Not quite so. I said that some homosexuals are called for celibacy, while others aren't.
One, however, does not choose to be a homosexual, and, apparently, not all homosexuals are able to be celibate...
Again, I think you're over-stepping what you or I "know" and "don't know." Your assertion that "not all homosexuals are able to be celibate" is a statement of capability, of ability to perform an action or live a way of life, and it is an assertion that limits their humanity.
But I was just assuming that in their ability to live their entire life without sexual relations they are exactly like you and me (heterosexuals). Is this a wrong assumption?
Happiness isn't a barometer of success in the spiritual life.
OK, call it peaceful?
The urges are not "unnatural" - lust & extramarital sex are.
Agreed. But again, why is sex to be always extramarital for a certain category of people?
(just like airplanes that fly, contrary to "nature" of heavy objects that have to fall down...),
No, airplanes fly because of the nature of air pressure. Orthodoxy is not opposed to science, but works with it when appropriate.
Cleveland, I know why airplanes fly. I was deliberately making a funny argument because just as Greeks and Hellenistic Jews like St. Paul knew precisely zero about aeronautics, they also knew preciously little if anything about the work of human brain and about the nature of human sexuality. What they knew very well, was that a man marries a woman and has children with her. If he does not, he might "burn" (1 Cor. 7:9). In this case, it is better for him to marry. They also knew that fathers give their daughters in marriage to pretty much anyone (a man of course) they see fit, and our whole concept of romantic love does not have anything to do with marriage, family, childbirth. So no wonder St. Paul in Romans attacked men and women who had homosexual sex as those who did something "unnatural": what was "natural" to him and to everyone else in that epoch and culture was to marry for the purpose of preventing the "burn" and for begetting children. Now, please note that I am not robbing St. Paul of telling us some very essential and eternal truths in those very books of Romans and Corinthians. Yet, he was a human being, and he was limited in his knowledge. We are, too, but we know a bit more as far as sexuality, and family are concerned, don't we? Will you deny, for example, that we know that a girl can choose her own husband - and to St. Paul this was something that perhaps never even entered his mind?
So what is the purpose of sex? Let's get to that, first, so we can stop this do-si-do.
To bring joy and peace in our lives, because sex is a precious, unique gift of ourselves to our spouses. Joy, peace and growing in our theosis.
P.S. It seems to me that you are irritated... let's not continue this discussion then. Also, because this topic may be too painful to some members of this forum, maybe, if you so wish, we could continue by PMs. Just a thought.