

I considered having a big bbq, but it is only my 2nd attempt at a Santa-Marie-esque style of barbeque, which is a real thing (it's copyrighted.)
I've gone through several iterations in my imagination, finally settled on if it works out this time, maybe I'll make it at the Int'l Food Festival.

=)

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Re: what is the etiquette when an Orthodox priest visits your house?
« Reply #15 on: Yesterday at 10:10:26 PM »
If the Lord wills, it will be just me, my mother, and the aformentioned priest.

I considered having a big bbq, but it is only my 2nd attempt at a Santa-Marie-esque style of barbeque, which is a real thing (it's copyrighted.)
I've gone through several iterations in my imagination, finally settled on if it works out this time, maybe I'll make it at the Int'l Food Festival.

=)

I say, that sounds fantastically delicious, and I think you should at least invite your OC.net friends.
"Love ... is an abyss of illumination, a mountain of fire ... . It is the condition of angels, the progress of eternity" (Climacus).

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Yes we who are far from sainthood we can recognize a living saint and I'm talking from personal experience.Yes they are gentle soo gentle it can not be described it is like gentleness and humility in one and also they have this light this energy it's beyond words...and when you are near them you feel ecstatic and very happy

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Re: what is the etiquette when an Orthodox priest visits your house?
« Reply #16 on: Yesterday at 10:58:09 PM »
A priest at my church (now retired) used to say it's important to make the house as clean as you can before the visit. You don't want to be embarrassed.  :D

That's what I'm saying. It's just a barbeque. If I say there are monsters in the basement, he isn't going to insist, I hope.

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Re: what is the etiquette when an Orthodox priest visits your house?
« Reply #17 on: Yesterday at 11:02:02 PM »
If the Lord wills, it will be just me, my mother, and the aformentioned priest.

I considered having a big bbq, but it is only my 2nd attempt at a Santa-Marie-esque style of barbeque, which is a real thing (it's copyrighted.)
I've gone through several iterations in my imagination, finally settled on if it works out this time, maybe I'll make it at the Int'l Food Festival.

=)

I say, that sounds fantastically delicious, and I think you should at least invite your OC.net friends.

Indeed.