Don't let doctrines and theology wear you down. I think we tend to like to think systematically and compartmentalize our beliefs, when in fact, our beliefs should be connected to the way we should be and the way we behave, in the way we have our relationships, as you yourself I can imagine desire. For some time, as a child, I tended to be confused as to what the Trinity is because I just wanted to conceptualize my mind on something, rather than live a life of experience and relationship in something. As St. Paul describes the Trinity so perfectly here:
12 Therefore, brethren, we are debtors—not to the flesh, to live according to the flesh. 13 For if you live according to the flesh you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live. 14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God. 15 For you did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear, but you received the Spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, “Abba, Father.” 16 The Spirit Himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God, 17 and if children, then heirs—heirs of God and joint heirs with Christ, if indeed we suffer with Him, that we may also be glorified together. (Romans 8 )
1 Now I say that the heir, as long as he is a child, does not differ at all from a slave, though he is master of all, 2 but is under guardians and stewards until the time appointed by the father. 3 Even so we, when we were children, were in bondage under the elements of the world. 4 But when the fullness of the time had come, God sent forth His Son, born of a woman, born under the law, 5 to redeem those who were under the law, that we might receive the adoption as sons.
6 And because you are sons, God has sent forth the Spirit of His Son into your hearts, crying out, “Abba, Father!” 7 Therefore you are no longer a slave but a son, and if a son, then an heir of God through Christ. (Galatians 4)
As you said perfectly, love is about thinking of the other before yourself. And even more than that, love is about the giving of the self. Now, as you put it earlier, God is transcendent, and it is difficult to describe him. But we describe God as a relationship, not as a "thing" that can be grasped conceptually. If God is perfect love, then God gives His whole self to us. Clearly, we become adopted into His divinity.
But more importantly, we do not dwell on thought of inheriting infinity as if to receive some glory we can brag about. That does take away from the beauty behind our relationship with Love. What we can enjoy is the fact that to "become God" is not to become infinite or omniscient or omnipresent, but to be Love, and to exude this Love to all others. He made me a Son and a co-heir of Love by having His Spirit of Love dwell in me. Love showed Himself in human form, that this flesh I have which was once alone living in selfish wants now can be used as a means of living in Godly fulfillment. This limited, weak, ignorant flesh is the means by which I partake of the infinite, omnipotent, and all-knowing Love. The narrative is powerful because the narrative is true not just in existential ways, but also in every manner possible as true, that there should be no weakness of any falsehood be found in it, that it may not scandal those who have put their hopes in Love.
And since God is forever transcendent, we are forever his children, that in such a manner that He gives Himself to us completely in Love, we cry out to him as any one who is most intimately sharing in that Love in the most appropriate title, "Abba, Father".
I know you find it superfluous to care whether the narrative is true. But I do pray that in finding how true it is in your own personal relationship that it may enlighten you to accept its truth in other, more literal aspects. Perhaps, you can pray to the Father and share with him that you are truly selfless, that you do not care much about whether to live in some sort of eternal glory as if to gain some sort of riches in an earthly sense, but to just share your life eternally in Love, simple as it sounds, and yet profound with infinite joy as it contains.
And, actually, if I could, I would post the whole thread for the unique and exemplary way Mina has been inviting and handling discussion.
One hides amid pornography, angry music, television that shows the worst of mankind, misanthropic politics, an internet populace led by all the passions: and then one asks, "Where is God?"
I wonder why it is called OrthodoxChristianity.net?
"The Lord rebukes thee, O devil: He that came into the world and made His dwelling among men, that He might cast down your tyranny, and deliver men."