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Title: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 09, 2012, 04:34:39 PM
Where do good Christians meet?  :angel:
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Cognomen on May 09, 2012, 04:36:39 PM
Church?

If not there, at the chariot races!
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: jewish voice on May 09, 2012, 04:48:13 PM
Try online dating site that is set toward christian. I know lots of Jews use a match maker but I don't think you all have such things
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 09, 2012, 04:50:43 PM
Try online dating site that is set toward christian. I know lots of Jews use a match maker but I don't think you all have such things

Which one?....there are so many of them.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 09, 2012, 04:51:27 PM
Church?

I never heard anyone OC say that he/she met his/her spouse at church. There is a great chance of meeting a future mate by becoming a Sunday school member, but I don’t want to join for the wrong reason. Wanna see if there are other options…
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 09, 2012, 04:58:07 PM
Church would seem to be a good place to start...but you and I both know that the likelihood of there being another single Orthodox Christian at church under the age of 40 is akin to the Mormons being right afterall.

There is an Orthodox Christian dating site and it is great if you are interested in scam artists.  Otherwise, probably not worth the effort.  (Not joking, I have met three wonderful ladies on there, all of them daughters of Nigerian generals looking for a safe bank account to store their fathers' millions in until the civil unrest cools down...)

If you live in a larger city you might try one of the mainstream dating sites, just when you search put "Orthodox" in one of the keywords (Match.com) or like on Christian Mingle you can sort based on denomination and oddly enough, the second largest denomination in the world is on there!  If you live in a small or medium sized area, you are probably out of luck.  (I got three pages of matches when I set the search range to 500 miles.  100 miles = zilch.)

Otherwise, you might ask your priest if he has any suggestions or if he knows anyone.  Mine told me to loose weight and wash my face/shave, which was some pretty good advice!  He didn't know anyone looking, though.

Honestly, the best suggestion I have for you is to say an Akathist to the Theotokos and hope for the best.  That's what I have been trying.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Cognomen on May 09, 2012, 05:00:54 PM
Are there mail order husbands?  Not that I recommend this option.

I was going to suggest that we get married and kill two birds with one stone.  Then I realized we live in the same town, and that might be creepy.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: jewish voice on May 09, 2012, 05:06:06 PM
Try online dating site that is set toward christian. I know lots of Jews use a match maker but I don't think you all have such things

Which one?....there are so many of them.
I would choose one that has the most members in your area like if your from the Us then one that has most Us members but Just cause people join these sites they may not be as christian as they claim to be but you may have to do some weeding out. I would of suggest me but I'm not christian so  that leaves me out lol  ;D I hope G-d leads you to the right person
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: admiralnick on May 09, 2012, 05:25:27 PM
Church?

I never heard anyone OC say that he/she met his/her spouse at church. There is a great chance of meeting a future mate by becoming a Sunday school member, but I don’t want to join for the wrong reason. Wanna see if there are other options…

I met my wife at church.

-Nick
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: crux_84 on May 09, 2012, 06:21:49 PM
Would it be inappropriate to use orthodoxchristianity.net post seeking a spouse cus I could really use one too -like one in her 20s -early/mid 30s who likes travel and ...austerity.But not sexual austerity..shuttin up now...
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Maria on May 09, 2012, 08:06:41 PM
Church?

I never heard anyone OC say that he/she met his/her spouse at church. There is a great chance of meeting a future mate by becoming a Sunday school member, but I don’t want to join for the wrong reason. Wanna see if there are other options…

I have heard of Orthodox Christians who have met online through posting and sending Private Messages at Orthodox forums, but I have also heard of Orthodox Christians who have met their future spouse at Inquiry classes (either attending as an inquirer/catechumen or an interested parishioner), Orthodox Bible Studies, or volunteering at an Orthodox Christian summer camp.  
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: jewish voice on May 09, 2012, 08:32:52 PM
This has got me thinking maybe I'll make an Orthodox Match Maker site where people can answer questions and what not and the staff can match them up. In the Jewish circles Match makers can make up to around 2,000 a match that leads to a marriage as most couples tip the match maker. So I guess I'm really asking if this would be something that the singles in the Orthodox would like to see leave me some feed back as I check around for a dome names
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Maria on May 09, 2012, 08:39:47 PM
This has got me thinking maybe I'll make an Orthodox Match Maker site where people can answer questions and what not and the staff can match them up. In the Jewish circles Match makers can make up to around 2,000 a match that leads to a marriage as most couples tip the match maker. So I guess I'm really asking if this would be something that the singles in the Orthodox would like to see leave me some feed back as I check around for a dome names

A lot of priests recommend that young men and women in the parish attend the Bible Study or Inquiry Class. He is also very careful to tell members of the parish not to volunteer to be a godfather/godmother if they have any romantic inclinations toward any of the inquirers/catechumens.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: KBN1 on May 09, 2012, 08:41:07 PM
Church?

I never heard anyone OC say that he/she met his/her spouse at church. There is a great chance of meeting a future mate by becoming a Sunday school member, but I don’t want to join for the wrong reason. Wanna see if there are other options…

I have heard of Orthodox Christians who have met online through posting and sending Private Messages at Orthodox forums, but I have also heard of Orthodox Christians who have met their future spouse at Inquiry classes (either attending as an inquirer/catechumen or an interested parishioner), Orthodox Bible Studies, or volunteering at an Orthodox Christian summer camp.  

To meet another volunteer, right?   :police:
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Maria on May 09, 2012, 08:56:28 PM
Church?

I never heard anyone OC say that he/she met his/her spouse at church. There is a great chance of meeting a future mate by becoming a Sunday school member, but I don’t want to join for the wrong reason. Wanna see if there are other options…

I have heard of Orthodox Christians who have met online through posting and sending Private Messages at Orthodox forums, but I have also heard of Orthodox Christians who have met their future spouse at Inquiry classes (either attending as an inquirer/catechumen or an interested parishioner), Orthodox Bible Studies, or volunteering at an Orthodox Christian summer camp.  

To meet another volunteer, right?   :police:

Of course. Girls learn that certain guys are volunteering, and so they likewise volunteer.
Years ago, my son volunteered and said that the odds for guys were quite good.

However, my son found his future wife when he attended the Greek Orthodox Summer Camp at the tender age of 12/13. It was love at first sight as they danced the night away. He celebrated his thirteenth birthday while at camp ... so the campers tossed him into the pool.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 09, 2012, 11:23:19 PM
Church?

I never heard anyone OC say that he/she met his/her spouse at church. There is a great chance of meeting a future mate by becoming a Sunday school member, but I don’t want to join for the wrong reason. Wanna see if there are other options…

I have heard of Orthodox Christians who have met online through posting and sending Private Messages at Orthodox forums, but I have also heard of Orthodox Christians who have met their future spouse at Inquiry classes (either attending as an inquirer/catechumen or an interested parishioner), Orthodox Bible Studies, or volunteering at an Orthodox Christian summer camp.  

To meet another volunteer, right?   :police:

Of course. Girls learn that certain guys are volunteering, and so they likewise volunteer.
Years ago, my son volunteered and said that the odds for guys were quite good.

However, my son found his future wife when he attended the Greek Orthodox Summer Camp at the tender age of 12/13. It was love at first sight as they danced the night away. He celebrated his thirteenth birthday while at camp ... so the campers tossed him into the pool.

Hmm.  Do the Serbs have a summer camp?
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 09, 2012, 11:23:46 PM
This has got me thinking maybe I'll make an Orthodox Match Maker site where people can answer questions and what not and the staff can match them up. In the Jewish circles Match makers can make up to around 2,000 a match that leads to a marriage as most couples tip the match maker. So I guess I'm really asking if this would be something that the singles in the Orthodox would like to see leave me some feed back as I check around for a dome names

I don't have that much money, but I'd tip you a grand for a wife!
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: mike on May 10, 2012, 03:28:22 AM
There is a huge Orthodox event in a village of Grabarka. There is a monastery in there that is visited by several thousands of people during Transfiguration. There is a labour camp organised in there by the Orthodox Youth Organisation where they help the nuns to organise everything. I've heard opinions that if you really need to find a spouse (for example you are graduating the Seminary) you should took part in that camp.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Νεκτάριος on May 10, 2012, 04:24:01 AM
labour camp

Meeting in the Gulag!  How romantic! 
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: mike on May 10, 2012, 04:47:20 AM
labour camp

Meeting in the Gulag!  How romantic!  

LOL. I didn't know how to translate it. It's a typical youth camp but all participants are obliged to work in favor of the organisers.

These are pictures from 2009: http://www.cerkiew.pl/index.php?id=fotoreportaze&tx_ttnews[tt_news]=11551&cHash=a3c4a6a43c

(click 'następne' for the next one)

and from 2008: http://www.cerkiew.pl/index.php?id=fotoreportaze&tx_ttnews[tt_news]=9492&cHash=fa1a3caac9

They don't look oppressed (heavily).
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Νεκτάριος on May 10, 2012, 05:01:44 AM
It is hard to say it in English with just a single word.  They have a camp every summer where the participants help out the nuns with work around the monastery.   

It is circumstances like these that make my work interesting.  It is fun to argue with my editor over such slight mistranslations. 
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: mike on May 10, 2012, 05:03:53 AM
It is hard to say it in English with just a single word.  They have a camp every summer where the participants help out the nuns with work around the monastery.  

Actually there are a few of them organised each year (periodically or one time) in different places. The Grabarka one is the most known and popular.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Νεκτάριος on May 10, 2012, 05:18:55 AM
It is hard to say it in English with just a single word.  They have a camp every summer where the participants help out the nuns with work around the monastery.   

Actually there are a few of them organised each year (periodically or one time) in different places. The Grabarka one is the most known and popular.

Cool.  I enjoyed looking through the pictures.  Next time I visit Poland, I really have to make it more of a point to see some of the Orthodox culture there.  My last trip was devoted to seeing drunken English stag weekenders / Krakow and sorting out visa issues at the Ukrainian consulate.  And my relatives keep complaining that I live so close and never visit...sigh a week with relatives in Ostrowiec Świętokrzyski isn't exactly my dream vacation. 
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: mike on May 10, 2012, 05:22:29 AM
Kraków has a nice Church with a friendly priest in a tenement house at the Old Town (5 minutes walk from Sukiennice).
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Νεκτάριος on May 10, 2012, 05:25:01 AM
Thanks for the info.  Now can you make it easier for Ukrainian citizens to get a Polish visa :)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: mike on May 10, 2012, 05:32:33 AM
I could issue for you a visa invitation if you don't have any option to get one :)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Νεκτάριος on May 10, 2012, 05:42:29 AM
I hadn't even thought of going the personal invitation route.   I'll have to look into this.  Between my US passport and my wife's Ukrainian passport, the only neighboring country we can both visit without a visa is Moldova.  It is a nice place to visit, but we've already been there plenty of times.   
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shiny on May 10, 2012, 06:42:35 AM
Send me a PM
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Αριστοκλής on May 10, 2012, 07:33:55 AM
So, whatever happened to OrthodoxCircle social networking site?
I definitely picked up a 'let's get together' aspect on it, especially when such an old, staid (boring) married guy such as I began receiving unsolicited PM's there from single Orthodox ladies asking questions of a searching nature.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 10, 2012, 09:21:12 AM
There is an Orthodox Christian dating site and it is great if you are interested in scam artists.  Otherwise, probably not worth the effort.  (Not joking, I have met three wonderful ladies on there, all of them daughters of Nigerian generals looking for a safe bank account to store their fathers' millions in until the civil unrest cools down...)


Talking about scam artist, I tried Match.com and this Russian OC guy kept asking me if I was a US citizen! If I was, he was gonna marry me. lol
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 10, 2012, 09:22:10 AM
Send me a PM

Little too old for you ;)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 10, 2012, 10:16:24 AM
Church?

I never heard anyone OC say that he/she met his/her spouse at church. There is a great chance of meeting a future mate by becoming a Sunday school member, but I don’t want to join for the wrong reason. Wanna see if there are other options…

I met my wife at church.

-Nick


Did you meet her through your confessional father or are you an active member at your church?
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 10, 2012, 10:18:52 AM
This has got me thinking maybe I'll make an Orthodox Match Maker site where people can answer questions and what not and the staff can match them up. In the Jewish circles Match makers can make up to around 2,000 a match that leads to a marriage as most couples tip the match maker. So I guess I'm really asking if this would be something that the singles in the Orthodox would like to see leave me some feed back as I check around for a dome names

Good luck in finding enough OC to join your site :)

I’m a little curious…why you are here at a Christian site??
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 10, 2012, 10:29:02 AM
Send me a PM

Little too old for you ;)

Not for me!   ;)


Yeah, I'm not going to say anything good about Match.com...  It's where trolls go to reproduce.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ZealousZeal on May 10, 2012, 10:48:14 AM
This has got me thinking maybe I'll make an Orthodox Match Maker site where people can answer questions and what not and the staff can match them up. In the Jewish circles Match makers can make up to around 2,000 a match that leads to a marriage as most couples tip the match maker. So I guess I'm really asking if this would be something that the singles in the Orthodox would like to see leave me some feed back as I check around for a dome names

I don't have that much money, but I'd tip you a grand for a wife!

A grand you say? I'll do it for 800.  ;)

ETA: By which I mean I will bounty hunt one down for you. Intravenous coffee commencing.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 10, 2012, 10:51:51 AM
Send me a PM

Little too old for you ;)

Not for me!   ;)


Yeah, I'm not going to say anything good about Match.com...  It's where trolls go to reproduce.

Just did ;D
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 10, 2012, 10:54:03 AM
Where do good Christians meet?  :angel:

How do you look? The best way for a woman to find a man is to be pretty and in shape. (not obese)

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 10, 2012, 11:03:41 AM
This has got me thinking maybe I'll make an Orthodox Match Maker site where people can answer questions and what not and the staff can match them up. In the Jewish circles Match makers can make up to around 2,000 a match that leads to a marriage as most couples tip the match maker. So I guess I'm really asking if this would be something that the singles in the Orthodox would like to see leave me some feed back as I check around for a dome names

I don't have that much money, but I'd tip you a grand for a wife!

And I would throw in another grand or so . . . and maybe some cattle or alpacas.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 10, 2012, 11:18:39 AM
Where do good Christians meet?  :angel:

How do you look? The best way for a woman to find a man is to be pretty and in shape. (not obese)




lol. 5’2”, 110lb

You are right, but I’m fit and beautiful. I also don’t have a problem meeting men. It is just so hard finding the true OC and attractive guy.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 10, 2012, 12:14:30 PM
Where do good Christians meet?  :angel:

How do you look? The best way for a woman to find a man is to be pretty and in shape. (not obese)




lol. 5’2”, 110lb

You are right, but I’m fit and beautiful. I also don’t have a problem meeting men. It is just so hard finding the true OC and attractive guy.

Post a picture of your face. You can block out your eyes with a black bar if you want. Lots of women have nice figures, but that is not what keeps them off the cover of Vogue.

You also may wish to review this recent blog post and make sure it doesn't apply to you:
http://dalrock.wordpress.com/2012/05/05/women-should-reduce-their-expectations-of-courtship/
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Cognomen on May 10, 2012, 03:01:20 PM
Send me a PM

Little too old for you ;)

Not for me!   ;)

Or me, but I'm more conveniently located.  Your turn.

A grand you say? I'll do it for 800.  ;)

Is that a special Vamrat rate, or is it across the board?  Similarly, what ancillary rates apply?  My Orthodox matchmakers have been excellent in providing potential brides... who live across very large bodies of salty water.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 10, 2012, 03:10:03 PM
Where do good Christians meet?  :angel:

What are those?  Sorry, spent to much time on another thread.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: augustin717 on May 10, 2012, 03:21:16 PM
Where do good Christians meet?  :angel:
Only at akathists!
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: NicholasMyra on May 10, 2012, 03:23:54 PM
Where do good Christians meet?  :angel:
Only at akathists!
And monastic retreats or pilgrimages.  :angel:
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: HabteSelassie on May 10, 2012, 03:31:42 PM
Greetings in that Divine and Most Precious Name of Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ!
Where do good Christians meet?  :angel:

(http://www.corbisimages.com/images/Corbis-QU002914.jpg?size=67&uid=28341c2d-9b9a-430a-96b8-2803b19858bb)

stay blessed,
habte selassie
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ZealousZeal on May 10, 2012, 03:34:04 PM
A grand you say? I'll do it for 800.  ;)

Is that a special Vamrat rate, or is it across the board?  Similarly, what ancillary rates apply?  My Orthodox matchmakers have been excellent in providing potential brides... who live across very large bodies of salty water.

Across the board. (Vamrat may receive a discount provided he receives another vision from the Great Platypus.)

No ancillary rates as long as you don't mind your future bride being an Ohioan (or New Yorker, as I travel there frequently). If you want more local prospects, a negotiable fee may be charged to compensate my trouble.

I also accept payment in the form of Red Bull and/or Starbucks.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 10, 2012, 03:38:38 PM
Or me, but I'm more conveniently located.  Your turn.

lol
call me when you convert  ;)

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 10, 2012, 03:47:37 PM
A grand you say? I'll do it for 800.  ;)

Is that a special Vamrat rate, or is it across the board?  Similarly, what ancillary rates apply?  My Orthodox matchmakers have been excellent in providing potential brides... who live across very large bodies of salty water.

Across the board. (Vamrat may receive a discount provided he receives another vision from the Great Platypus.)

No ancillary rates as long as you don't mind your future bride being an Ohioan (or New Yorker, as I travel there frequently). If you want more local prospects, a negotiable fee may be charged to compensate my trouble.

I also accept payment in the form of Red Bull and/or Starbucks.

I am very tempted to abuse my position and say that the Great Platypus requires you to find me a wife...but that would be dishonest.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Cognomen on May 10, 2012, 03:58:14 PM
Or me, but I'm more conveniently located.  Your turn.

lol
call me when you convert  ;)

You falsely attributed my words to another man and demanded I convert in order to call you.  Our courtship doesn't seem to be going well.

I'll hope I can fix it by asking you out on a date to see a myrrh streaming icon.  Actually, I highly recommend that you visit it when it comes to town. Call me when you convert, and we'll let you in the Church  ;) I kid, I kid.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Melodist on May 10, 2012, 04:18:10 PM
Send me a PM
Little too old for you ;)

I'm going to ask one of the "unaskable" questions - How old is that?
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ZealousZeal on May 10, 2012, 04:23:56 PM
A grand you say? I'll do it for 800.  ;)

Is that a special Vamrat rate, or is it across the board?  Similarly, what ancillary rates apply?  My Orthodox matchmakers have been excellent in providing potential brides... who live across very large bodies of salty water.

Across the board. (Vamrat may receive a discount provided he receives another vision from the Great Platypus.)

No ancillary rates as long as you don't mind your future bride being an Ohioan (or New Yorker, as I travel there frequently). If you want more local prospects, a negotiable fee may be charged to compensate my trouble.

I also accept payment in the form of Red Bull and/or Starbucks.

I am very tempted to abuse my position and say that the Great Platypus requires you to find me a wife...but that would be dishonest.

Your honesty is a shining example of why a worthier messenger could not be found. The Great Platypus knows best!

In regards to matchmaking, I'm batting 1.000. I've only ever set up one couple, but they are now married with 2 kids.   ;D
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 10, 2012, 07:38:37 PM
Send me a PM
Little too old for you ;)

I'm going to ask one of the "unaskable" questions - How old is that?

2 years older than you ;)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 10, 2012, 07:45:34 PM
Or me, but I'm more conveniently located.  Your turn.

lol
call me when you convert  ;)

You falsely attributed my words to another man and demanded I convert in order to call you.  Our courtship doesn't seem to be going well.

I'll hope I can fix it by asking you out on a date to see a myrrh streaming icon.  Actually, I highly recommend that you visit it when it comes to town. Call me when you convert, and we'll let you in the Church  ;) I kid, I kid.

 ;D where do you live? Perhaps going to see a weeping Icon would be a perfect date, but….
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Cognomen on May 10, 2012, 09:17:39 PM
Or me, but I'm more conveniently located.  Your turn.

lol
call me when you convert  ;)

You falsely attributed my words to another man and demanded I convert in order to call you.  Our courtship doesn't seem to be going well.

I'll hope I can fix it by asking you out on a date to see a myrrh streaming icon.  Actually, I highly recommend that you visit it when it comes to town. Call me when you convert, and we'll let you in the Church  ;) I kid, I kid.

 ;D where do you live? Perhaps going to see a weeping Icon would be a perfect date, but….

Just accept the Tome of St. Leo and maybe I'll tell you.  Otherwise, you'll never learn where my den of Chalcedonian iniquity in the 4th Rome is.  ;)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Melodist on May 10, 2012, 09:32:57 PM
Send me a PM
Little too old for you ;)
I'm going to ask one of the "unaskable" questions - How old is that?
2 years older than you ;)

I'll go with that.  ;)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shiny on May 10, 2012, 10:10:17 PM
Where do good Christians meet?  :angel:

How do you look? The best way for a woman to find a man is to be pretty and in shape. (not obese)




lol. 5’2”, 110lb

You are right, but I’m fit and beautiful. I also don’t have a problem meeting men. It is just so hard finding the true OC and attractive guy.

24 and 32, only 8 years. I like older women. Plus since I'm younger, more flexible, and have more energy..well I'll let you fill in the details.

5'2" and 110lbs? Send me a PM.

LOL ok I jest, but seriously if you are looking for an upstanding and righteous man look no further than amartin me.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 10, 2012, 10:44:52 PM
Where do good Christians meet?  :angel:

How do you look? The best way for a woman to find a man is to be pretty and in shape. (not obese)




lol. 5’2”, 110lb

You are right, but I’m fit and beautiful. I also don’t have a problem meeting men. It is just so hard finding the true OC and attractive guy.

24 and 32, only 8 years. I like older women. Plus since I'm younger, more flexible, and have more energy..well I'll let you fill in the details.

5'2" and 110lbs? Send me a PM.

LOL ok I jest, but seriously if you are looking for an upstanding and righteous man look no further than amartin me.

Why cross out amartin's name?  He's clearly the most upstanding gentleman on this forum?  Only he knows the full spiritual benefits of ejaculation...
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shiny on May 10, 2012, 10:45:54 PM
Where do good Christians meet?  :angel:

How do you look? The best way for a woman to find a man is to be pretty and in shape. (not obese)




lol. 5’2”, 110lb

You are right, but I’m fit and beautiful. I also don’t have a problem meeting men. It is just so hard finding the true OC and attractive guy.

24 and 32, only 8 years. I like older women. Plus since I'm younger, more flexible, and have more energy..well I'll let you fill in the details.

5'2" and 110lbs? Send me a PM.

LOL ok I jest, but seriously if you are looking for an upstanding and righteous man look no further than amartin me.

Why cross out amartin's name?  He's clearly the most upstanding gentleman on this forum?  Only he knows the full spiritual benefits of ejaculation...
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 11, 2012, 09:35:50 AM
Or me, but I'm more conveniently located.  Your turn.

lol
call me when you convert  ;)

You falsely attributed my words to another man and demanded I convert in order to call you.  Our courtship doesn't seem to be going well.

I'll hope I can fix it by asking you out on a date to see a myrrh streaming icon.  Actually, I highly recommend that you visit it when it comes to town. Call me when you convert, and we'll let you in the Church  ;) I kid, I kid.

 ;D where do you live? Perhaps going to see a weeping Icon would be a perfect date, but….

Just accept the Tome of St. Leo and maybe I'll tell you.  Otherwise, you'll never learn where my den of Chalcedonian iniquity in the 4th Rome is.  ;)

…and Christ will return before we unite.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 11, 2012, 09:39:29 AM
24 and 32, only 8 years. I like older women. Plus since I'm younger, more flexible, and have more energy..well I'll let you fill in the details.

Like the energy, but that is not my #1 priority :)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 11, 2012, 09:41:08 AM
Send me a PM
Little too old for you ;)
I'm going to ask one of the "unaskable" questions - How old is that?
2 years older than you ;)

I'll go with that.  ;)

ok. I'm sure you won't become OOC.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Melodist on May 11, 2012, 11:29:35 AM
Send me a PM
Little too old for you ;)
I'm going to ask one of the "unaskable" questions - How old is that?
2 years older than you ;)
I'll go with that.  ;)
ok. I'm sure you won't become OOC.

Not in my plans, even though I did once meet someone who is Syriac Orthodox at the local Antiochian church.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Cognomen on May 11, 2012, 11:51:11 AM
Or me, but I'm more conveniently located.  Your turn.

lol
call me when you convert  ;)

You falsely attributed my words to another man and demanded I convert in order to call you.  Our courtship doesn't seem to be going well.

I'll hope I can fix it by asking you out on a date to see a myrrh streaming icon.  Actually, I highly recommend that you visit it when it comes to town. Call me when you convert, and we'll let you in the Church  ;) I kid, I kid.

 ;D where do you live? Perhaps going to see a weeping Icon would be a perfect date, but….

Just accept the Tome of St. Leo and maybe I'll tell you.  Otherwise, you'll never learn where my den of Chalcedonian iniquity in the 4th Rome is.  ;)

…and Christ will return before we unite.

So you're saying there's a chance...  :-*
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 11, 2012, 12:00:32 PM
Or me, but I'm more conveniently located.  Your turn.

lol
call me when you convert  ;)

You falsely attributed my words to another man and demanded I convert in order to call you.  Our courtship doesn't seem to be going well.

I'll hope I can fix it by asking you out on a date to see a myrrh streaming icon.  Actually, I highly recommend that you visit it when it comes to town. Call me when you convert, and we'll let you in the Church  ;) I kid, I kid.

 ;D where do you live? Perhaps going to see a weeping Icon would be a perfect date, but….

Just accept the Tome of St. Leo and maybe I'll tell you.  Otherwise, you'll never learn where my den of Chalcedonian iniquity in the 4th Rome is.  ;)

…and Christ will return before we unite.

So you're saying there's a chance...  :-*

Sure! ...When OO and EO become ONE!  :laugh:
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on May 11, 2012, 12:09:22 PM
I don't know what jurisdiction you are a part of Ergib, but with the Coptic Church gaining many members and opening new churches in places where there previously were no OO churches (Mexico, Bolivia, Fiji, etc.), I would think that it is probably better now than it has ever been. Not that you should travel all that way from wherever you are to find a husband, but the idea that you are limited to a few homogenous ethnic/cultural groups to choose from is rapidly becoming less and less true. Thank God...er...not that I would have any problem settling down with a nice Armenian girl or whatever, but it's nice to also see OO Britons, Euro-Americans, French, Mexicans, Nigerians, etc.

Yep. That's it. The Church. I meant it's nice to see the Church grow. Nothing to do with something as selfish as marriage prospects. :angel: 8)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 11, 2012, 12:41:01 PM
I don't know what jurisdiction you are a part of Ergib, but with the Coptic Church gaining many members and opening new churches in places where there previously were no OO churches (Mexico, Bolivia, Fiji, etc.), I would think that it is probably better now than it has ever been. Not that you should travel all that way from wherever you are to find a husband, but the idea that you are limited to a few homogenous ethnic/cultural groups to choose from is rapidly becoming less and less true. Thank God...er...not that I would have any problem settling down with a nice Armenian girl or whatever, but it's nice to also see OO Britons, Euro-Americans, French, Mexicans, Nigerians, etc.

Yep. That's it. The Church. I meant it's nice to see the Church grow. Nothing to do with something as selfish as marriage prospects. :angel: 8)

I'm happy that OOC are opening more churches so that some of us can stop going to EO churches  :) j/k

My problem is not finding/meeting OC men. I need a devoted OOC man who understands and actually practices our precious faith.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Melodist on May 11, 2012, 04:24:09 PM
I need a devoted OOC man

 :'(
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 11, 2012, 04:36:13 PM
I need a devoted OOC man

 :'(

Anytime you need a shoulder to cry on...
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 11, 2012, 08:51:24 PM
I need a devoted OOC man

 :'(

lol if it makes you feel any better, I meant to say devout not devoted.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Aindriú on May 11, 2012, 09:39:40 PM
Did anyone ever post any pics? It seems only... required
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shiny on May 11, 2012, 10:51:17 PM
Did anyone ever post any pics? It seems only... required

If she is like Isa's 10 woman, then yes pics are absolutley required. If not, it's a bannable offense lol
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on May 11, 2012, 11:00:39 PM
Huh. I wonder if this thread is in any way representative of what Ergib (and other Orthodox women) have to deal with in trying to find a husband?

(http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m0aoihlpht1rnfmxko1_400.jpg)
What's that? A single woman is on the internet?
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Cognomen on May 11, 2012, 11:46:18 PM
I wonder if this thread is in any way representative of what Ergib (and other Orthodox women) have to deal with in trying to find a husband?
(http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m0aoihlpht1rnfmxko1_400.jpg)

Chalcedonian Zombies, huh?

Racists, the lot of you.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Cognomen on May 11, 2012, 11:48:37 PM
I need a devoted OOC man
:'(
lol if it makes you feel any better, I meant to say devout not devoted.

Did you also mean to write EOC rather than OOC?

It matters not, I've converted; you're persuasive.  See:
<-----
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on May 11, 2012, 11:51:04 PM
I wonder if this thread is in any way representative of what Ergib (and other Orthodox women) have to deal with in trying to find a husband?
(http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m0aoihlpht1rnfmxko1_400.jpg)

Chalcedonian Zombies, huh?

Racists, the lot of you.

 ??? I don't understand what just happened.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Cognomen on May 11, 2012, 11:54:59 PM
Chalcedonian Zombies, huh?

Racists, the lot of you.

 ??? I don't understand what just happened.

First, I (jokingly) inferred that you compared the attention from EO's towards Ms. Ergib to attention from zombies.

Then I threw out an unfounded and all-encompassing accusation of racism, which I'm prone to do.

Then, I converted for love.

Then, I edited this message in a failed attempt to have it make more sense and add information
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on May 11, 2012, 11:58:00 PM
I can't see that sequence of events going anything but right.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 12, 2012, 05:11:11 PM
Did anyone ever post any pics? It seems only... required

If she is like Isa's 10 woman, then yes pics are absolutley required. If not, it's a bannable offense lol

Lol
I will leave my avatar image up for a day or two for you all to judge  ;)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Luke on May 12, 2012, 05:15:33 PM
Remember that while you are searching for the right person, you need to be the right person.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: witega on May 12, 2012, 05:15:50 PM
Did anyone ever post any pics? It seems only... required

If she is like Isa's 10 woman, then yes pics are absolutley required. If not, it's a bannable offense lol

Lol
I will leave my avatar image up for a day or two for you all to judge  ;)

And you thought the zombie attack was bad before...
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 12, 2012, 05:23:20 PM
I need a devoted OOC man
:'(
lol if it makes you feel any better, I meant to say devout not devoted.

Did you also mean to write EOC rather than OOC?

It matters not, I've converted; you're persuasive.  See:
<-----
I sometimes use "EOC", but "E" doesn't stand for "Easter" :)
Halleluia, Cognomen converted OOC only to marry me! Lol Can’t believe we are using the word “converted” between two OC ppl!


Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 12, 2012, 05:27:22 PM
Remember that while you are searching for the right person, you need to be the right person.

ok
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 12, 2012, 05:28:06 PM
Did anyone ever post any pics? It seems only... required

If she is like Isa's 10 woman, then yes pics are absolutley required. If not, it's a bannable offense lol

Lol
I will leave my avatar image up for a day or two for you all to judge  ;)

And you thought the zombie attack was bad before...
:)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 12, 2012, 07:12:11 PM
Did anyone ever post any pics? It seems only... required

If she is like Isa's 10 woman, then yes pics are absolutley required. If not, it's a bannable offense lol

Lol
I will leave my avatar image up for a day or two for you all to judge  ;)

And my verdict is . . . Beautifull!
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shiny on May 12, 2012, 07:16:25 PM
Remember that while you are searching for the right person, you need to be the right person.
I think you said the same thing a year ago. I thank you very much for it. It has become a sort of mantra for me the past year, and something I will probably take to the grave with me. That kind of a statement helps reinforce being the right person and getting better.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on May 12, 2012, 07:36:41 PM
Quote
I will leave my avatar image up for a day or two for you all to judge  ;)

Wow. አንቺ ቆንጆ! (Yes, I looked that up in a dictionary...and it was well worth the time.)

May God bless you with the Orthodox spouse you seek. I'd say God bless him too, but that would be redundant. ;)


Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ZealousZeal on May 12, 2012, 08:10:34 PM
Did anyone ever post any pics? It seems only... required

If she is like Isa's 10 woman, then yes pics are absolutley required. If not, it's a bannable offense lol

Lol
I will leave my avatar image up for a day or two for you all to judge  ;)

And you thought the zombie attack was bad before...

+1   :D

I'd wish you luck finding a husband, Ergib, but now that I've seen your avatar I don't think you'll need it.  ;)

Welcome to the boards, btw!
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: jewish voice on May 12, 2012, 09:11:16 PM
Did anyone ever post any pics? It seems only... required

If she is like Isa's 10 woman, then yes pics are absolutley required. If not, it's a bannable offense lol

Lol
I will leave my avatar image up for a day or two for you all to judge  ;)

And you thought the zombie attack was bad before...

+1   :D

I'd wish you luck finding a husband, Ergib, but now that I've seen your avatar I don't think you'll need it.  ;)

Welcome to the boards, btw!
your are 100 % right Zealous and I'll say if I ever put a pic of me up here the whole board would be a ghost town from being scared  ;D
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ZealousZeal on May 12, 2012, 09:55:33 PM
Did anyone ever post any pics? It seems only... required

If she is like Isa's 10 woman, then yes pics are absolutley required. If not, it's a bannable offense lol

Lol
I will leave my avatar image up for a day or two for you all to judge  ;)

And you thought the zombie attack was bad before...

+1   :D

I'd wish you luck finding a husband, Ergib, but now that I've seen your avatar I don't think you'll need it.  ;)

Welcome to the boards, btw!
your are 100 % right Zealous and I'll say if I ever put a pic of me up here the whole board would be a ghost town from being scared  ;D

Why do you think I'm running around as an alpaca?  ;) I kid. You should definitely post your picture in the "what's everyone look like" thread. I think everyone is probably harder on themselves than other people are.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Hiwot on May 12, 2012, 10:13:00 PM
Did anyone ever post any pics? It seems only... required

If she is like Isa's 10 woman, then yes pics are absolutely required. If not, it's a bannable offense lol

Lol
I will leave my avatar image up for a day or two for you all to judge  ;)

Exquisite is what you are, rose of the Nile!  :) God bless your quest, for indeed it is true, what good is it for man to gain the whole world and lose his soul, you did well when you decided to live a life of obedience to God. May He guide you, and may His Name be glorified by your life ,for generations!

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Cognomen on May 13, 2012, 06:20:56 PM
...Can’t believe we are using the word “converted” between two OC ppl!

Well, you started it!

Awwww, our first fight as a betrothed couple.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shiny on May 13, 2012, 06:30:33 PM
...Can’t believe we are using the word “converted” between two OC ppl!

Well, you started it!

Awwww, our first fight as a betrothed couple.
Should I get the divorce papers ready in a few months?
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: mike on May 14, 2012, 03:54:01 AM
My verdict is: "Too much make up, madame". If I moved across the Ocean and we started going out you should know I like girls with all the pimples, freckles, moles, etc. You girls look more like real people then (and they are cute).
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ialmisry on May 14, 2012, 08:48:36 AM
My verdict is: "Too much make up, madame". If I moved across the Ocean and we started going out you should know I like girls with all the pimples, freckles, moles, etc. You girls look more like real people then (and they are cute).
LOL.  I'm just looking at your words, Michał, and your avatar picture.  What girl could turn down a date with the grim reaper.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 14, 2012, 06:33:23 PM
Quote
I will leave my avatar image up for a day or two for you all to judge  ;)

Wow. አንቺ ቆንጆ! (Yes, I looked that up in a dictionary...and it was well worth the time.)

May God bless you with the Orthodox spouse you seek. I'd say God bless him too, but that would be redundant. ;)



አመስግናለሁ (Amesegenalehu/Thank you)  ;D
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 14, 2012, 06:35:42 PM
Did anyone ever post any pics? It seems only... required

If she is like Isa's 10 woman, then yes pics are absolutley required. If not, it's a bannable offense lol

Lol
I will leave my avatar image up for a day or two for you all to judge  ;)

And my verdict is . . . Beautifull!
Thanks  :)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 14, 2012, 06:37:48 PM
Did anyone ever post any pics? It seems only... required

If she is like Isa's 10 woman, then yes pics are absolutley required. If not, it's a bannable offense lol

Lol
I will leave my avatar image up for a day or two for you all to judge  ;)

And you thought the zombie attack was bad before...

+1   :D

I'd wish you luck finding a husband, Ergib, but now that I've seen your avatar I don't think you'll need it.  ;)

Welcome to the boards, btw!
Thanks  :)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 14, 2012, 06:39:51 PM
Did anyone ever post any pics? It seems only... required

If she is like Isa's 10 woman, then yes pics are absolutley required. If not, it's a bannable offense lol
doubt that! ...lets see  :)

Lol
I will leave my avatar image up for a day or two for you all to judge  ;)

And you thought the zombie attack was bad before...

+1   :D

I'd wish you luck finding a husband, Ergib, but now that I've seen your avatar I don't think you'll need it.  ;)

Welcome to the boards, btw!
your are 100 % right Zealous and I'll say if I ever put a pic of me up here the whole board would be a ghost town from being scared  ;D
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 14, 2012, 06:52:44 PM
Did anyone ever post any pics? It seems only... required

If she is like Isa's 10 woman, then yes pics are absolutely required. If not, it's a bannable offense lol

Lol
I will leave my avatar image up for a day or two for you all to judge  ;)

Exquisite is what you are, rose of the Nile!  :) God bless your quest, for indeed it is true, what good is it for man to gain the whole world and lose his soul, you did well when you decided to live a life of obedience to God. May He guide you, and may His Name be glorified by your life ,for generations!


Wow, thanks sister Hiwot!  Amen.
I take Mark 8:36 to heart…that’s why I’ve been single for awhile searching for a God fearing OOC man :)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 14, 2012, 06:56:40 PM
...Can’t believe we are using the word “converted” between two OC ppl!

Well, you started it!

Awwww, our first fight as a betrothed couple.
Should I get the divorce papers ready in a few months?
It’s already over!  :) He converted back to OCC.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 14, 2012, 06:59:33 PM
My verdict is: "Too much make up, madame". If I moved across the Ocean and we started going out you should know I like girls with all the pimples, freckles, moles, etc. You girls look more like real people then (and they are cute).
Lol
That’s a 1st! I do not wear makeup except lipstick. Most men don’t like lipstick and I’m assuming you are one of them :D
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 15, 2012, 10:45:09 AM
My verdict is: "Too much make up, madame". If I moved across the Ocean and we started going out you should know I like girls with all the pimples, freckles, moles, etc. You girls look more like real people then (and they are cute).
Lol
That’s a 1st! I do not wear makeup except lipstick. Most men don’t like lipstick and I’m assuming you are one of them :D


I saw your avatar when it was you. I give you a 7, so you have a good chance of getting a 6-8 man, which is pretty good.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 15, 2012, 10:58:47 AM
My verdict is: "Too much make up, madame". If I moved across the Ocean and we started going out you should know I like girls with all the pimples, freckles, moles, etc. You girls look more like real people then (and they are cute).
Lol
That’s a 1st! I do not wear makeup except lipstick. Most men don’t like lipstick and I’m assuming you are one of them :D

I saw your avatar when it was you. I give you a 7, so you have a good chance of getting a 6-8 man, which is pretty good.

Thanks. I would’ve liked an 8 or 9 better, but I can deal with a “7” too  :) Did race play any role in your decision making? *this question has nothing to do with being racism only preference*
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Aindriú on May 15, 2012, 12:43:32 PM
I would have said an 8, and that's considering I typically gravitate to white women.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 15, 2012, 01:55:22 PM
I have a hard time rating from a photo (not to mention that I think doing so is somewhat degrading), because expression and the "inner beauty" have such a high value to me.  I also like to rate the "whole woman".  One thing that I have noticed is that I can see a photo of a woman in a certain dress with a certain look on her face and think that she is a near perfect 10, and then see the same model in a different pose and with different clothing and have her appear no more than a 5 or 6.  However, I find that when I know the person, what ever rating I may give, taking into account their personality and all, tends to be more stable.

 
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Aindriú on May 15, 2012, 04:00:28 PM
I have a hard time rating from a photo (not to mention that I think doing so is somewhat degrading), because expression and the "inner beauty" have such a high value to me.  I also like to rate the "whole woman".  One thing that I have noticed is that I can see a photo of a woman in a certain dress with a certain look on her face and think that she is a near perfect 10, and then see the same model in a different pose and with different clothing and have her appear no more than a 5 or 6.  However, I find that when I know the person, what ever rating I may give, taking into account their personality and all, tends to be more stable.

 

You're making this less fun.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: orthonorm on May 15, 2012, 04:29:40 PM
How many replies and views would a "looking for a wife" thread get?

Many of the men here are schizophrenic like most when it comes to women.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 15, 2012, 04:46:05 PM
My verdict is: "Too much make up, madame". If I moved across the Ocean and we started going out you should know I like girls with all the pimples, freckles, moles, etc. You girls look more like real people then (and they are cute).
Lol
That’s a 1st! I do not wear makeup except lipstick. Most men don’t like lipstick and I’m assuming you are one of them :D

I saw your avatar when it was you. I give you a 7, so you have a good chance of getting a 6-8 man, which is pretty good.

Thanks. I would’ve liked an 8 or 9 better, but I can deal with a “7” too  :) Did race play any role in your decision making? *this question has nothing to do with being racism only preference*


Race had nothing to do with your rating, although I note that you haven't the slightest idea what my race is, so we could be the same ethnicity for all you know. I would also remark that one has no duty to be attracted equally to all ethnicities.

A 7 is pretty good, so you should be happy with that. Please keep in mind that this is a bell curve, not a linear scale.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 15, 2012, 04:49:54 PM
I would have said an 8, and that's considering I typically gravitate to white women.

That's fine. A point to keep in mind is that physical attractiveness is largely objective. While I think she's a 7 and you say 8, no one is going to think she's a 2.

Some people say there is such a thing as a 10, and others not. I lean towards the camp that there is no such thing as a 10. One can approach 10, but never reach it. It is asymptotic.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Aindriú on May 15, 2012, 04:56:28 PM
How many replies and views would a "looking for a wife" thread get?

Many of the men here are schizophrenic like most when it comes to women.

I'm not even sure I know what that means. I'm married though. I came here for well wishes and the usual lighthearted fun.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 15, 2012, 05:17:19 PM
I am often accused of over-analyzing things.  The accusation is usually not false.

I have a hard time rating from a photo (not to mention that I think doing so is somewhat degrading), because expression and the "inner beauty" have such a high value to me.  I also like to rate the "whole woman".  One thing that I have noticed is that I can see a photo of a woman in a certain dress with a certain look on her face and think that she is a near perfect 10, and then see the same model in a different pose and with different clothing and have her appear no more than a 5 or 6.  However, I find that when I know the person, what ever rating I may give, taking into account their personality and all, tends to be more stable.

 

You're making this less fun.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 15, 2012, 05:28:51 PM
My verdict is: "Too much make up, madame". If I moved across the Ocean and we started going out you should know I like girls with all the pimples, freckles, moles, etc. You girls look more like real people then (and they are cute).
Lol
That’s a 1st! I do not wear makeup except lipstick. Most men don’t like lipstick and I’m assuming you are one of them :D

I saw your avatar when it was you. I give you a 7, so you have a good chance of getting a 6-8 man, which is pretty good.

Thanks. I would’ve liked an 8 or 9 better, but I can deal with a “7” too  :) Did race play any role in your decision making? *this question has nothing to do with being racism only preference*


Race had nothing to do with your rating, although I note that you haven't the slightest idea what my race is, so we could be the same ethnicity for all you know. I would also remark that one has no duty to be attracted equally to all ethnicities.

A 7 is pretty good, so you should be happy with that. Please keep in mind that this is a bell curve, not a linear scale.



FWIW, it doesn't really matter if she knows what race you are, preferences are not always depended upon the race of the one with the preference.  A number of non-Caucasian ethnicities frequently rate higher on my scale, despite my race.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 15, 2012, 05:33:12 PM

FWIW, it doesn't really matter if she knows what race you are, preferences are not always depended upon the race of the one with the preference.  A number of non-Caucasian ethnicities frequently rate higher on my scale, despite my race.

The race that I am most partial to is female.  Wait . . . that is not a race, is it?  OK, then how about red-heads?
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Aindriú on May 15, 2012, 05:36:00 PM

FWIW, it doesn't really matter if she knows what race you are, preferences are not always depended upon the race of the one with the preference.  A number of non-Caucasian ethnicities frequently rate higher on my scale, despite my race.

The race that I am most partial to is female.  Wait . . . that is not a race, is it?  OK, then how about red-heads?

LOL, red heads ARE a race.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: TheMathematician on May 15, 2012, 05:46:52 PM

FWIW, it doesn't really matter if she knows what race you are, preferences are not always depended upon the race of the one with the preference.  A number of non-Caucasian ethnicities frequently rate higher on my scale, despite my race.

The race that I am most partial to is female.  Wait . . . that is not a race, is it?  OK, then how about red-heads?

LOL, red heads ARE a race.
impossible. in order for them to be a race, they would first have to be human





:P
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 15, 2012, 05:48:46 PM

The race that I am most partial to is female.  Wait . . . that is not a race, is it?  OK, then how about red-heads?

LOL, red heads ARE a race.
impossible. in order for them to be a race, they would first have to be human

:P


That is true.  They are superhuman.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: TheMathematician on May 15, 2012, 05:52:19 PM

The race that I am most partial to is female.  Wait . . . that is not a race, is it?  OK, then how about red-heads?

LOL, red heads ARE a race.
impossible. in order for them to be a race, they would first have to be human

:P


That is true.  They are superhuman.

you misspelled subhuman :P
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Aindriú on May 15, 2012, 05:56:31 PM
LMAO
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on May 15, 2012, 06:03:14 PM
LMAO

And you misspelled

(http://media2.inktastic.com/thumbnails/68347.png)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 15, 2012, 06:06:05 PM
My verdict is: "Too much make up, madame". If I moved across the Ocean and we started going out you should know I like girls with all the pimples, freckles, moles, etc. You girls look more like real people then (and they are cute).
Lol
That’s a 1st! I do not wear makeup except lipstick. Most men don’t like lipstick and I’m assuming you are one of them :D

I saw your avatar when it was you. I give you a 7, so you have a good chance of getting a 6-8 man, which is pretty good.

Thanks. I would’ve liked an 8 or 9 better, but I can deal with a “7” too  :) Did race play any role in your decision making? *this question has nothing to do with being racism only preference*


Race had nothing to do with your rating, although I note that you haven't the slightest idea what my race is, so we could be the same ethnicity for all you know. I would also remark that one has no duty to be attracted equally to all ethnicities.

A 7 is pretty good, so you should be happy with that. Please keep in mind that this is a bell curve, not a linear scale.



FWIW, it doesn't really matter if she knows what race you are, preferences are not always depended upon the race of the one with the preference.  A number of non-Caucasian ethnicities frequently rate higher on my scale, despite my race.

I have made whoopie with white, oriental, and black, so I have it all covered. Except for redhead.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ZealousZeal on May 15, 2012, 06:18:48 PM
My verdict is: "Too much make up, madame". If I moved across the Ocean and we started going out you should know I like girls with all the pimples, freckles, moles, etc. You girls look more like real people then (and they are cute).
Lol
That’s a 1st! I do not wear makeup except lipstick. Most men don’t like lipstick and I’m assuming you are one of them :D

I saw your avatar when it was you. I give you a 7, so you have a good chance of getting a 6-8 man, which is pretty good.

Thanks. I would’ve liked an 8 or 9 better, but I can deal with a “7” too  :) Did race play any role in your decision making? *this question has nothing to do with being racism only preference*


Race had nothing to do with your rating, although I note that you haven't the slightest idea what my race is, so we could be the same ethnicity for all you know. I would also remark that one has no duty to be attracted equally to all ethnicities.

A 7 is pretty good, so you should be happy with that. Please keep in mind that this is a bell curve, not a linear scale.



FWIW, it doesn't really matter if she knows what race you are, preferences are not always depended upon the race of the one with the preference.  A number of non-Caucasian ethnicities frequently rate higher on my scale, despite my race.

I have made whoopie with white, oriental, and black, so I have it all covered. Except for redhead.



(http://i1079.photobucket.com/albums/w519/VasaRecta/97b38ed6.jpg)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on May 15, 2012, 06:21:18 PM
Hahaha. I was thinking the same thing, ZZ...
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ZealousZeal on May 15, 2012, 07:41:04 PM
Hahaha. I was thinking the same thing, ZZ...

Great minds...
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 15, 2012, 07:54:08 PM
Hahaha. I was thinking the same thing, ZZ...

I use that terminology to keep things safe for our viewing audience.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 15, 2012, 08:52:52 PM
My verdict is: "Too much make up, madame". If I moved across the Ocean and we started going out you should know I like girls with all the pimples, freckles, moles, etc. You girls look more like real people then (and they are cute).
Lol
That’s a 1st! I do not wear makeup except lipstick. Most men don’t like lipstick and I’m assuming you are one of them :D

I saw your avatar when it was you. I give you a 7, so you have a good chance of getting a 6-8 man, which is pretty good.

Thanks. I would’ve liked an 8 or 9 better, but I can deal with a “7” too  :) Did race play any role in your decision making? *this question has nothing to do with being racism only preference*


Race had nothing to do with your rating, although I note that you haven't the slightest idea what my race is, so we could be the same ethnicity for all you know. I would also remark that one has no duty to be attracted equally to all ethnicities.

A 7 is pretty good, so you should be happy with that. Please keep in mind that this is a bell curve, not a linear scale.



FWIW, it doesn't really matter if she knows what race you are, preferences are not always depended upon the race of the one with the preference.  A number of non-Caucasian ethnicities frequently rate higher on my scale, despite my race.

I have made whoopie with white, oriental, and black, so I have it all covered. Except for redhead.



There you are pumping yourself up once again.  While one has no duty to appreciate all races, Sauron does it out of the goodness of his heart!   ;)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 15, 2012, 08:53:24 PM
LMAO

And you misspelled

(http://media2.inktastic.com/thumbnails/68347.png)

I thought it was Ho Chi Minh who went to school in France?
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on May 15, 2012, 09:08:35 PM
Yeah, but I couldn't find a gif of that. :(
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 16, 2012, 02:20:18 PM
My verdict is: "Too much make up, madame". If I moved across the Ocean and we started going out you should know I like girls with all the pimples, freckles, moles, etc. You girls look more like real people then (and they are cute).
Lol
That’s a 1st! I do not wear makeup except lipstick. Most men don’t like lipstick and I’m assuming you are one of them :D

I saw your avatar when it was you. I give you a 7, so you have a good chance of getting a 6-8 man, which is pretty good.

Thanks. I would’ve liked an 8 or 9 better, but I can deal with a “7” too  :) Did race play any role in your decision making? *this question has nothing to do with being racism only preference*


Race had nothing to do with your rating, although I note that you haven't the slightest idea what my race is, so we could be the same ethnicity for all you know. I would also remark that one has no duty to be attracted equally to all ethnicities.

A 7 is pretty good, so you should be happy with that. Please keep in mind that this is a bell curve, not a linear scale.



FWIW, it doesn't really matter if she knows what race you are, preferences are not always depended upon the race of the one with the preference.  A number of non-Caucasian ethnicities frequently rate higher on my scale,.


Thanks, J. :)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 16, 2012, 03:10:35 PM
My verdict is: "Too much make up, madame". If I moved across the Ocean and we started going out you should know I like girls with all the pimples, freckles, moles, etc. You girls look more like real people then (and they are cute).
Lol
That’s a 1st! I do not wear makeup except lipstick. Most men don’t like lipstick and I’m assuming you are one of them :D

I saw your avatar when it was you. I give you a 7, so you have a good chance of getting a 6-8 man, which is pretty good.

Thanks. I would’ve liked an 8 or 9 better, but I can deal with a “7” too  :) Did race play any role in your decision making? *this question has nothing to do with being racism only preference*


Race had nothing to do with your rating, although I note that you haven't the slightest idea what my race is, so we could be the same ethnicity for all you know. I would also remark that one has no duty to be attracted equally to all ethnicities.

A 7 is pretty good, so you should be happy with that. Please keep in mind that this is a bell curve, not a linear scale.



FWIW, it doesn't really matter if she knows what race you are, preferences are not always depended upon the race of the one with the preference.  A number of non-Caucasian ethnicities frequently rate higher on my scale,.


Thanks, J. :)

No prob, E.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ZealousZeal on May 16, 2012, 03:31:23 PM
J?  ???
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on May 16, 2012, 03:32:30 PM
You called, ZZ...? ;D

(This is fun!)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ZealousZeal on May 16, 2012, 03:34:19 PM
You called, ZZ...? ;D

(This is fun!)

You're a J, DZ? I'm an A, but I like ZZ just fine.  :D
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on May 16, 2012, 03:44:51 PM
Yes, I am a J, A. DZH is an orthographic concern (DZ would make me Polish, though it's a common enough interpretation, since English is not big on digraphs...or is it? :)), though I'll answer to just about anything that approximates DZH, J, etc. Glad to know you'll go by ZZ, as A is not too hard to remember, but it might get confusing around here if we start treating our usernames as decoder rings for anything other than having fun with initialisms, YKWIM?
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 16, 2012, 03:47:27 PM
Yes, I am a J, A. DZH is an orthographic concern (DZ would make me Polish, though it's a common enough interpretation, since English is not big on digraphs...or is it? :)), though I'll answer to just about anything that approximates DZH, J, etc. Glad to know you'll go by ZZ, as A is not too hard to remember, but it might get confusing around here if we start treating our usernames as decoder rings for anything other than having fun with initialisms, YKWIM?

I have an idear as to what your name is supposing I am pronouncing dzheremi correctly.  I did in fact LOL the first time I noticed this.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on May 16, 2012, 03:54:21 PM
It's not a big secret or anything. I just chose this out of habit, as it is the name I posted under on Catholic Answers Forum before I came here, since they have so many people there that my name was already taken. I figured they probably didn't have too many East Slavic speakers there, and at the time I still spoke Russian relatively fluently (can't say I do so now, sadly), so it seemed a natural fit. Here it seems almost useless, but oh well...teper' uzhe pozdno...  ::)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ZealousZeal on May 16, 2012, 03:57:05 PM
Yes, I am a J, A. DZH is an orthographic concern (DZ would make me Polish, though it's a common enough interpretation, since English is not big on digraphs...or is it? :)), though I'll answer to just about anything that approximates DZH, J, etc. Glad to know you'll go by ZZ, as A is not too hard to remember, but it might get confusing around here if we start treating our usernames as decoder rings for anything other than having fun with initialisms, YKWIM?

I have an idear as to what your name is supposing I am pronouncing dzheremi correctly.  I did in fact LOL the first time I noticed this.

This is getting really intense!
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ZealousZeal on May 16, 2012, 03:58:46 PM
It's not a big secret or anything. I just chose this out of habit, as it is the name I posted under on Catholic Answers Forum before I came here, since they have so many people there that my name was already taken. I figured they probably didn't have too many East Slavic speakers there, and at the time I still spoke Russian relatively fluently (can't say I do so now, sadly), so it seemed a natural fit. Here it seems almost useless, but oh well...teper' uzhe pozdno...  ::)

I'm glad you kept the same username, DZH. I was on CAF (lurktastically) before I came here and I was all, "Hey, I know him!"  ;D
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on May 16, 2012, 04:08:08 PM
Ruh-roh...now I'm in trouble. :angel:

Back to finding Ergib a husband, eh...!  ;)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 16, 2012, 04:15:38 PM

Back to finding Ergib a husband, eh...!  ;)

Yes, please do focus! lol
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 17, 2012, 02:39:19 PM
In searching for OO husband, I  found copticmatch.com ;D
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on May 17, 2012, 02:42:50 PM
Hahaha. I asked a Coptic priest about that site once and he said "I've never heard of it, but stay away from it. The Church is not a dating service, so I can't imagine that it is blessed by any bishop."

Even the church is against me! :D (Seriously, though, the priest's words are something to think about.)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 17, 2012, 03:00:18 PM
Hahaha. I asked a Coptic priest about that site once and he said "I've never heard of it, but stay away from it. The Church is not a dating service, so I can't imagine that it is blessed by any bishop."

Even the church is against me! :D (Seriously, though, the priest's words are something to think about.)

 :'( I was so excited when I found the site. I guess I will just have my Spiritual father find me an old man! :'( :'(
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on May 17, 2012, 03:25:20 PM
Aw. Well, I meant that you should ask your spiritual father about the site (and show it to him, if he doesn't know it) before becoming too excited or signing up, but okay. It's better to follow your spiritual father's advice in this search anyway. And do not despair! God gave a child to Sarah, no doubt he can give a husband to a good woman such as yourself! :)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 17, 2012, 05:25:37 PM
Honestly, I would not worry about it.  "The Church is not a dating service" is a particularly stupid way to answer this since it is not the Church providing the dating service.  What is next, am I going to need a Bishop's blessing or have to run to a "spiritual father" to write an email to someone?  Things here are taken to the point of ridiculousness.  Check it out, meet some people, and THEN if you think that you have to get a blessing from someone (and that may well be appropriate at that point) then do so.  I think that you have a good point of view there, Ergib, and it is one that I told my son.  If the priest is NOT going to find you a husband, then he should pretty well stay out of your business as you go about finding one.  The quote that comes to mind is this: "But He said: Woe to you lawyers also, because you load men with burdens which they cannot bear, and you yourselves touch not the packs with one of your fingers."

Hahaha. I asked a Coptic priest about that site once and he said "I've never heard of it, but stay away from it. The Church is not a dating service, so I can't imagine that it is blessed by any bishop."

Even the church is against me! :D (Seriously, though, the priest's words are something to think about.)

 :'( I was so excited when I found the site. I guess I will just have my Spiritual father find me an old man! :'( :'(

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 17, 2012, 05:25:54 PM
Aw. Well, I meant that you should ask your spiritual father about the site (and show it to him, if he doesn't know it) before becoming too excited or signing up, but okay. It's better to follow your spiritual father's advice in this search anyway. And do not despair! God gave a child to Sarah, no doubt he can give a husband to a good woman such as yourself! :)

I don't know if I should have chicken or pork for dinner tonight and my spiritual father still hasn't replied to my email even though it's 5:30. Should I just pick one and hope it is right or go without dinner to be safe?

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ZealousZeal on May 17, 2012, 06:03:38 PM
(http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lknzedudKq1qdzhjt.gif)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 17, 2012, 07:49:15 PM
(http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lknzedudKq1qdzhjt.gif)

She is so sexy when she is disgusted (and any other time).
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ZealousZeal on May 17, 2012, 07:56:54 PM
She cracks me up. I am a huge 30 Rock fan.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Luke on May 17, 2012, 08:18:23 PM
She cracks me up. I am a huge 30 Rock fan.
Banned for being a 30 Rock fan.  Oops, wrong thread. :-\
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ZealousZeal on May 17, 2012, 08:23:45 PM
She cracks me up. I am a huge 30 Rock fan.
Banned for being a 30 Rock fan.  Oops, wrong thread. :-\

What?! Ban you! That show is amazing.

I'm sorry, Ergib, haha.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 17, 2012, 08:36:32 PM
She cracks me up. I am a huge 30 Rock fan.
Banned for being a 30 Rock fan.  Oops, wrong thread. :-\

What?! Ban you! That show is amazing.

I'm sorry, Ergib, haha.

It's pretty unfunny. And, while this fad seems to have passed, I am tired of people trying to convince me that Tina Fey is a hot woman.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Asteriktos on May 17, 2012, 08:43:16 PM
And, while this fad seems to have passed, I am tired of people trying to convince me that Tina Fey is a hot woman.

This conclusively demonstrates that you have no idea what you are talking about when it comes to women, and thus you can no longer talk about the subject on this forum.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Aindriú on May 17, 2012, 08:48:36 PM
And, while this fad seems to have passed, I am tired of people trying to convince me that Tina Fey is a hot woman.

This conclusively demonstrates that you have no idea what you are talking about when it comes to women, and thus you can no longer talk about the subject on this forum.

crossthread points
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ZealousZeal on May 17, 2012, 08:59:36 PM
She cracks me up. I am a huge 30 Rock fan.
Banned for being a 30 Rock fan.  Oops, wrong thread. :-\

What?! Ban you! That show is amazing.

I'm sorry, Ergib, haha.

It's pretty unfunny. And, while this fad seems to have passed, I am tired of people trying to convince me that Tina Fey is a hot woman.



No accounting for taste I guess. ;)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ironchapman on May 17, 2012, 09:16:53 PM
Honestly, I would not worry about it.  "The Church is not a dating service" is a particularly stupid way to answer this since it is not the Church providing the dating service.  What is next, am I going to need a Bishop's blessing or have to run to a "spiritual father" to write an email to someone?  Things here are taken to the point of ridiculousness.  Check it out, meet some people, and THEN if you think that you have to get a blessing from someone (and that may well be appropriate at that point) then do so.  I think that you have a good point of view there, Ergib, and it is one that I told my son.  If the priest is NOT going to find you a husband, then he should pretty well stay out of your business as you go about finding one.  The quote that comes to mind is this: "But He said: Woe to you lawyers also, because you load men with burdens which they cannot bear, and you yourselves touch not the packs with one of your fingers."

Hahaha. I asked a Coptic priest about that site once and he said "I've never heard of it, but stay away from it. The Church is not a dating service, so I can't imagine that it is blessed by any bishop."

Even the church is against me! :D (Seriously, though, the priest's words are something to think about.)

 :'( I was so excited when I found the site. I guess I will just have my Spiritual father find me an old man! :'( :'(



Awaiting akimori makoto's response to that. :P

Though I must admit, I have found a couple of Orthodox dating sites out of curiosity.

I haven't joined them, though.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 17, 2012, 11:07:10 PM
She cracks me up. I am a huge 30 Rock fan.
Banned for being a 30 Rock fan.  Oops, wrong thread. :-\

What?! Ban you! That show is amazing.

I'm sorry, Ergib, haha.

It's pretty unfunny. And, while this fad seems to have passed, I am tired of people trying to convince me that Tina Fey is a hot woman.



I'm so sorry.  When did you first realize that you were gay?




 ;)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 17, 2012, 11:09:15 PM
Honestly, I would not worry about it.  "The Church is not a dating service" is a particularly stupid way to answer this since it is not the Church providing the dating service.  What is next, am I going to need a Bishop's blessing or have to run to a "spiritual father" to write an email to someone?  Things here are taken to the point of ridiculousness.  Check it out, meet some people, and THEN if you think that you have to get a blessing from someone (and that may well be appropriate at that point) then do so.  I think that you have a good point of view there, Ergib, and it is one that I told my son.  If the priest is NOT going to find you a husband, then he should pretty well stay out of your business as you go about finding one.  The quote that comes to mind is this: "But He said: Woe to you lawyers also, because you load men with burdens which they cannot bear, and you yourselves touch not the packs with one of your fingers."

Hahaha. I asked a Coptic priest about that site once and he said "I've never heard of it, but stay away from it. The Church is not a dating service, so I can't imagine that it is blessed by any bishop."

Even the church is against me! :D (Seriously, though, the priest's words are something to think about.)

 :'( I was so excited when I found the site. I guess I will just have my Spiritual father find me an old man! :'( :'(



Awaiting akimori makoto's response to that. :P

Though I must admit, I have found a couple of Orthodox dating sites out of curiosity.

I haven't joined them, though.

Don't worry.  I don't think that Jesus had Akimori or Sauron in mind when He said that.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Opus118 on May 18, 2012, 12:00:01 AM
Please keep in mind that this is a bell curve, not a linear scale.

Also keep in mind you are making some assumptions and have not provided the appropriate stipulations. Seems a bit surprising to me.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: NicholasMyra on May 18, 2012, 12:12:37 AM
Hahaha. I asked a Coptic priest about that site once and he said "I've never heard of it, but stay away from it."
Classic quote.  ;D
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 18, 2012, 12:16:20 AM
And, while this fad seems to have passed, I am tired of people trying to convince me that Tina Fey is a hot woman.

This conclusively demonstrates that you have no idea what you are talking about when it comes to women, and thus you can no longer talk about the subject on this forum.

Agreed, Sauron has lost his "rating babes" privileges.  He retains his "rating shows" privileges. 
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 18, 2012, 12:17:56 AM
Honestly, I would not worry about it.  "The Church is not a dating service" is a particularly stupid way to answer this since it is not the Church providing the dating service.  What is next, am I going to need a Bishop's blessing or have to run to a "spiritual father" to write an email to someone?  Things here are taken to the point of ridiculousness.  Check it out, meet some people, and THEN if you think that you have to get a blessing from someone (and that may well be appropriate at that point) then do so.  I think that you have a good point of view there, Ergib, and it is one that I told my son.  If the priest is NOT going to find you a husband, then he should pretty well stay out of your business as you go about finding one.  The quote that comes to mind is this: "But He said: Woe to you lawyers also, because you load men with burdens which they cannot bear, and you yourselves touch not the packs with one of your fingers."

Hahaha. I asked a Coptic priest about that site once and he said "I've never heard of it, but stay away from it. The Church is not a dating service, so I can't imagine that it is blessed by any bishop."

Even the church is against me! :D (Seriously, though, the priest's words are something to think about.)

 :'( I was so excited when I found the site. I guess I will just have my Spiritual father find me an old man! :'( :'(



Awaiting akimori makoto's response to that. :P

Though I must admit, I have found a couple of Orthodox dating sites out of curiosity.

I haven't joined them, though.

Care to share these sites with us?  I am interested by this plural case that you are using.  I would like to state that as the "OC.net Dating Site Guru" I know almost every site out there but only knew of one Orthodox site.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ironchapman on May 18, 2012, 12:39:49 AM
Honestly, I would not worry about it.  "The Church is not a dating service" is a particularly stupid way to answer this since it is not the Church providing the dating service.  What is next, am I going to need a Bishop's blessing or have to run to a "spiritual father" to write an email to someone?  Things here are taken to the point of ridiculousness.  Check it out, meet some people, and THEN if you think that you have to get a blessing from someone (and that may well be appropriate at that point) then do so.  I think that you have a good point of view there, Ergib, and it is one that I told my son.  If the priest is NOT going to find you a husband, then he should pretty well stay out of your business as you go about finding one.  The quote that comes to mind is this: "But He said: Woe to you lawyers also, because you load men with burdens which they cannot bear, and you yourselves touch not the packs with one of your fingers."

Hahaha. I asked a Coptic priest about that site once and he said "I've never heard of it, but stay away from it. The Church is not a dating service, so I can't imagine that it is blessed by any bishop."

Even the church is against me! :D (Seriously, though, the priest's words are something to think about.)

 :'( I was so excited when I found the site. I guess I will just have my Spiritual father find me an old man! :'( :'(



Awaiting akimori makoto's response to that. :P

Though I must admit, I have found a couple of Orthodox dating sites out of curiosity.

I haven't joined them, though.

Care to share these sites with us?  I am interested by this plural case that you are using.  I would like to state that as the "OC.net Dating Site Guru" I know almost every site out there but only knew of one Orthodox site.

Here are what I could find:

http://www.orthodoxchristiandating.com/connect/
http://www.facebook.com/pages/Orthodox-Christian-Singles/266833854444
http://orthodoxsingles.tripod.com/
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/orthodox_singles/
http://orthodox-single.livejournal.com/

Some are better than others, of course, and there are websites that are specifically set up to date people of a specific nationality (Greek, Russian, Ukrainian, etc.) where Orthodoxy is a major religion that turn up in these searches as well.

Also of interest would be this OCA.org handbook on Pan-Orthodox Christian Singles meetup (in the Baltimore-DC area): http://oca.org/resource-handbook/parishdevelopment/the-pan-orthodox-christian-singles-of-the-baltimore-washington-dc-area
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 18, 2012, 12:56:47 AM
Honestly, I would not worry about it.  "The Church is not a dating service" is a particularly stupid way to answer this since it is not the Church providing the dating service.  What is next, am I going to need a Bishop's blessing or have to run to a "spiritual father" to write an email to someone?  Things here are taken to the point of ridiculousness.  Check it out, meet some people, and THEN if you think that you have to get a blessing from someone (and that may well be appropriate at that point) then do so.  I think that you have a good point of view there, Ergib, and it is one that I told my son.  If the priest is NOT going to find you a husband, then he should pretty well stay out of your business as you go about finding one.  The quote that comes to mind is this: "But He said: Woe to you lawyers also, because you load men with burdens which they cannot bear, and you yourselves touch not the packs with one of your fingers."

Hahaha. I asked a Coptic priest about that site once and he said "I've never heard of it, but stay away from it. The Church is not a dating service, so I can't imagine that it is blessed by any bishop."

Even the church is against me! :D (Seriously, though, the priest's words are something to think about.)

 :'( I was so excited when I found the site. I guess I will just have my Spiritual father find me an old man! :'( :'(



Awaiting akimori makoto's response to that. :P

Though I must admit, I have found a couple of Orthodox dating sites out of curiosity.

I haven't joined them, though.

Care to share these sites with us?  I am interested by this plural case that you are using.  I would like to state that as the "OC.net Dating Site Guru" I know almost every site out there but only knew of one Orthodox site.

Here are what I could find:

http://www.orthodoxchristiandating.com/connect/
http://www.facebook.com/pages/Orthodox-Christian-Singles/266833854444
http://orthodoxsingles.tripod.com/
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/orthodox_singles/
http://orthodox-single.livejournal.com/

Some are better than others, of course, and there are websites that are specifically set up to date people of a specific nationality (Greek, Russian, Ukrainian, etc.) where Orthodoxy is a major religion that turn up in these searches as well.

Also of interest would be this OCA.org handbook on Pan-Orthodox Christian Singles meetup (in the Baltimore-DC area): http://oca.org/resource-handbook/parishdevelopment/the-pan-orthodox-christian-singles-of-the-baltimore-washington-dc-area

Ok, I knew the first one.  I have had nothing but scam artists on there.  I am looking at the singles meet up webpage right now.  It's a good idea.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ironchapman on May 18, 2012, 12:59:02 AM
Honestly, I would not worry about it.  "The Church is not a dating service" is a particularly stupid way to answer this since it is not the Church providing the dating service.  What is next, am I going to need a Bishop's blessing or have to run to a "spiritual father" to write an email to someone?  Things here are taken to the point of ridiculousness.  Check it out, meet some people, and THEN if you think that you have to get a blessing from someone (and that may well be appropriate at that point) then do so.  I think that you have a good point of view there, Ergib, and it is one that I told my son.  If the priest is NOT going to find you a husband, then he should pretty well stay out of your business as you go about finding one.  The quote that comes to mind is this: "But He said: Woe to you lawyers also, because you load men with burdens which they cannot bear, and you yourselves touch not the packs with one of your fingers."

Hahaha. I asked a Coptic priest about that site once and he said "I've never heard of it, but stay away from it. The Church is not a dating service, so I can't imagine that it is blessed by any bishop."

Even the church is against me! :D (Seriously, though, the priest's words are something to think about.)

 :'( I was so excited when I found the site. I guess I will just have my Spiritual father find me an old man! :'( :'(



Awaiting akimori makoto's response to that. :P

Though I must admit, I have found a couple of Orthodox dating sites out of curiosity.

I haven't joined them, though.

Care to share these sites with us?  I am interested by this plural case that you are using.  I would like to state that as the "OC.net Dating Site Guru" I know almost every site out there but only knew of one Orthodox site.

Here are what I could find:

http://www.orthodoxchristiandating.com/connect/
http://www.facebook.com/pages/Orthodox-Christian-Singles/266833854444
http://orthodoxsingles.tripod.com/
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/orthodox_singles/
http://orthodox-single.livejournal.com/

Some are better than others, of course, and there are websites that are specifically set up to date people of a specific nationality (Greek, Russian, Ukrainian, etc.) where Orthodoxy is a major religion that turn up in these searches as well.

Also of interest would be this OCA.org handbook on Pan-Orthodox Christian Singles meetup (in the Baltimore-DC area): http://oca.org/resource-handbook/parishdevelopment/the-pan-orthodox-christian-singles-of-the-baltimore-washington-dc-area

Ok, I knew the first one.  I have had nothing but scam artists on there.  I am looking at the singles meet up webpage right now.  It's a good idea.

I would need to join a bigger church for one of those. The church I attend is full of people who are either too old, too young, or already married.

But I definitely think it's a good idea.

The Facebook site looks fairly legit, but I don't know how useful it would be.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on May 18, 2012, 12:59:33 AM
Honestly, I would not worry about it.  "The Church is not a dating service" is a particularly stupid way to answer this since it is not the Church providing the dating service.

Forgive me, but I think that is the point that Father was trying to make, i.e., it's just a regular dating website called "Coptic Date". It's not connected to the Church in any way, so don't take its name to mean much. At least that's how I took it.  

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What is next, am I going to need a Bishop's blessing or have to run to a "spiritual father" to write an email to someone?  Things here are taken to the point of ridiculousness.


I agree; you did take that to a ridiculous point just now. :)

There are also probably cultural reasons for this attitude. None of the Copts I've known are very warm towards things like western dating, on or off the internet (they say it's not taken seriously). From what little I've been able to tell (one deacon has gotten engaged since I've been here), they still do things the super old-fashioned way: going back home to Egypt to find someone there via their family contacts, or carrying that mindset over here and proposing to girls from church, then using the year-long engagement period as the "getting to know you" period. What can I say? It's FOB-ish, but it makes sense when you consider the stakes, since there really is no divorce in the COC except for adultery.  

Coptic Dating (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RJaYjzs6C14) ;D
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ironchapman on May 18, 2012, 01:24:31 AM
Ok, I knew the first one.  I have had nothing but scam artists on there.  I am looking at the singles meet up webpage right now.  It's a good idea.

Also, bigger churches usually have some sort of outreach programs to help young adults and singles. Here's one for the Atlanta area: http://www.atlgoc.org/ministries/parish-ministires/youth-organizations/youth-organizations.html (why it's listed as "youth" I don't know)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: TheMathematician on May 18, 2012, 01:55:27 AM
And, while this fad seems to have passed, I am tired of people trying to convince me that Tina Fey is a hot woman.

This conclusively demonstrates that you have no idea what you are talking about when it comes to women, and thus you can no longer talk about the subject on this forum.

Agreed, Sauron has lost his "rating babes" privileges.  He retains his "rating shows" privileges. 

shoot, i think that, not only has he lost his "rating babes" privileges, he also loses his  "rating guys" privileges. Beauty is beauty after all...






:P
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 18, 2012, 10:02:17 AM
Aw. Well, I meant that you should ask your spiritual father about the site (and show it to him, if he doesn't know it)

I can just picture his reaction.….I will be on the floor laughing   :D
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 18, 2012, 10:16:26 AM
Aw. Well, I meant that you should ask your spiritual father about the site (and show it to him, if he doesn't know it) before becoming too excited or signing up, but okay. It's better to follow your spiritual father's advice in this search anyway. And do not despair! God gave a child to Sarah, no doubt he can give a husband to a good woman such as yourself! :)

I don't know if I should have chicken or pork for dinner tonight and my spiritual father still hasn't replied to my email even though it's 5:30. Should I just pick one and hope it is right or go without dinner to be safe?



Silly  :)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 18, 2012, 10:22:09 AM
There are also probably cultural reasons for this attitude. None of the Copts I've known are very warm towards things like western dating, on or off the internet (they say it's not taken seriously). From what little I've been able to tell (one deacon has gotten engaged since I've been here), they still do things the super old-fashioned way: going back home to Egypt to find someone there via their family contacts, or carrying that mindset over here and proposing to girls from church, then using the year-long engagement period as the "getting to know you" period. What can I say? It's FOB-ish, but it makes sense when you consider the stakes, since there really is no divorce in the COC except for adultery.  

Coptic Dating (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RJaYjzs6C14) ;D
Dating/marriage in Tewahedo is similar to Copts...some (if not most) go back home to marry someone they know by photo through family or spiritual fathers.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 18, 2012, 10:23:04 AM
And, while this fad seems to have passed, I am tired of people trying to convince me that Tina Fey is a hot woman.

This conclusively demonstrates that you have no idea what you are talking about when it comes to women, and thus you can no longer talk about the subject on this forum.

Wow, you really have allowed yourself to become feminized, huh?

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 18, 2012, 10:24:33 AM
And, while this fad seems to have passed, I am tired of people trying to convince me that Tina Fey is a hot woman.

This conclusively demonstrates that you have no idea what you are talking about when it comes to women, and thus you can no longer talk about the subject on this forum.

Agreed, Sauron has lost his "rating babes" privileges.  He retains his "rating shows" privileges. 

The emasculators got their hook into you, too? Woe.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 18, 2012, 10:27:14 AM
Aw. Well, I meant that you should ask your spiritual father about the site (and show it to him, if he doesn't know it) before becoming too excited or signing up, but okay. It's better to follow your spiritual father's advice in this search anyway. And do not despair! God gave a child to Sarah, no doubt he can give a husband to a good woman such as yourself! :)

I don't know if I should have chicken or pork for dinner tonight and my spiritual father still hasn't replied to my email even though it's 5:30. Should I just pick one and hope it is right or go without dinner to be safe?



Silly  :)

Yes, it is silly, which is the point I was making. (and I believe Punch as well) The business on this forum of "ask your spiritual father" for every little thing is ridiculous.

Should I ask Mary or Jane to the school dance? Ask your spiritual father.

Pleats or flat-front? Ask your spiritual father.

Coke or Pepsi? Definitely ask your spiritual father.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 18, 2012, 10:31:40 AM
And, while this fad seems to have passed, I am tired of people trying to convince me that Tina Fey is a hot woman.

This conclusively demonstrates that you have no idea what you are talking about when it comes to women, and thus you can no longer talk about the subject on this forum.

Agreed, Sauron has lost his "rating babes" privileges.  He retains his "rating shows" privileges. 

The emasculators got their hook into you, too? Woe.



Negative.  It is the part that they would have took that it interested in Tina Fey.  I assure you, it's not my heart, mind, or soul.   ;)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 18, 2012, 10:34:09 AM
Aw. Well, I meant that you should ask your spiritual father about the site (and show it to him, if he doesn't know it) before becoming too excited or signing up, but okay. It's better to follow your spiritual father's advice in this search anyway. And do not despair! God gave a child to Sarah, no doubt he can give a husband to a good woman such as yourself! :)

I don't know if I should have chicken or pork for dinner tonight and my spiritual father still hasn't replied to my email even though it's 5:30. Should I just pick one and hope it is right or go without dinner to be safe?



Silly  :)

Yes, it is silly, which is the point I was making. (and I believe Punch as well) The business on this forum of "ask your spiritual father" for every little thing is ridiculous.

Should I ask Mary or Jane to the school dance? Ask your spiritual father.

Pleats or flat-front? Ask your spiritual father.

Coke or Pepsi? Definitely ask your spiritual father.


Why would you need to ask your spiritual father about pleats or flat fronts?  There already is a canon forbidding pleats unless the article of clothing in question is a kilt or a cute skirt.  On pants it is forbidden.

(If my spiritual father were to answer the other two questions it would probably go something like this: 1 - Both.  Whichever one says yes.  3 - Slivovitz.)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 18, 2012, 10:39:47 AM
The emasculators got their hook into you, too? Woe.



Negative.  It is the part that they would have took that it interested in Tina Fey.  I assure you, it's not my heart, mind, or soul.   ;)

the whole "Tina Fey is hot" thing (which seems to have died down) was all about making it easier for women to get dates. Women think if they can call a dowdy woman hot, men will believe it. Well, that doesn't work.

Don't believe me? Ask women if they think Kim or Kourtney Kardashian is better looking. You had better be wearing canvas clothing, because the claws will come out.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ZealousZeal on May 18, 2012, 10:50:48 AM
The emasculators got their hook into you, too? Woe.



Negative.  It is the part that they would have took that it interested in Tina Fey.  I assure you, it's not my heart, mind, or soul.   ;)

the whole "Tina Fey is hot" thing (which seems to have died down) was all about making it easier for women to get dates. Women think if they can call a dowdy woman hot, men will believe it. Well, that doesn't work.

Don't believe me? Ask women if they think Kim or Kourtney Kardashian is better looking. You had better be wearing canvas clothing, because the claws will come out.



Kim is definitely better looking than Kourtney. Kourtney isn't ugly either, though.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 18, 2012, 10:51:48 AM
Aw. Well, I meant that you should ask your spiritual father about the site (and show it to him, if he doesn't know it) before becoming too excited or signing up, but okay. It's better to follow your spiritual father's advice in this search anyway. And do not despair! God gave a child to Sarah, no doubt he can give a husband to a good woman such as yourself! :)

I don't know if I should have chicken or pork for dinner tonight and my spiritual father still hasn't replied to my email even though it's 5:30. Should I just pick one and hope it is right or go without dinner to be safe?



Silly  :)

Yes, it is silly, which is the point I was making. (and I believe Punch as well) The business on this forum of "ask your spiritual father" for every little thing is ridiculous.

Should I ask Mary or Jane to the school dance? Ask your spiritual father.

Pleats or flat-front? Ask your spiritual father.

Coke or Pepsi? Definitely ask your spiritual father.


Lord have mercy! My view is a mixture of yours, Punch's and dzheremi’s. Now I’m so confused! I removed my photos form OrthodoxChristianDating.com and didn’t sign-up at Copticmatch.com

Going to pray for clarification…
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Marc1152 on May 18, 2012, 10:58:47 AM
A few years ago here in the DC metro area they started an Orthodox Singles group. At the first get together they were over run by attendance. Hundreds of people showed up.

They go on day trips, have mixers, BBQ's, dances etc. Several marriages have resulted.  
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 18, 2012, 11:12:55 AM
Aw. Well, I meant that you should ask your spiritual father about the site (and show it to him, if he doesn't know it) before becoming too excited or signing up, but okay. It's better to follow your spiritual father's advice in this search anyway. And do not despair! God gave a child to Sarah, no doubt he can give a husband to a good woman such as yourself! :)

I don't know if I should have chicken or pork for dinner tonight and my spiritual father still hasn't replied to my email even though it's 5:30. Should I just pick one and hope it is right or go without dinner to be safe?



Silly  :)

Yes, it is silly, which is the point I was making. (and I believe Punch as well) The business on this forum of "ask your spiritual father" for every little thing is ridiculous.

Should I ask Mary or Jane to the school dance? Ask your spiritual father.

Pleats or flat-front? Ask your spiritual father.

Coke or Pepsi? Definitely ask your spiritual father.


Lord have mercy! My view is a mixture of yours, Punch's and dzheremi’s. Now I’m so confused! I removed my photos form OrthodoxChristianDating.com and didn’t sign-up at Copticmatch.com

Going to pray for clarification…


Egrib, this probably is going to be the most confusing thing you ever do in your life, so accept that and account for it.  Just sign up for the sites.  Give them a try.  You aren't committing to anything right away, and God knows whoever you meet isn't going to commit right away (I found this out...again...last night) so just spend some time, get to know the blokes, and if something develops, great.  If not, move on.

(And for what it's worth, I've still been praying for you!)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 18, 2012, 11:28:14 AM
Are you sure he would limit it to one?  You are dancing with them, not marrying them.

Aw. Well, I meant that you should ask your spiritual father about the site (and show it to him, if he doesn't know it) before becoming too excited or signing up, but okay. It's better to follow your spiritual father's advice in this search anyway. And do not despair! God gave a child to Sarah, no doubt he can give a husband to a good woman such as yourself! :)

I don't know if I should have chicken or pork for dinner tonight and my spiritual father still hasn't replied to my email even though it's 5:30. Should I just pick one and hope it is right or go without dinner to be safe?



Silly  :)

Yes, it is silly, which is the point I was making. (and I believe Punch as well) The business on this forum of "ask your spiritual father" for every little thing is ridiculous.

Should I ask Mary or Jane to the school dance? Ask your spiritual father.

Pleats or flat-front? Ask your spiritual father.

Coke or Pepsi? Definitely ask your spiritual father.


Why would you need to ask your spiritual father about pleats or flat fronts?  There already is a canon forbidding pleats unless the article of clothing in question is a kilt or a cute skirt.  On pants it is forbidden.

(If my spiritual father were to answer the other two questions it would probably go something like this: 1 - Both.  Whichever one says yes.  3 - Slivovitz.)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 18, 2012, 11:31:16 AM

Yes, it is silly, which is the point I was making. (and I believe Punch as well) The business on this forum of "ask your spiritual father" for every little thing is ridiculous.


Yes, and perhaps beyond silly.  I wonder if some of these "spiritual father" cultists would hack their spouse apart with an axe if the "spiritual father" told them to do it.  Particularly those that can't seem to make the most basic decisions without contacting one.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 18, 2012, 11:32:55 AM
Are you sure he would limit it to one?  You are dancing with them, not marrying them.

Aw. Well, I meant that you should ask your spiritual father about the site (and show it to him, if he doesn't know it) before becoming too excited or signing up, but okay. It's better to follow your spiritual father's advice in this search anyway. And do not despair! God gave a child to Sarah, no doubt he can give a husband to a good woman such as yourself! :)

I don't know if I should have chicken or pork for dinner tonight and my spiritual father still hasn't replied to my email even though it's 5:30. Should I just pick one and hope it is right or go without dinner to be safe?



Silly  :)

Yes, it is silly, which is the point I was making. (and I believe Punch as well) The business on this forum of "ask your spiritual father" for every little thing is ridiculous.

Should I ask Mary or Jane to the school dance? Ask your spiritual father.

Pleats or flat-front? Ask your spiritual father.

Coke or Pepsi? Definitely ask your spiritual father.


Why would you need to ask your spiritual father about pleats or flat fronts?  There already is a canon forbidding pleats unless the article of clothing in question is a kilt or a cute skirt.  On pants it is forbidden.

(If my spiritual father were to answer the other two questions it would probably go something like this: 1 - Both.  Whichever one says yes.  3 - Slivovitz.)

Law of averages.  I am only assuming a 0-50% success rate.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 18, 2012, 11:36:29 AM

Law of averages.  I am only assuming a 0-50% success rate.

I was not commenting on your success rate, but rather that I doubt that your spiritual father would limit you to just one.  I know for sure your natural father would not.  Now, as to how many girls would say yes, you are on your own there.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 18, 2012, 11:45:55 AM

Law of averages.  I am only assuming a 0-50% success rate.

I was not commenting on your success rate, but rather that I doubt that your spiritual father would limit you to just one.  I know for sure your natural father would not.  Now, as to how many girls would say yes, you are on your own there.

That's why I figured his answer would be "both" as far as asking, then pick whichever one said yes.  Actual success rates are closer to the 0-10% range, but there are only two options so I rounded the fraction up rather than down since I am an optimist!   ;)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 18, 2012, 11:56:50 AM
I wonder if the mods would allow an Orthodox singles thread?  Might be of some value.  I consider marriage to be sacrament of the Church.  Perhaps a bit more Church involvement would be nice.  (I see from some of the links that ironchapman amongst others has put up that some Churches are getting involved in this.)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 18, 2012, 12:26:34 PM

Yes, it is silly, which is the point I was making. (and I believe Punch as well) The business on this forum of "ask your spiritual father" for every little thing is ridiculous.


Yes, and perhaps beyond silly.  I wonder if some of these "spiritual father" cultists would hack their spouse apart with an axe if the "spiritual father" told them to do it.  Particularly those that can't seem to make the most basic decisions without contacting one.

Actually, you can decide to hack up your spouse on your own. Where the spiritual father comes in is deciding what sort of axe to use.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: TheMathematician on May 18, 2012, 01:10:13 PM
I wonder if the mods would allow an Orthodox singles thread?  Might be of some value.  I consider marriage to be sacrament of the Church.  Perhaps a bit more Church involvement would be nice.  (I see from some of the links that ironchapman amongst others has put up that some Churches are getting involved in this.)
been there, done that
http://www.orthodoxchristianity.net/forum/index.php/topic,38137.0.html
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 18, 2012, 01:19:10 PM
I wonder if the mods would allow an Orthodox singles thread?  Might be of some value.  I consider marriage to be sacrament of the Church.  Perhaps a bit more Church involvement would be nice.  (I see from some of the links that ironchapman amongst others has put up that some Churches are getting involved in this.)
been there, done that
http://www.orthodoxchristianity.net/forum/index.php/topic,38137.0.html

I was thinking more along the lines of one where all the single and looking ones could post and then get to know one another, possibly through PM's, etc.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: orthonorm on May 18, 2012, 01:54:00 PM
I wonder if the mods would allow an Orthodox singles thread?  Might be of some value.  I consider marriage to be sacrament of the Church.  Perhaps a bit more Church involvement would be nice.  (I see from some of the links that ironchapman amongst others has put up that some Churches are getting involved in this.)
been there, done that
http://www.orthodoxchristianity.net/forum/index.php/topic,38137.0.html

I was thinking more along the lines of one where all the single and looking ones could post and then get to know one another, possibly through PM's, etc.

Skeevy.

Anyone is capable of meeting someone at their parish or outside and having them convert if they have any degree of ability to relate to the opposite sex and are above 30.

Any woman in love with a guy will easily convert to any nominal Christian denomination like Orthodoxy.

Rather than have the few women who show up here be the center of attention for every man (they already are, but to make it "official" skeeves).

There are plenty of secular and religious online dating sites which are very successful if people are just honest.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 18, 2012, 02:01:29 PM

Yes, it is silly, which is the point I was making. (and I believe Punch as well) The business on this forum of "ask your spiritual father" for every little thing is ridiculous.


Yes, and perhaps beyond silly.  I wonder if some of these "spiritual father" cultists would hack their spouse apart with an axe if the "spiritual father" told them to do it.  Particularly those that can't seem to make the most basic decisions without contacting one.

Actually, you can decide to hack up your spouse on your own. Where the spiritual father comes in is deciding what sort of axe to use.



 :)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 18, 2012, 02:50:59 PM
I wonder if the mods would allow an Orthodox singles thread?  Might be of some value.  I consider marriage to be sacrament of the Church.  Perhaps a bit more Church involvement would be nice.  (I see from some of the links that ironchapman amongst others has put up that some Churches are getting involved in this.)
been there, done that
http://www.orthodoxchristianity.net/forum/index.php/topic,38137.0.html

I was thinking more along the lines of one where all the single and looking ones could post and then get to know one another, possibly through PM's, etc.

Skeevy.

Anyone is capable of meeting someone at their parish or outside and having them convert if they have any degree of ability to relate to the opposite sex and are above 30.

Any woman in love with a guy will easily convert to any nominal Christian denomination like Orthodoxy.

Rather than have the few women who show up here be the center of attention for every man (they already are, but to make it "official" skeeves).

There are plenty of secular and religious online dating sites which are very successful if people are just honest.

It's all a matter of attrition, I tell you!

What does "skeevy" mean, BTW?  I always thought it was another word for drawers.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Azul on May 18, 2012, 04:05:11 PM
I see no picture :(
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 18, 2012, 04:12:22 PM
I see no picture :(

It's gone, dog.  You missed out!
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Azul on May 18, 2012, 04:13:14 PM
I see no picture :(

It's gone, dog.  You missed out!

who ate it?
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 18, 2012, 04:44:00 PM
Rather than have the few women who show up here be the center of attention for every man (they already are, but to make it "official" skeeves).


While I object to the word "skeevy" because it is a female shaming word up there with "creepy", your content is correct. The problem is that most men do not understand how to interact with women, as shown by the overweening attention the women here tend to receive.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 18, 2012, 04:46:43 PM
But . . . but . . . these are good Christian women. 

Rather than have the few women who show up here be the center of attention for every man (they already are, but to make it "official" skeeves).


While I object to the word "skeevy" because it is a female shaming word up there with "creepy", your content is correct. The problem is that most men do not understand how to interact with women, as shown by the overweening attention the women here tend to receive.


Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 18, 2012, 04:54:47 PM
But . . . but . . . these are good Christian women. 

I find that you often need to remove both of those adjectives.

And, the men are snookered. I had a Baptist man defend the movie Fireproof to me the other day. I was gobsmacked.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 18, 2012, 05:02:31 PM
But . . . but . . . these are good Christian women. 

I find that you often need to remove both of those adjectives.

And, the men are snookered. I had a Baptist man defend the movie Fireproof to me the other day. I was gobsmacked.


Those two adjectives mean everything to me, hence my views regarding several women on this board.  As to those that do not meet this critera, I really do not care how they are dealt with. 
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ZealousZeal on May 18, 2012, 05:10:15 PM
But . . . but . . . these are good Christian women. 

I find that you often need to remove both of those adjectives.

And, the men are snookered. I had a Baptist man defend the movie Fireproof to me the other day. I was gobsmacked.



Oh, that is a dreadful movie.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 18, 2012, 05:10:37 PM
But . . . but . . . these are good Christian women. 

I find that you often need to remove both of those adjectives.

And, the men are snookered. I had a Baptist man defend the movie Fireproof to me the other day. I was gobsmacked.


Those two adjectives mean everything to me, hence my views regarding several women on this board.  As to those that do not meet this critera, I really do not care how they are dealt with. 

Then I frankly do not understand the purpose of your initial comment.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 18, 2012, 05:23:37 PM

Then I frankly do not understand the purpose of your initial comment.


I took your your comment preceding mine to imply that some men on this board do not know how to treat women (and were possibly less than manly) because they treat the women on this board with respect.  I did leave open the possibility that you were actually pointing out that some men on this board did not know how to treat women due to some of the less than respectful way that some of our women are treated.  Hence the neutrality of my statement.  The meaning of your statement (and the one preceding it by another poster) was unclear to me, hence the manner of my response.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 18, 2012, 05:46:11 PM

Then I frankly do not understand the purpose of your initial comment.


I took your your comment preceding mine to imply that some men on this board do not know how to treat women (and were possibly less than manly) because they treat the women on this board with respect.  I did leave open the possibility that you were actually pointing out that some men on this board did not know how to treat women due to some of the less than respectful way that some of our women are treated.  Hence the neutrality of my statement.  The meaning of your statement (and the one preceding it by another poster) was unclear to me, hence the manner of my response.

Everyone deserves to be treating with respect. The problem that many men have is that they put women on a pedestal and do their best ot be "nice guys". Then, they wonder why all the hot girls are with "jerks".

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shiny on May 18, 2012, 07:16:13 PM

Then I frankly do not understand the purpose of your initial comment.


I took your your comment preceding mine to imply that some men on this board do not know how to treat women (and were possibly less than manly) because they treat the women on this board with respect.  I did leave open the possibility that you were actually pointing out that some men on this board did not know how to treat women due to some of the less than respectful way that some of our women are treated.  Hence the neutrality of my statement.  The meaning of your statement (and the one preceding it by another poster) was unclear to me, hence the manner of my response.

Everyone deserves to be treating with respect. The problem that many men have is that they put women on a pedestal and do their best ot be "nice guys". Then, they wonder why all the hot girls are with "jerks".


Is this really still a thing? I mean I play the game pretty good in dating, but when it comes to being a boyfriend I just be awesome at that point.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shiny on May 18, 2012, 07:17:19 PM
But . . . but . . . these are good Christian women. 

I find that you often need to remove both of those adjectives.

And, the men are snookered. I had a Baptist man defend the movie Fireproof to me the other day. I was gobsmacked.



Oh, that is a dreadful movie.
I've never seen the movie and I've heard how bad it is by Orthodox, can someone explain why?
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on May 18, 2012, 07:35:18 PM
Everyone deserves to be treating with respect. The problem that many men have is that they put women on a pedestal and do their best ot be "nice guys". Then, they wonder why all the hot girls are with "jerks".
Is this really still a thing? I mean I play the game pretty good in dating, but when it comes to being a boyfriend I just be awesome at that point.

I wouldn't think so. I've never asked or heard of anyone asking why girls like jerks, but I've sure heard about that happening a lot. It seems like a movie cliche. Ditto all this "nice guy" business. What I have heard is that "friend zone" garbage, which as far as I can tell is a way of saying "I'm a nice guy" without feeling like you're being a whiny jerk. (But you still are.)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 18, 2012, 07:42:08 PM

Then I frankly do not understand the purpose of your initial comment.


I took your your comment preceding mine to imply that some men on this board do not know how to treat women (and were possibly less than manly) because they treat the women on this board with respect.  I did leave open the possibility that you were actually pointing out that some men on this board did not know how to treat women due to some of the less than respectful way that some of our women are treated.  Hence the neutrality of my statement.  The meaning of your statement (and the one preceding it by another poster) was unclear to me, hence the manner of my response.

Everyone deserves to be treating with respect. The problem that many men have is that they put women on a pedestal and do their best ot be "nice guys". Then, they wonder why all the hot girls are with "jerks".


Most of the "hot" girls that end up with the jerks get what they deserve.  As you alluded to above, most are neither nice nor Christian. 
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 18, 2012, 07:50:45 PM

Then I frankly do not understand the purpose of your initial comment.


I took your your comment preceding mine to imply that some men on this board do not know how to treat women (and were possibly less than manly) because they treat the women on this board with respect.  I did leave open the possibility that you were actually pointing out that some men on this board did not know how to treat women due to some of the less than respectful way that some of our women are treated.  Hence the neutrality of my statement.  The meaning of your statement (and the one preceding it by another poster) was unclear to me, hence the manner of my response.

Everyone deserves to be treating with respect. The problem that many men have is that they put women on a pedestal and do their best ot be "nice guys". Then, they wonder why all the hot girls are with "jerks".


Most of the "hot" girls that end up with the jerks get what they deserve.  As you alluded to above, most are neither nice nor Christian. 

What eludes the great majority of men is that one can exhibit the qualities of "jerks" while still being "nice guys".

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 18, 2012, 08:04:39 PM

Then I frankly do not understand the purpose of your initial comment.


I took your your comment preceding mine to imply that some men on this board do not know how to treat women (and were possibly less than manly) because they treat the women on this board with respect.  I did leave open the possibility that you were actually pointing out that some men on this board did not know how to treat women due to some of the less than respectful way that some of our women are treated.  Hence the neutrality of my statement.  The meaning of your statement (and the one preceding it by another poster) was unclear to me, hence the manner of my response.

Everyone deserves to be treating with respect. The problem that many men have is that they put women on a pedestal and do their best ot be "nice guys". Then, they wonder why all the hot girls are with "jerks".


Most of the "hot" girls that end up with the jerks get what they deserve.  As you alluded to above, most are neither nice nor Christian. 

What eludes the great majority of men is that one can exhibit the qualities of "jerks" while still being "nice guys".


The problem is, I find most men to be so disgusting that I would rather not exhibit most of the qualities of the "jerks".  I am a loner for the most part, as are most of the men that I have respected.  As I wrote in another thread, my vision of a "real man" is somewhat different than that of most.  Thankfully I have found a few women that share the same vision.  I am even married to one of them, and have been for more than 30 years.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 18, 2012, 08:17:24 PM
The problem is, I find most men to be so disgusting that I would rather not exhibit most of the qualities of the "jerks".  I am a loner for the most part, as are most of the men that I have respected.  As I wrote in another thread, my vision of a "real man" is somewhat different than that of most.  Thankfully I have found a few women that share the same vision.  I am even married to one of them, and have been for more than 30 years.

Then I suspect you exhibit those qualities (confidence, stability, etc) that the "nice guys" lack while still being a decent man.

If the nice guys would get a clue, they would realize that most divorces are filed by the wife. Then, they would find that most of the time, the husband was abusive, addicted, or adulterous. Rather, it is just even though "he's so good to me" that "something was missing".

The best and most public modern example is "Eat, Pray, Love". The first few chapters can be read on Google Books for free, and we learn it is a story of a woman who is married to a perfectly nice man, but then she goes cuckoo for no apparent reason.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: SolEX01 on May 18, 2012, 08:35:25 PM
The problem is, I find most men to be so disgusting that I would rather not exhibit most of the qualities of the "jerks".  I am a loner for the most part, as are most of the men that I have respected.  As I wrote in another thread, my vision of a "real man" is somewhat different than that of most.  Thankfully I have found a few women that share the same vision.  I am even married to one of them, and have been for more than 30 years.

Then I suspect you exhibit those qualities (confidence, stability, etc) that the "nice guys" lack while still being a decent man.

Is having confidence and stability a bad thing whether one is a "jerk" or a "nice guy?"

If the nice guys would get a clue, they would realize that most divorces are filed by the wife. Then, they would find that most of the time, the husband was abusive, addicted, or adulterous. Rather, it is just even though "he's so good to me" that "something was missing".

"something was missing" - that can go either way.  I didn't pursue marriage with one woman because I found a lot lacking in her and I was a jerk to her at times.

The best and most public modern example is "Eat, Pray, Love". The first few chapters can be read on Google Books for free, and we learn it is a story of a woman who is married to a perfectly nice man, but then she goes cuckoo for no apparent reason.

See, the woman has an issue that isn't obvious during the courtship phase and rears its ugly head after the marriage - whether 1, 5, 10, 20, 50 years have passed.  Divorce is less stigmatizing than 20, 30, 40, 50 years ago.  With Facebook, old acquaintances can come back into the picture (e.g. one spouse marries a nice person and rediscovers the jerk on Facebook).
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shiny on May 18, 2012, 08:39:42 PM
Everyone deserves to be treating with respect. The problem that many men have is that they put women on a pedestal and do their best ot be "nice guys". Then, they wonder why all the hot girls are with "jerks".
Is this really still a thing? I mean I play the game pretty good in dating, but when it comes to being a boyfriend I just be awesome at that point.

I wouldn't think so. I've never asked or heard of anyone asking why girls like jerks, but I've sure heard about that happening a lot. It seems like a movie cliche. Ditto all this "nice guy" business. What I have heard is that "friend zone" garbage, which as far as I can tell is a way of saying "I'm a nice guy" without feeling like you're being a whiny jerk. (But you still are.)

Wait huh? "Friendzoning" happens all the time to guys by women.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Asteriktos on May 18, 2012, 08:44:03 PM
I sure as hell ain't friend zoning some of the dudes on this thread. What a bunch of jerks.

Oh wait, that's not what they meant...
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ZealousZeal on May 18, 2012, 09:14:50 PM
But . . . but . . . these are good Christian women. 

I find that you often need to remove both of those adjectives.

And, the men are snookered. I had a Baptist man defend the movie Fireproof to me the other day. I was gobsmacked.



Oh, that is a dreadful movie.
I've never seen the movie and I've heard how bad it is by Orthodox, can someone explain why?

The acting is abysmal. However bad you're thinking, it's worse.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 18, 2012, 09:23:03 PM
Is having confidence and stability a bad thing whether one is a "jerk" or a "nice guy?"

Not at all. The problem is that women like confidence men. Nice guys aren't big in the confidence department. They tend to be inoffensive, placating pushovers. Boring!

"something was missing" - that can go either way.  I didn't pursue marriage with one woman because I found a lot lacking in her and I was a jerk to her at times.

In these cases, what is missing is "tingles" that the woman wants to feel. Do I need to be explicit as to where she wants to feel them?

See, the woman has an issue that isn't obvious during the courtship phase and rears its ugly head after the marriage - whether 1, 5, 10, 20, 50 years have passed.  Divorce is less stigmatizing than 20, 30, 40, 50 years ago.  With Facebook, old acquaintances can come back into the picture (e.g. one spouse marries a nice person and rediscovers the jerk on Facebook).

Because the jerk gives her the tingles.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 18, 2012, 09:23:39 PM
But . . . but . . . these are good Christian women. 

I find that you often need to remove both of those adjectives.

And, the men are snookered. I had a Baptist man defend the movie Fireproof to me the other day. I was gobsmacked.



Oh, that is a dreadful movie.
I've never seen the movie and I've heard how bad it is by Orthodox, can someone explain why?

The acting is abysmal. However bad you're thinking, it's worse.

The problem with the movie is its message.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ZealousZeal on May 18, 2012, 09:29:42 PM
But . . . but . . . these are good Christian women. 

I find that you often need to remove both of those adjectives.

And, the men are snookered. I had a Baptist man defend the movie Fireproof to me the other day. I was gobsmacked.



Oh, that is a dreadful movie.
I've never seen the movie and I've heard how bad it is by Orthodox, can someone explain why?

The acting is abysmal. However bad you're thinking, it's worse.

The problem with the movie is its message.



I figured the Orthodox who told him how bad it was covered that aspect, but perhaps I assume too much. I certainly had my issues with the message, but I'm interested in hearing your thoughts on it.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: SolEX01 on May 18, 2012, 09:54:41 PM
Is having confidence and stability a bad thing whether one is a "jerk" or a "nice guy?"

Not at all. The problem is that women like confidence men. Nice guys aren't big in the confidence department. They tend to be inoffensive, placating pushovers. Boring!

"something was missing" - that can go either way.  I didn't pursue marriage with one woman because I found a lot lacking in her and I was a jerk to her at times.

In these cases, what is missing is "tingles" that the woman wants to feel. Do I need to be explicit as to where she wants to feel them?

See, the woman has an issue that isn't obvious during the courtship phase and rears its ugly head after the marriage - whether 1, 5, 10, 20, 50 years have passed.  Divorce is less stigmatizing than 20, 30, 40, 50 years ago.  With Facebook, old acquaintances can come back into the picture (e.g. one spouse marries a nice person and rediscovers the jerk on Facebook).

Because the jerk gives her the tingles.

Tingling is stronger than love.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 18, 2012, 10:16:13 PM
But . . . but . . . these are good Christian women. 

I find that you often need to remove both of those adjectives.

And, the men are snookered. I had a Baptist man defend the movie Fireproof to me the other day. I was gobsmacked.



Oh, that is a dreadful movie.
I've never seen the movie and I've heard how bad it is by Orthodox, can someone explain why?

The acting is abysmal. However bad you're thinking, it's worse.

The problem with the movie is its message.



I figured the Orthodox who told him how bad it was covered that aspect, but perhaps I assume too much. I certainly had my issues with the message, but I'm interested in hearing your thoughts on it.

Short summary of the movie: man takes 40-day challenge to convince his whorish wife not to frivolously divorce him. While he is doing this, she takes off her wedding ring and flirts with a nice doctor at work.

Watch the few minutes after this link until about the 42 minute mark. He makes nice gestures, and she is a flaming shrew:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IxKDeNnBUM0&t=35m8s

"I don't have for coffee" Oh, do you have time for me to put that mug someplace uncomfortable?

Note her whorish lunch date at 1:04 and her getting busted at 1:12. Oh, and can I puke at 1:22 - "has anyone ever told you that you're wonderful?" 1:28 "my husband has had his chance"

She can only stop being whorish until her husband spends his entire savings on what she wants to buy.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 18, 2012, 10:16:38 PM
Is having confidence and stability a bad thing whether one is a "jerk" or a "nice guy?"

Not at all. The problem is that women like confidence men. Nice guys aren't big in the confidence department. They tend to be inoffensive, placating pushovers. Boring!

"something was missing" - that can go either way.  I didn't pursue marriage with one woman because I found a lot lacking in her and I was a jerk to her at times.

In these cases, what is missing is "tingles" that the woman wants to feel. Do I need to be explicit as to where she wants to feel them?

See, the woman has an issue that isn't obvious during the courtship phase and rears its ugly head after the marriage - whether 1, 5, 10, 20, 50 years have passed.  Divorce is less stigmatizing than 20, 30, 40, 50 years ago.  With Facebook, old acquaintances can come back into the picture (e.g. one spouse marries a nice person and rediscovers the jerk on Facebook).

Because the jerk gives her the tingles.

Tingling is stronger than love.

That is the tragedy.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shiny on May 18, 2012, 10:20:46 PM
But . . . but . . . these are good Christian women. 

I find that you often need to remove both of those adjectives.

And, the men are snookered. I had a Baptist man defend the movie Fireproof to me the other day. I was gobsmacked.



Oh, that is a dreadful movie.
I've never seen the movie and I've heard how bad it is by Orthodox, can someone explain why?

The acting is abysmal. However bad you're thinking, it's worse.

The problem with the movie is its message.



I figured the Orthodox who told him how bad it was covered that aspect, but perhaps I assume too much. I certainly had my issues with the message, but I'm interested in hearing your thoughts on it.

Short summary of the movie: man takes 40-day challenge to convince his whorish wife not to frivolously divorce him. While he is doing this, she takes off her wedding ring and flirts with a nice doctor at work.

Watch the few minutes after this link until about the 42 minute mark. He makes nice gestures, and she is a flaming shrew:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IxKDeNnBUM0&t=35m8s

"I don't have for coffee" Oh, do you have time for me to put that mug someplace uncomfortable?

Note her whorish lunch date at 1:04 and her getting busted at 1:12. Oh, and can I puke at 1:22 - "has anyone ever told you that you're wonderful?" 1:28 "my husband has had his chance"

She can only stop being whorish until her husband spends his entire savings on what she wants to buy.


Are you serious? Thats the message of the movie?

How awful.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 18, 2012, 10:27:37 PM
The problem is, I find most men to be so disgusting that I would rather not exhibit most of the qualities of the "jerks".  I am a loner for the most part, as are most of the men that I have respected.  As I wrote in another thread, my vision of a "real man" is somewhat different than that of most.  Thankfully I have found a few women that share the same vision.  I am even married to one of them, and have been for more than 30 years.

Then I suspect you exhibit those qualities (confidence, stability, etc) that the "nice guys" lack while still being a decent man.

I reject the notion that a person has to be a jerk in order to exhibit confidence, stability, and the like while being decent.  TRUE confidence does not require being a jerk, or even an Alpha male.  Likewise with stability, honor, industriousness, loyalty, and any other number of good traits.  I have known several men in my circles who are able to exhibit these traits quietly without being obnoxious bores.

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If the nice guys would get a clue, they would realize that most divorces are filed by the wife. Then, they would find that most of the time, the husband was abusive, addicted, or adulterous. Rather, it is just even though "he's so good to me" that "something was missing".

Funny, in my more than 30 years of Church work (and hearing the conversations of my pastor father before that), I find that your first two sentences are correct.  All this proves is that most men are poorly behaved when it comes to marriage.  While I have known, personally, men who were cheated on and who had wives that went "crazy", the VAST majority of the men that I know who had their wives file against them had it coming.  In fact, the statistic that I have read is that in 75% of divorces, cheating by the man was a factor, vs 25% for women.  This is right around what I have seen.  So, I do not see the logic of your "Rather" statement as they are the minority of divorces.  Your first two statements are, however accurate by my experience.

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The best and most public modern example is "Eat, Pray, Love". The first few chapters can be read on Google Books for free, and we learn it is a story of a woman who is married to a perfectly nice man, but then she goes cuckoo for no apparent reason.

Yes, I base everything that I know on books I read on Google.  My life experiences count for nothing.  Of course, having spent most of my life West of the Appalachians and East of the Rockies, I probably have a different outlook on life than coastal people.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ZealousZeal on May 18, 2012, 10:32:40 PM
But . . . but . . . these are good Christian women. 

I find that you often need to remove both of those adjectives.

And, the men are snookered. I had a Baptist man defend the movie Fireproof to me the other day. I was gobsmacked.



Oh, that is a dreadful movie.
I've never seen the movie and I've heard how bad it is by Orthodox, can someone explain why?

The acting is abysmal. However bad you're thinking, it's worse.

The problem with the movie is its message.



I figured the Orthodox who told him how bad it was covered that aspect, but perhaps I assume too much. I certainly had my issues with the message, but I'm interested in hearing your thoughts on it.

Short summary of the movie: man takes 40-day challenge to convince his whorish wife not to frivolously divorce him. While he is doing this, she takes off her wedding ring and flirts with a nice doctor at work.

Watch the few minutes after this link until about the 42 minute mark. He makes nice gestures, and she is a flaming shrew:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IxKDeNnBUM0&t=35m8s

"I don't have for coffee" Oh, do you have time for me to put that mug someplace uncomfortable?

Note her whorish lunch date at 1:04 and her getting busted at 1:12. Oh, and can I puke at 1:22 - "has anyone ever told you that you're wonderful?" 1:28 "my husband has had his chance"

She can only stop being whorish until her husband spends his entire savings on what she wants to buy.


Along the same lines as my issues then:

It takes two to tango in a marriage, and while I allow for the possibility of exceptional cases to contradict this, the majority of the time a marriage does not fall on one person's actions alone. In Fireproof, I felt like they went out of their way to portray him as this jerky guy who couldn't care less about his wife (all that money! the porn!), but what we don't see is their history and her actions beforehand. Not that I'm saying that it's totally okay to treat your spouse like crap if you feel justified... but actions don't happen in a vacuum. Maybe he couldn't care less because she's always been a "flaming shrew".
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: SolEX01 on May 18, 2012, 10:33:02 PM
Is having confidence and stability a bad thing whether one is a "jerk" or a "nice guy?"

Not at all. The problem is that women like confidence men. Nice guys aren't big in the confidence department. They tend to be inoffensive, placating pushovers. Boring!

"something was missing" - that can go either way.  I didn't pursue marriage with one woman because I found a lot lacking in her and I was a jerk to her at times.

In these cases, what is missing is "tingles" that the woman wants to feel. Do I need to be explicit as to where she wants to feel them?

See, the woman has an issue that isn't obvious during the courtship phase and rears its ugly head after the marriage - whether 1, 5, 10, 20, 50 years have passed.  Divorce is less stigmatizing than 20, 30, 40, 50 years ago.  With Facebook, old acquaintances can come back into the picture (e.g. one spouse marries a nice person and rediscovers the jerk on Facebook).

Because the jerk gives her the tingles.

Tingling is stronger than love.

That is the tragedy.

That is life.  How one reacts to the temptations that surround him? the temptations to be a jerk; the temptations to take advantage of unsuspecting women; the response to women who tell him that he makes them tingle.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 18, 2012, 10:35:26 PM
I reject the notion that a person has to be a jerk in order to exhibit confidence, stability, and the like while being decent.  TRUE confidence does not require being a jerk, or even an Alpha male.  Likewise with stability, honor, industriousness, loyalty, and any other number of good traits.  I have known several men in my circles who are able to exhibit these traits quietly without being obnoxious bores.

You apparently reject the notion of comprehending what I have written. If you had, you would know that you are agreeing with me.

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Funny, in my more than 30 years of Church work (and hearing the conversations of my pastor father before that), I find that your first two sentences are correct.  All this proves is that most men are poorly behaved when it comes to marriage.  While I have known, personally, men who were cheated on and who had wives that went "crazy", the VAST majority of the men that I know who had their wives file against them had it coming.  In fact, the statistic that I have read is that in 75% of divorces, cheating by the man was a factor, vs 25% for women.  This is right around what I have seen.  So, I do not see the logic of your "Rather" statement as they are the minority of divorces.  Your first two statements are, however accurate by my experience.

Actually, that was a typo. I intended to write that the husband was generally not abusive, addicted, or adulterous.

If you must appeal to statistics, you will be surprised to learn that women cheat more often.

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The best and most public modern example is "Eat, Pray, Love". The first few chapters can be read on Google Books for free, and we learn it is a story of a woman who is married to a perfectly nice man, but then she goes cuckoo for no apparent reason.

Yes, I base everything that I know on books I read on Google.  My life experiences count for nothing.

Actually, you are right that your life experience is worthless. The reason is that a self-reported anecdote is not data.

I advised that the book can be read on Google because I do not recommend anyone to spend money on that trash.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shiny on May 18, 2012, 10:41:38 PM
Hey Punch you say you are a loner, I'd like to ask a little more personal questions if you don't mind?
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: orthonorm on May 19, 2012, 02:44:51 AM
Rather than have the few women who show up here be the center of attention for every man (they already are, but to make it "official" skeeves).


While I object to the word "skeevy" because it is a female shaming word up there with "creepy", your content is correct. The problem is that most men do not understand how to interact with women, as shown by the overweening attention the women here tend to receive.



Do you actually know what "skeevy" means and been around people who actually use it?

I get from the itais via yiddish. It just what whatever is gross or disgusting.

Never, ever I have I ever heard used as something used particularly about women.

For example (just examples):

Public toilets skeeve me out.

Not wearing shoes with shoes is skeevy.

If anything I have only heard the uncommon "skeevatch" applied to men.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Opus118 on May 19, 2012, 02:48:46 AM
But . . . but . . . these are good Christian women. 
I find that you often need to remove both of those adjectives.
And, the men are snookered. I had a Baptist man defend the movie Fireproof to me the other day. I was gobsmacked.

Sauron, I do not mind your working on your debating skills but it seems you are going off the deep end in this thread and I am a bit worried.

Everyone deserves to be treating with respect. The problem that many men have is that they put women on a pedestal and do their best ot be "nice guys". Then, they wonder why all the hot girls are with "jerks".

I do put women on a pedestal (and I would agree that many do not want to be in this position). They can have strengths, motivations, degrees of caring and empathy that I lack. To be able to associate with them is an honor and that association and education from their perspective makes me whole.

Nice guys looking for hot girls sounds like a  non sequitur to me. Care to justify this statement?

If the nice guys would get a clue, they would realize that most divorces are filed by the wife. Then, they would find that most of the time, the husband was abusive, addicted, or adulterous. Rather, it is just even though "he's so good to me" that "something was missing".

If men are more likely to be swayed by the attitudes that you express than women (as it appears from this forum to some extent), this supposedly statistical observation is quite understandable.

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The best and most public modern example is "Eat, Pray, Love". The first few chapters can be read on Google Books for free, and we learn it is a story of a woman who is married to a perfectly nice man, but then she goes cuckoo for no apparent reason.

Without further information this appears to be an extrapolation of a single instance into a generality. Again Sauron, this worries me because you are usually crisp and clear in the logic of your thinking which makes me think something else is going on in your life.

The other thing that disturbs me is that your attitude is so akin to the precepts of Lykis101, which conceivably you derived yourself. It might be useful to discuss Tom Lykis from an Orthodox perspective if you care to do so.

Finally, I was raised by my father to be a gentleman. He was a exceptional human being. I frankly can't remember him ever erring from the path that Christ set out for us to follow. I need him now and I am surviving on the basis of my remembrance of him.  I greatly appreciated the logic of your arguments in the past and I wish you will return to your old self.  I am tired of your current vapid statements. Take care (meaning I am striving to be a nice guy and one of my goals in life is caring about you).

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on May 19, 2012, 03:25:43 AM
I don't understand how men here showing women attention is evidence of some deficiency, but men going back and forth amongst one another (Sauron, Punch, Orthonorm) in order to hash out what is manliness at its most man is...well, I guess it's enough to say I don't get the point of the recent discussion.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: orthonorm on May 19, 2012, 04:18:24 AM
I don't understand how men here showing women attention is evidence of some deficiency, but men going back and forth amongst one another (Sauron, Punch, Orthonorm) in order to hash out what is manliness at its most man is...well, I guess it's enough to say I don't get the point of the recent discussion.

Make the thread private and we can speak about this explicitly.

Or not, cause I dunno if I can find a bus large enough to fit what I to throw under it.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ironchapman on May 19, 2012, 04:19:59 AM
I don't understand how men here showing women attention is evidence of some deficiency, but men going back and forth amongst one another (Sauron, Punch, Orthonorm) in order to hash out what is manliness at its most man is...well, I guess it's enough to say I don't get the point of the recent discussion.

Make the thread private and we can speak about this explicitly.

Or not, cause I dunno if I can find a bus large enough to fit what I to throw under it.
Ouch.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 19, 2012, 02:26:24 PM

If anything I have only heard the uncommon "skeevatch" applied to men.


Then you understand why I called it a female shaming word up there with "creepy" i.e. a word used by women to shame men.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: orthonorm on May 19, 2012, 03:49:57 PM

If anything I have only heard the uncommon "skeevatch" applied to men.


Then you understand why I called it a female shaming word up there with "creepy" i.e. a word used by women to shame men.



I see what you saying now (very late night). I guess I've never heard many women use the term. Nearly all the people I've ever heard use the term have been men.

Some men are creeps though.

The term I hear used in this context by women where I live now is:

creeper

and with excess to your point in general.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 20, 2012, 02:34:56 PM

Also, bigger churches usually have some sort of outreach programs to help young adults and singles. Here's one for the Atlanta area: http://www.atlgoc.org/ministries/parish-ministires/youth-organizations/youth-organizations.html (why it's listed as "youth" I don't know)


A few years ago here in the DC metro area they started an Orthodox Singles group. At the first get together they were over run by attendance. Hundreds of people showed up.

They go on day trips, have mixers, BBQ's, dances etc. Several marriages have resulted.  

Thanks guys. Theses are all EO events.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Azul on May 20, 2012, 02:45:17 PM

Also, bigger churches usually have some sort of outreach programs to help young adults and singles. Here's one for the Atlanta area: http://www.atlgoc.org/ministries/parish-ministires/youth-organizations/youth-organizations.html (why it's listed as "youth" I don't know)


A few years ago here in the DC metro area they started an Orthodox Singles group. At the first get together they were over run by attendance. Hundreds of people showed up.

They go on day trips, have mixers, BBQ's, dances etc. Several marriages have resulted.  

Thanks guys. Theses are all EO events.

What is the meaning of your icon?

Where is your picture?
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 20, 2012, 03:09:26 PM
But . . . but . . . these are good Christian women. 

Rather than have the few women who show up here be the center of attention for every man (they already are, but to make it "official" skeeves).


While I object to the word "skeevy" because it is a female shaming word up there with "creepy", your content is correct. The problem is that most men do not understand how to interact with women, as shown by the overweening attention the women here tend to receive.



But . . . but . . . these are good Christian women. 

I find that you often need to remove both of those adjectives.

And, the men are snookered. I had a Baptist man defend the movie Fireproof to me the other day. I was gobsmacked.



Whoa! I don’t know how we got to talking about “jerks” and “whores”…honestly,  I’m not here for attention. My thread was posted jokingly with a serious question. No one here has to believe, but I am a good Christian looking for someone who is similar.

My future husband isn’t based on a movie or someone’s view of how a man/woman should be. In my opinion, a man who reads the Holy Bible and fears God knows how to treat a woman.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 20, 2012, 03:18:57 PM

Also, bigger churches usually have some sort of outreach programs to help young adults and singles. Here's one for the Atlanta area: http://www.atlgoc.org/ministries/parish-ministires/youth-organizations/youth-organizations.html (why it's listed as "youth" I don't know)


A few years ago here in the DC metro area they started an Orthodox Singles group. At the first get together they were over run by attendance. Hundreds of people showed up.

They go on day trips, have mixers, BBQ's, dances etc. Several marriages have resulted.  

Thanks guys. Theses are all EO events.

What is the meaning of your icon?

Where is your picture?
My Icon is St. Qirqos (baby St. Cherkos) with his mother and archangel Gabriel. I don’t know their names in English.

My picture was up only for 2 days. Now is gone :)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Azul on May 20, 2012, 03:20:52 PM

Also, bigger churches usually have some sort of outreach programs to help young adults and singles. Here's one for the Atlanta area: http://www.atlgoc.org/ministries/parish-ministires/youth-organizations/youth-organizations.html (why it's listed as "youth" I don't know)


A few years ago here in the DC metro area they started an Orthodox Singles group. At the first get together they were over run by attendance. Hundreds of people showed up.

They go on day trips, have mixers, BBQ's, dances etc. Several marriages have resulted.  

Thanks guys. Theses are all EO events.

What is the meaning of your icon?

Where is your picture?
My Icon is St. Qirqos (baby St. Cherkos) with his mother and archangel Gabriel. I don’t know their names in English.

My picture was up only for 2 days. Now is gone :)

Why are they being boiled ?

I haven`t seen your picture.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 20, 2012, 04:51:50 PM

Also, bigger churches usually have some sort of outreach programs to help young adults and singles. Here's one for the Atlanta area: http://www.atlgoc.org/ministries/parish-ministires/youth-organizations/youth-organizations.html (why it's listed as "youth" I don't know)


A few years ago here in the DC metro area they started an Orthodox Singles group. At the first get together they were over run by attendance. Hundreds of people showed up.

They go on day trips, have mixers, BBQ's, dances etc. Several marriages have resulted.  

Thanks guys. Theses are all EO events.

What is the meaning of your icon?

Where is your picture?
My Icon is St. Qirqos (baby St. Cherkos) with his mother and archangel Gabriel. I don’t know their names in English.

My picture was up only for 2 days. Now is gone :)

Why are they being boiled ?

I haven`t seen your picture.

My guess would be that they were boiled for the same reason that Christians have been roasted, fried, baked and grilled.  Certain people have not liked Christians throughout the ages and sometimes were less than civil to them.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Hiwot on May 20, 2012, 05:20:51 PM
They are Holy Martyrs three year old St.Kyrikos( Cyriacus/Qyriacus) and his mother St. Julietta (Eyalutha) being tortured. these are very re-known early christian martyrs. the exact account of their martyrdom varies slightly, however every one knows they were martyred.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on May 20, 2012, 05:52:44 PM
Here is information on the lives and martyrdom of St. Kyriakos and Eulita (http://www.copticchurch.net/topics/synexarion/kyricos.html) from copticchurch.net's searchable synaxarium.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shanghaiski on May 20, 2012, 06:08:25 PM
But . . . but . . . these are good Christian women. 

Rather than have the few women who show up here be the center of attention for every man (they already are, but to make it "official" skeeves).


While I object to the word "skeevy" because it is a female shaming word up there with "creepy", your content is correct. The problem is that most men do not understand how to interact with women, as shown by the overweening attention the women here tend to receive.



But . . . but . . . these are good Christian women. 

I find that you often need to remove both of those adjectives.

And, the men are snookered. I had a Baptist man defend the movie Fireproof to me the other day. I was gobsmacked.



Whoa! I don’t know how we got to talking about “jerks” and “whores”…honestly,  I’m not here for attention. My thread was posted jokingly with a serious question. No one here has to believe, but I am a good Christian looking for someone who is similar.

My future husband isn’t based on a movie or someone’s view of how a man/woman should be. In my opinion, a man who reads the Holy Bible and fears God knows how to treat a woman.


That's the difficult thing--it may not be hard to meet people, but how do you find the right person? If face-to-face conversations aren't possible--since there may be few eligible Orthodox Christians in your area--online conversations are better than nothing. The sadly defunct Orthodox Circle was a good place for conversations. Maybe OC.net's PM function might be helpful for the purpose of conversations. Then, if the conversation goes well, you could move to a personal instant message service like Skype. Skype and other services allow you to block people, if it should sadly come to that. E-harmony has been helpful to some, but it's pretty expensive.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shanghaiski on May 20, 2012, 06:15:26 PM
My verdict is: "Too much make up, madame". If I moved across the Ocean and we started going out you should know I like girls with all the pimples, freckles, moles, etc. You girls look more like real people then (and they are cute).
Lol
That’s a 1st! I do not wear makeup except lipstick. Most men don’t like lipstick and I’m assuming you are one of them :D

I saw your avatar when it was you. I give you a 7, so you have a good chance of getting a 6-8 man, which is pretty good.

Thanks. I would’ve liked an 8 or 9 better, but I can deal with a “7” too  :) Did race play any role in your decision making? *this question has nothing to do with being racism only preference*


Race had nothing to do with your rating, although I note that you haven't the slightest idea what my race is, so we could be the same ethnicity for all you know. I would also remark that one has no duty to be attracted equally to all ethnicities.

A 7 is pretty good, so you should be happy with that. Please keep in mind that this is a bell curve, not a linear scale.



FWIW, it doesn't really matter if she knows what race you are, preferences are not always depended upon the race of the one with the preference.  A number of non-Caucasian ethnicities frequently rate higher on my scale,.


Thanks, J. :)

Personally, I'm not concerned about race or culture. I'm looking for faith, kindness, strength, and stability.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Opus118 on May 20, 2012, 09:13:55 PM
My verdict is: "Too much make up, madame". If I moved across the Ocean and we started going out you should know I like girls with all the pimples, freckles, moles, etc. You girls look more like real people then (and they are cute).
Lol
That’s a 1st! I do not wear makeup except lipstick. Most men don’t like lipstick and I’m assuming you are one of them :D

I saw your avatar when it was you. I give you a 7, so you have a good chance of getting a 6-8 man, which is pretty good.

Thanks. I would’ve liked an 8 or 9 better, but I can deal with a “7” too  :) Did race play any role in your decision making? *this question has nothing to do with being racism only preference*


Race had nothing to do with your rating, although I note that you haven't the slightest idea what my race is, so we could be the same ethnicity for all you know. I would also remark that one has no duty to be attracted equally to all ethnicities.

A 7 is pretty good, so you should be happy with that. Please keep in mind that this is a bell curve, not a linear scale.



FWIW, it doesn't really matter if she knows what race you are, preferences are not always depended upon the race of the one with the preference.  A number of non-Caucasian ethnicities frequently rate higher on my scale,.


Thanks, J. :)

Personally, I'm not concerned about race or culture. I'm looking for faith, kindness, strength, and stability.

This made my day. Although I might translate strength to a mutual desire to overcome weakness.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Hiwot on May 20, 2012, 09:35:53 PM
My verdict is: "Too much make up, madame". If I moved across the Ocean and we started going out you should know I like girls with all the pimples, freckles, moles, etc. You girls look more like real people then (and they are cute).
Lol
That’s a 1st! I do not wear makeup except lipstick. Most men don’t like lipstick and I’m assuming you are one of them :D

I saw your avatar when it was you. I give you a 7, so you have a good chance of getting a 6-8 man, which is pretty good.

Thanks. I would’ve liked an 8 or 9 better, but I can deal with a “7” too  :) Did race play any role in your decision making? *this question has nothing to do with being racism only preference*


Race had nothing to do with your rating, although I note that you haven't the slightest idea what my race is, so we could be the same ethnicity for all you know. I would also remark that one has no duty to be attracted equally to all ethnicities.

A 7 is pretty good, so you should be happy with that. Please keep in mind that this is a bell curve, not a linear scale.



FWIW, it doesn't really matter if she knows what race you are, preferences are not always depended upon the race of the one with the preference.  A number of non-Caucasian ethnicities frequently rate higher on my scale,.


Thanks, J. :)

Personally, I'm not concerned about race or culture. I'm looking for faith, kindness, strength, and stability.

This made my day. Although I might translate strength to a mutual desire to overcome weakness.

Ah! what the both of you said made My day! I can only say Amen to all of them.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ironchapman on May 20, 2012, 09:43:19 PM
Personally, I'm not concerned about race or culture. I'm looking for faith, kindness, strength, and stability.

This made my day. Although I might translate strength to a mutual desire to overcome weakness.
Like Hiwot, I like both of these as well. It's the same kind of things I try to be.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 21, 2012, 02:21:09 PM
Finally, I was raised by my father to be a gentleman. He was a exceptional human being. I frankly can't remember him ever erring from the path that Christ set out for us to follow. I need him now and I am surviving on the basis of my remembrance of him.  I greatly appreciated the logic of your arguments in the past and I wish you will return to your old self.  I am tired of your current vapid statements. Take care (meaning I am striving to be a nice guy and one of my goals in life is caring about you).

Did your mother submit to him?
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shanghaiski on May 21, 2012, 02:31:08 PM
My verdict is: "Too much make up, madame". If I moved across the Ocean and we started going out you should know I like girls with all the pimples, freckles, moles, etc. You girls look more like real people then (and they are cute).
Lol
That’s a 1st! I do not wear makeup except lipstick. Most men don’t like lipstick and I’m assuming you are one of them :D

I saw your avatar when it was you. I give you a 7, so you have a good chance of getting a 6-8 man, which is pretty good.

Thanks. I would’ve liked an 8 or 9 better, but I can deal with a “7” too  :) Did race play any role in your decision making? *this question has nothing to do with being racism only preference*


Race had nothing to do with your rating, although I note that you haven't the slightest idea what my race is, so we could be the same ethnicity for all you know. I would also remark that one has no duty to be attracted equally to all ethnicities.

A 7 is pretty good, so you should be happy with that. Please keep in mind that this is a bell curve, not a linear scale.



FWIW, it doesn't really matter if she knows what race you are, preferences are not always depended upon the race of the one with the preference.  A number of non-Caucasian ethnicities frequently rate higher on my scale,.


Thanks, J. :)

Personally, I'm not concerned about race or culture. I'm looking for faith, kindness, strength, and stability.

This made my day. Although I might translate strength to a mutual desire to overcome weakness.

More better!
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shanghaiski on May 21, 2012, 02:36:24 PM
My verdict is: "Too much make up, madame". If I moved across the Ocean and we started going out you should know I like girls with all the pimples, freckles, moles, etc. You girls look more like real people then (and they are cute).
Lol
That’s a 1st! I do not wear makeup except lipstick. Most men don’t like lipstick and I’m assuming you are one of them :D

I saw your avatar when it was you. I give you a 7, so you have a good chance of getting a 6-8 man, which is pretty good.

Thanks. I would’ve liked an 8 or 9 better, but I can deal with a “7” too  :) Did race play any role in your decision making? *this question has nothing to do with being racism only preference*


Race had nothing to do with your rating, although I note that you haven't the slightest idea what my race is, so we could be the same ethnicity for all you know. I would also remark that one has no duty to be attracted equally to all ethnicities.

A 7 is pretty good, so you should be happy with that. Please keep in mind that this is a bell curve, not a linear scale.



FWIW, it doesn't really matter if she knows what race you are, preferences are not always depended upon the race of the one with the preference.  A number of non-Caucasian ethnicities frequently rate higher on my scale,.


Thanks, J. :)

Personally, I'm not concerned about race or culture. I'm looking for faith, kindness, strength, and stability.

This made my day. Although I might translate strength to a mutual desire to overcome weakness.

Ah! what the both of you said made My day! I can only say Amen to all of them.

Although I must add, the Ethiopian women I have seen have all been beautiful. (And it wasn't just because they were offering me food. Though, my suspicion is the Queen of Sheba brought berbere to Solomon.)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 21, 2012, 02:52:49 PM
My verdict is: "Too much make up, madame". If I moved across the Ocean and we started going out you should know I like girls with all the pimples, freckles, moles, etc. You girls look more like real people then (and they are cute).
Lol
That’s a 1st! I do not wear makeup except lipstick. Most men don’t like lipstick and I’m assuming you are one of them :D

I saw your avatar when it was you. I give you a 7, so you have a good chance of getting a 6-8 man, which is pretty good.

Thanks. I would’ve liked an 8 or 9 better, but I can deal with a “7” too  :) Did race play any role in your decision making? *this question has nothing to do with being racism only preference*


Race had nothing to do with your rating, although I note that you haven't the slightest idea what my race is, so we could be the same ethnicity for all you know. I would also remark that one has no duty to be attracted equally to all ethnicities.

A 7 is pretty good, so you should be happy with that. Please keep in mind that this is a bell curve, not a linear scale.



FWIW, it doesn't really matter if she knows what race you are, preferences are not always depended upon the race of the one with the preference.  A number of non-Caucasian ethnicities frequently rate higher on my scale,.


Thanks, J. :)

Personally, I'm not concerned about race or culture. I'm looking for faith, kindness, strength, and stability.

This made my day. Although I might translate strength to a mutual desire to overcome weakness.

Ah! what the both of you said made My day! I can only say Amen to all of them.

Although I must add, the Ethiopian women I have seen have all been beautiful. (And it wasn't just because they were offering me food. Though, my suspicion is the Queen of Sheba brought berbere to Solomon.)

I have to say that I have noticed the same thing (interestingly, they were bringing me food, too).  My father spent two years in Ethiopia when he was a teen, and he has remarked at the beauty of the Ethiopian girls.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 21, 2012, 11:48:52 PM
Although I must add, the Ethiopian women I have seen have all been beautiful. (And it wasn't just because they were offering me food. Though, my suspicion is the Queen of Sheba brought berbere to Solomon.)

I have to say that I have noticed the same thing (interestingly, they were bringing me food, too).  My father spent two years in Ethiopia when he was a teen, and he has remarked at the beauty of the Ethiopian girls.

Here is a picture of average faces from around the world. Ethopian is ok, but there are lots of other countries that are hotter. Samoan is the ugliest, of course. As for me, I am all about Uzbek. Lord have mercy (x3).

(http://pics.kuvaton.com/kuvei/average_faces.jpg)

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on May 21, 2012, 11:52:14 PM
Here is a picture of average faces from around the world. Ethopian is ok, but there are lots of other countries that are hotter. Samoan is the ugliest, of course.

Is it fun being a jerk? ???
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 22, 2012, 12:00:13 AM
Here is a picture of average faces from around the world. Ethopian is ok, but there are lots of other countries that are hotter. Samoan is the ugliest, of course.

Is it fun being a jerk? ???

How am I being a jerk by expressing my taste in women's faces?

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on May 22, 2012, 12:06:54 AM
I guess I just don't see why it is necessary to call Samoans ugly (and in a way that makes it clear that it should be obvious, as though we should all share your opinion) in order to call Uzbeks beautiful, but you're right that there's nothing wrong with posting faces in general. We have a whole thread for it.

So when will your Uzbek wife be converting to Orthodoxy?
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Byron on May 22, 2012, 12:07:06 AM
Here is a picture of average faces from around the world. Ethopian is ok, but there are lots of other countries that are hotter. Samoan is the ugliest, of course.

Is it fun being a jerk? ???

Interesting that the South African girl pictured is white. Unfortunately racial persecution has made life very difficult for whites in SA and they are leaving the country they established and built up.

Otherwise the Greek, Polish and Swiss are the most attractive.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 22, 2012, 12:10:26 AM
I guess I just don't see why it is necessary to call Samoans ugly (and in a way that makes it clear that it should be obvious, as though we should all share your opinion) in order to call Uzbeks beautiful, but you're right that there's nothing wrong with posting faces in general. We have a whole thread for it.

So when will your Uzbek wife be converting to Orthodoxy?

Well, "I don't see why it is necessary" does not mean "you are a jerk". Ice cream sundaes and roller coasters are not necessary. Most of the people who have ever lived on this earth have never even heard of ice cream. So what?

Anyway, the pictures are all composites, so I am not being uncharitable to any particular person.

My wife is not Uzbek. I have a beautiful young Japanese wife. She will convert if she chooses. One cannot force a flower to open.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 22, 2012, 12:12:11 AM
Interesting that the South African girl pictured is white. Unfortunately racial persecution has made life very difficult for whites in SA and they are leaving the country they established and built up.

Otherwise the Greek, Polish and Swiss are the most attractive.

Yeah, too bad about SA. Afrikaans is on my list of languages to learn.

I think the Greek composite is the hottest of the three you mentioned. What is remarkable is how attractive most of these composites are.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Byron on May 22, 2012, 12:22:27 AM
Interesting that the South African girl pictured is white. Unfortunately racial persecution has made life very difficult for whites in SA and they are leaving the country they established and built up.

Otherwise the Greek, Polish and Swiss are the most attractive.

Yeah, too bad about SA. Afrikaans is on my list of languages to learn.

I think the Greek composite is the hottest of the three you mentioned. What is remarkable is how attractive most of these composites are.



Cheers. You have good taste!

Med women (Spanish, Italian, Greek, French) i find in general to be the most attractive. Followed by central and northern European.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 22, 2012, 12:27:48 AM
Interesting that the South African girl pictured is white. Unfortunately racial persecution has made life very difficult for whites in SA and they are leaving the country they established and built up.

Otherwise the Greek, Polish and Swiss are the most attractive.

Yeah, too bad about SA. Afrikaans is on my list of languages to learn.

I think the Greek composite is the hottest of the three you mentioned. What is remarkable is how attractive most of these composites are.



Cheers. You have good taste!

Med women (Spanish, Italian, Greek, French) i find in general to be the most attractive. Followed by central and northern European.

My mother's line is Spanish and it has really come out in my daughter as quite a blend of Japanese and northern Iberian features. It is hard for us to go a day without a stranger commenting to us how lovely she is. I am going to have to be very careful with this tot.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: SolEX01 on May 22, 2012, 12:35:33 AM
I wonder how were those composites created?
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 22, 2012, 12:51:36 AM
Here is a picture of average faces from around the world. Ethopian is ok, but there are lots of other countries that are hotter. Samoan is the ugliest, of course.

Is it fun being a jerk? ???

How am I being a jerk by expressing my taste in women's faces?



It's all a matter of tastes.  Normally I would go for Korean, hands down, but for personal reasons I will have to agree that Uzbeks are the prettiest!
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Opus118 on May 22, 2012, 12:52:08 AM
Finally, I was raised by my father to be a gentleman. He was a exceptional human being. I frankly can't remember him ever erring from the path that Christ set out for us to follow. I need him now and I am surviving on the basis of my remembrance of him.  I greatly appreciated the logic of your arguments in the past and I wish you will return to your old self.  I am tired of your current vapid statements. Take care (meaning I am striving to be a nice guy and one of my goals in life is caring about you).

Did your mother submit to him?

It is a shame you posted this post-weekend. I will answer the question. But first I would like you to tell me precisely what you personally mean by the phrase in your own words, with no scripture citations, just your own words, with no ambiguities, demonstrating the precise question that your are curious about, such that anyone over age 16 could understand. Anything less is a cop out and the ball is in your court. The reason I am asking is that I do not understand the logic in your question. Which is worrisome, so you might want to deal with that as well.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Azul on May 22, 2012, 09:20:52 AM
Although I must add, the Ethiopian women I have seen have all been beautiful. (And it wasn't just because they were offering me food. Though, my suspicion is the Queen of Sheba brought berbere to Solomon.)

I have to say that I have noticed the same thing (interestingly, they were bringing me food, too).  My father spent two years in Ethiopia when he was a teen, and he has remarked at the beauty of the Ethiopian girls.

Here is a picture of average faces from around the world. Ethopian is ok, but there are lots of other countries that are hotter. Samoan is the ugliest, of course. As for me, I am all about Uzbek. Lord have mercy (x3).

(http://pics.kuvaton.com/kuvei/average_faces.jpg)



They all look alike.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Aindriú on May 22, 2012, 10:01:29 AM
Lol, no they don't.

Uzbek, meh.

For me it's Welsh, English, Finnish, French, and Swiss. Woah.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 22, 2012, 10:01:42 AM
I wonder how were those composites created?

They are combinations of many head shots.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 22, 2012, 10:02:51 AM
Finally, I was raised by my father to be a gentleman. He was a exceptional human being. I frankly can't remember him ever erring from the path that Christ set out for us to follow. I need him now and I am surviving on the basis of my remembrance of him.  I greatly appreciated the logic of your arguments in the past and I wish you will return to your old self.  I am tired of your current vapid statements. Take care (meaning I am striving to be a nice guy and one of my goals in life is caring about you).

Did your mother submit to him?

It is a shame you posted this post-weekend. I will answer the question. But first I would like you to tell me precisely what you personally mean by the phrase in your own words, with no scripture citations, just your own words, with no ambiguities, demonstrating the precise question that your are curious about, such that anyone over age 16 could understand. Anything less is a cop out and the ball is in your court. The reason I am asking is that I do not understand the logic in your question. Which is worrisome, so you might want to deal with that as well.


What don't you understand about the question, "Did your mother submit to him?"

Your worry is a personal problem, so I am not going to deal with it.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Opus118 on May 22, 2012, 10:43:47 AM
Finally, I was raised by my father to be a gentleman. He was a exceptional human being. I frankly can't remember him ever erring from the path that Christ set out for us to follow. I need him now and I am surviving on the basis of my remembrance of him.  I greatly appreciated the logic of your arguments in the past and I wish you will return to your old self.  I am tired of your current vapid statements. Take care (meaning I am striving to be a nice guy and one of my goals in life is caring about you).

Did your mother submit to him?

It is a shame you posted this post-weekend. I will answer the question. But first I would like you to tell me precisely what you personally mean by the phrase in your own words, with no scripture citations, just your own words, with no ambiguities, demonstrating the precise question that your are curious about, such that anyone over age 16 could understand. Anything less is a cop out and the ball is in your court. The reason I am asking is that I do not understand the logic in your question. Which is worrisome, so you might want to deal with that as well.



What don't you understand about the question, "Did your mother submit to him?"

Your worry is a personal problem, so I am not going to deal with it.

I understood it to be a vague and open ended question. I decided to have some control of the center of the board rather than winging it. What didn't you understand by my reply? Is is clear enough for you now?

In regard to the other matter, I think you have changed, you can take it or leave it.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 22, 2012, 10:57:55 AM
Finally, I was raised by my father to be a gentleman. He was a exceptional human being. I frankly can't remember him ever erring from the path that Christ set out for us to follow. I need him now and I am surviving on the basis of my remembrance of him.  I greatly appreciated the logic of your arguments in the past and I wish you will return to your old self.  I am tired of your current vapid statements. Take care (meaning I am striving to be a nice guy and one of my goals in life is caring about you).

Did your mother submit to him?

It is a shame you posted this post-weekend. I will answer the question. But first I would like you to tell me precisely what you personally mean by the phrase in your own words, with no scripture citations, just your own words, with no ambiguities, demonstrating the precise question that your are curious about, such that anyone over age 16 could understand. Anything less is a cop out and the ball is in your court. The reason I am asking is that I do not understand the logic in your question. Which is worrisome, so you might want to deal with that as well.



What don't you understand about the question, "Did your mother submit to him?"

Your worry is a personal problem, so I am not going to deal with it.

I understood it to be a vague and open ended question. I decided to have some control of the center of the board rather than winging it. What didn't you understand by my reply? Is is clear enough for you now?

I am sorry it is vague and open-ended to you. I asked the question with certain passages of scripture in mind, so I imagine those writers were also vague and open-ended. Don't shoot the messenger.

Did your mother submit to your father?
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ZealousZeal on May 22, 2012, 12:15:44 PM
I think the Polish girl is the prettiest.  ;D
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 22, 2012, 12:21:07 PM
Someone had previously asked how the composites were made. Here is a link that demonstrates the technology:

http://www.faceresearch.org/demos/average
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Azul on May 22, 2012, 01:09:25 PM
I think the Polish girl is the prettiest.  ;D

I think you are prettier than them :D  :police:
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 22, 2012, 01:12:12 PM
I think the Polish girl is the prettiest.  ;D

I think you are prettier than them :D  :police:

This is exactly the sort of pedestal behavior I have been telling you people about.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Aindriú on May 22, 2012, 01:20:37 PM
I think the Polish girl is the prettiest.  ;D

I think you are prettier than them :D  :police:

(http://xbradtc.files.wordpress.com/2010/04/facepalm.jpg)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 22, 2012, 01:23:21 PM
Personally, I'm not concerned about race or culture. I'm looking for faith, kindness, strength, and stability.

I'm not either. Faith, matters the most.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on May 22, 2012, 01:28:30 PM
I'm always happy to see you posting in your own thread, Ergib. ;D I hope your search is going well. I'm sure there is someone out there for you with great faith. All Tewahedo I have personally known strike me as being very committed, so it seems like the odds should be in your favor, especially if you add in Copts, Syrians, and all the other people we can marry.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Asteriktos on May 22, 2012, 01:34:47 PM
I see almost all the women on that there graphic as good looking. I guess that's what happens when you watch a lot of porn: you begin to be able to find something beautiful about everyone regardless of how different they are; you can appreciate beauty in all it's variety, without getting boxed into some narrow idea of which look is best.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 22, 2012, 01:47:48 PM
My verdict is: "Too much make up, madame". If I moved across the Ocean and we started going out you should know I like girls with all the pimples, freckles, moles, etc. You girls look more like real people then (and they are cute).
Lol
That’s a 1st! I do not wear makeup except lipstick. Most men don’t like lipstick and I’m assuming you are one of them :D

I saw your avatar when it was you. I give you a 7, so you have a good chance of getting a 6-8 man, which is pretty good.

Thanks. I would’ve liked an 8 or 9 better, but I can deal with a “7” too  :) Did race play any role in your decision making? *this question has nothing to do with being racism only preference*


Race had nothing to do with your rating, although I note that you haven't the slightest idea what my race is, so we could be the same ethnicity for all you know. I would also remark that one has no duty to be attracted equally to all ethnicities.

A 7 is pretty good, so you should be happy with that. Please keep in mind that this is a bell curve, not a linear scale.



FWIW, it doesn't really matter if she knows what race you are, preferences are not always depended upon the race of the one with the preference.  A number of non-Caucasian ethnicities frequently rate higher on my scale,.


Thanks, J. :)

Personally, I'm not concerned about race or culture. I'm looking for faith, kindness, strength, and stability.

This made my day. Although I might translate strength to a mutual desire to overcome weakness.

Ah! what the both of you said made My day! I can only say Amen to all of them.

Although I must add, the Ethiopian women I have seen have all been beautiful. (And it wasn't just because they were offering me food. Though, my suspicion is the Queen of Sheba brought berbere to Solomon.)
I thank you, on behalf of many beautiful Ethiopian women. ;D

I tell you, “berbere” does wonders.  We are grateful to have Menelik as a return of Queen Sheba’s gift to King Solomon. :)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 22, 2012, 01:50:30 PM
My verdict is: "Too much make up, madame". If I moved across the Ocean and we started going out you should know I like girls with all the pimples, freckles, moles, etc. You girls look more like real people then (and they are cute).
Lol
That’s a 1st! I do not wear makeup except lipstick. Most men don’t like lipstick and I’m assuming you are one of them :D

I saw your avatar when it was you. I give you a 7, so you have a good chance of getting a 6-8 man, which is pretty good.

Thanks. I would’ve liked an 8 or 9 better, but I can deal with a “7” too  :) Did race play any role in your decision making? *this question has nothing to do with being racism only preference*


Race had nothing to do with your rating, although I note that you haven't the slightest idea what my race is, so we could be the same ethnicity for all you know. I would also remark that one has no duty to be attracted equally to all ethnicities.

A 7 is pretty good, so you should be happy with that. Please keep in mind that this is a bell curve, not a linear scale.



FWIW, it doesn't really matter if she knows what race you are, preferences are not always depended upon the race of the one with the preference.  A number of non-Caucasian ethnicities frequently rate higher on my scale,.


Thanks, J. :)

Personally, I'm not concerned about race or culture. I'm looking for faith, kindness, strength, and stability.

This made my day. Although I might translate strength to a mutual desire to overcome weakness.

Ah! what the both of you said made My day! I can only say Amen to all of them.

Although I must add, the Ethiopian women I have seen have all been beautiful. (And it wasn't just because they were offering me food. Though, my suspicion is the Queen of Sheba brought berbere to Solomon.)

I have to say that I have noticed the same thing (interestingly, they were bringing me food, too).  My father spent two years in Ethiopia when he was a teen, and he has remarked at the beauty of the Ethiopian girls.
What can I say?!  We love Injera so much! …therefore, we enjoy sharing it ;D
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Azul on May 22, 2012, 01:55:13 PM
I think the Polish girl is the prettiest.  ;D

I think you are prettier than them :D  :police:

This is exactly the sort of pedestal behavior I have been telling you people about.

This is not the way you should discuss women , like they are some sort of prey .. You scarred her away you wank.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 22, 2012, 01:58:29 PM
Samoan is the ugliest, of course.

If you consider yourself Christian, remember that God’s works are all beautiful. “unattractive” would be a proper/right word.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 22, 2012, 02:02:03 PM
Hey Punch you say you are a loner, I'd like to ask a little more personal questions if you don't mind?

Did not see this post earlier.  Ask away.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on May 22, 2012, 02:03:21 PM
Man...this thread makes me want Ethiopian food.

Oh, who am I kidding, everything makes me want Ethiopian food. :-[
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Hiwot on May 22, 2012, 02:04:38 PM
I think the Polish girl is the prettiest.  ;D

I think you are prettier than them :D  :police:

This is exactly the sort of pedestal behavior I have been telling you people about.

This is not the way you should discuss women , like they are some sort of prey .. You scarred her away you wank.

this is getting hilarious! :laugh: :laugh: Azul is the vegetarian shark lol
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 22, 2012, 02:06:53 PM
I'm always happy to see you posting in your own thread, Ergib. ;D I hope your search is going well. I'm sure there is someone out there for you with great faith. All Tewahedo I have personally known strike me as being very committed, so it seems like the odds should be in your favor, especially if you add in Copts, Syrians, and all the other people we can marry.


Thanks, dzheremi. ;)

I seem to run into (meet) non-religious Tewahedo men….I prefer Tewahedo (for culture sake), but I’m open to marrying any other OO regardless of race.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 22, 2012, 02:07:39 PM
Man...this thread makes me want Ethiopian food.

Oh, who am I kidding, everything makes me want Ethiopian food. :-[

lol
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 22, 2012, 02:08:33 PM
I think the Polish girl is the prettiest.  ;D

I think you are prettier than them :D  :police:

This is exactly the sort of pedestal behavior I have been telling you people about.

This is not the way you should discuss women , like they are some sort of prey .. You scarred her away you wank.

this is getting hilarious! :laugh: :laugh: Azul is the vegetarian shark lol

I don't think it is appropriate for you to be calling Azul fat!  Do you even know him in real life!?  When I think of "vegetarian shark" the only thing that comes to mind is rhincodon typus, and that is not very polite!


 ;)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Hiwot on May 22, 2012, 02:08:55 PM
I see almost all the women on that there graphic as good looking. I guess that's what happens when you watch a lot of porn: you begin to be able to find something beautiful about everyone regardless of how different they are; you can appreciate beauty in all it's variety, without getting boxed into some narrow idea of which look is best.
Oh My! this killed me! LOL!
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 22, 2012, 02:09:54 PM
I'm always happy to see you posting in your own thread, Ergib. ;D I hope your search is going well. I'm sure there is someone out there for you with great faith. All Tewahedo I have personally known strike me as being very committed, so it seems like the odds should be in your favor, especially if you add in Copts, Syrians, and all the other people we can marry.


Thanks, dzheremi. ;)

I seem to run into (meet) non-religious Tewahedo men….I prefer Tewahedo (for culture sake), but I’m open to marrying any other OO regardless of race.

 :'(  If only you would give us dyophysites a chance!   ;)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 22, 2012, 02:11:03 PM

I have a beautiful young Japanese wife.

Could have guessed that.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ZealousZeal on May 22, 2012, 02:12:02 PM
Holy cow. I went for a run and came back to this. I think I may keep running.  ;) :D
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Azul on May 22, 2012, 02:13:51 PM
Holy cow. I went for a run and came back to this. I think I may keep running.  ;) :D

Did Sauron emberassed you, scared you away?
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 22, 2012, 02:14:18 PM

I have a beautiful young Japanese wife.

Could have guessed that.

Care to know my guess about yours?
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 22, 2012, 02:14:29 PM
Holy cow. I went for a run and came back to this. I think I may keep running.  ;) :D

Thanks.  Now I have Flock of Seagulls stuck in my head.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 22, 2012, 02:16:27 PM
I'm always happy to see you posting in your own thread, Ergib. ;D I hope your search is going well. I'm sure there is someone out there for you with great faith. All Tewahedo I have personally known strike me as being very committed, so it seems like the odds should be in your favor, especially if you add in Copts, Syrians, and all the other people we can marry.


Thanks, dzheremi. ;)

I seem to run into (meet) non-religious Tewahedo men….I prefer Tewahedo (for culture sake), but I’m open to marrying any other OO regardless of race.

 :'(  If only you would give us dyophysites a chance!   ;)
I really wish I could, but my church doesn’t allow it
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ZealousZeal on May 22, 2012, 02:17:32 PM
Holy cow. I went for a run and came back to this. I think I may keep running.  ;) :D

Did Sauron emberassed you, scared you away?

Nope. Just got offline to go run is all.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ZealousZeal on May 22, 2012, 02:17:59 PM
Holy cow. I went for a run and came back to this. I think I may keep running.  ;) :D

Thanks.  Now I have Flock of Seagulls stuck in my head.

Better in your head than in your hair. ;)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Hiwot on May 22, 2012, 02:18:43 PM
I think the Polish girl is the prettiest.  ;D

I think you are prettier than them :D  :police:

This is exactly the sort of pedestal behavior I have been telling you people about.

This is not the way you should discuss women , like they are some sort of prey .. You scarred her away you wank.

this is getting hilarious! :laugh: :laugh: Azul is the vegetarian shark lol

I don't think it is appropriate for you to be calling Azul fat!  Do you even know him in real life!?  When I think of "vegetarian shark" the only thing that comes to mind is rhincodon typus, and that is not very polite!


 ;)

LOL It was the Squalus carcharias variety in Finding Nemo, that I had in mind, but now that you mentioned it hmm ... :-\  Nope! Azul  just moves too fast to be a Whale shark ;D
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Azul on May 22, 2012, 02:25:19 PM
Holy cow. I went for a run and came back to this. I think I may keep running.  ;) :D

Did Sauron emberassed you, scared you away?

Nope. Just got offline to go run is all.

Where have you run?:D Do you jog?
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Hiwot on May 22, 2012, 02:35:44 PM
My verdict is: "Too much make up, madame". If I moved across the Ocean and we started going out you should know I like girls with all the pimples, freckles, moles, etc. You girls look more like real people then (and they are cute).
Lol
That’s a 1st! I do not wear makeup except lipstick. Most men don’t like lipstick and I’m assuming you are one of them :D

I saw your avatar when it was you. I give you a 7, so you have a good chance of getting a 6-8 man, which is pretty good.

Thanks. I would’ve liked an 8 or 9 better, but I can deal with a “7” too  :) Did race play any role in your decision making? *this question has nothing to do with being racism only preference*


Race had nothing to do with your rating, although I note that you haven't the slightest idea what my race is, so we could be the same ethnicity for all you know. I would also remark that one has no duty to be attracted equally to all ethnicities.

A 7 is pretty good, so you should be happy with that. Please keep in mind that this is a bell curve, not a linear scale.



FWIW, it doesn't really matter if she knows what race you are, preferences are not always depended upon the race of the one with the preference.  A number of non-Caucasian ethnicities frequently rate higher on my scale,.


Thanks, J. :)

Personally, I'm not concerned about race or culture. I'm looking for faith, kindness, strength, and stability.

This made my day. Although I might translate strength to a mutual desire to overcome weakness.

Ah! what the both of you said made My day! I can only say Amen to all of them.

Although I must add, the Ethiopian women I have seen have all been beautiful. (And it wasn't just because they were offering me food. Though, my suspicion is the Queen of Sheba brought berbere to Solomon.)

LOL not to mention what Moses' Ethiopian wife brought him..., that spice does set you on fire..ehm no wonder some add it in chocolate... no doubt for a nuclear effect ;) :laugh: Women! :laugh:
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: ZealousZeal on May 22, 2012, 02:36:12 PM
Holy cow. I went for a run and came back to this. I think I may keep running.  ;) :D

Did Sauron emberassed you, scared you away?

Nope. Just got offline to go run is all.

Where have you run?:D Do you jog?

Yes, I jog. Sometimes outside, sometimes on my treadmill. Depends on the day and the weather.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 22, 2012, 02:37:59 PM
I think the Polish girl is the prettiest.  ;D

I think you are prettier than them :D  :police:

This is exactly the sort of pedestal behavior I have been telling you people about.

This is not the way you should discuss women , like they are some sort of prey .. You scarred her away you wank.

this is getting hilarious! :laugh: :laugh: Azul is the vegetarian shark lol

I don't think it is appropriate for you to be calling Azul fat!  Do you even know him in real life!?  When I think of "vegetarian shark" the only thing that comes to mind is rhincodon typus, and that is not very polite!


 ;)

LOL It was the Squalus carcharias variety in Finding Nemo, that I had in mind, but now that you mentioned it hmm ... :-\  Nope! Azul  just moves too fast to be a Whale shark ;D

Wow.  A lady who knows her sharks!  And uses an antiquated term just to be extra non-mainstream!  Let me know when you put up your own trying to find a husband thread!   ;)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 22, 2012, 02:38:59 PM
Holy cow. I went for a run and came back to this. I think I may keep running.  ;) :D

Thanks.  Now I have Flock of Seagulls stuck in my head.

Better in your head than in your hair. ;)

Alas, it is too late for that... :-[
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Hiwot on May 22, 2012, 02:55:10 PM
I think the Polish girl is the prettiest.  ;D

I think you are prettier than them :D  :police:

This is exactly the sort of pedestal behavior I have been telling you people about.

This is not the way you should discuss women , like they are some sort of prey .. You scarred her away you wank.

this is getting hilarious! :laugh: :laugh: Azul is the vegetarian shark lol

I don't think it is appropriate for you to be calling Azul fat!  Do you even know him in real life!?  When I think of "vegetarian shark" the only thing that comes to mind is rhincodon typus, and that is not very polite!


 ;)

LOL It was the Squalus carcharias variety in Finding Nemo, that I had in mind, but now that you mentioned it hmm ... :-\  Nope! Azul  just moves too fast to be a Whale shark ;D

Wow.  A lady who knows her sharks!  And uses an antiquated term just to be extra non-mainstream!  Let me know when you put up your own trying to find a husband thread!   ;)

Hehehe, As lovely as it would have been to bond over sharks,and as much as I would have loved to be an authentic geek, I found our friend's fancy name from google.  :D If ever I set up such a thread, berbere is all I will be offering. :angel:
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on May 22, 2012, 03:07:51 PM
If ever I set up such a thread, berbere is all I will be offering. :angel:

What do you mean "all", Hiwot? That is quite a deal even by itself!
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on May 22, 2012, 03:13:38 PM
I think the Polish girl is the prettiest.  ;D

I think you are prettier than them :D  :police:

This is exactly the sort of pedestal behavior I have been telling you people about.

This is not the way you should discuss women , like they are some sort of prey .. You scarred her away you wank.

this is getting hilarious! :laugh: :laugh: Azul is the vegetarian shark lol

I don't think it is appropriate for you to be calling Azul fat!  Do you even know him in real life!?  When I think of "vegetarian shark" the only thing that comes to mind is rhincodon typus, and that is not very polite!


 ;)

LOL It was the Squalus carcharias variety in Finding Nemo, that I had in mind, but now that you mentioned it hmm ... :-\  Nope! Azul  just moves too fast to be a Whale shark ;D

Wow.  A lady who knows her sharks!  And uses an antiquated term just to be extra non-mainstream!  Let me know when you put up your own trying to find a husband thread!   ;)

Hehehe, As lovely as it would have been to bond over sharks,and as much as I would have loved to be an authentic geek, I found our friend's fancy name from google.  :D If ever I set up such a thread, berbere is all I will be offering. :angel:

And I found the whale shark on wikipedia...come on now, don't you know that all successful relationships are built on lies and deceit?

Sauron, back me up!

 ;)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Azul on May 22, 2012, 03:31:16 PM
Holy cow. I went for a run and came back to this. I think I may keep running.  ;) :D

Did Sauron emberassed you, scared you away?

Nope. Just got offline to go run is all.

Where have you run?:D Do you jog?

Yes, I jog. Sometimes outside, sometimes on my treadmill. Depends on the day and the weather.

Jogging is no fun without a good sorrounding/landscape and a good weather condition (not too hot).
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Hiwot on May 22, 2012, 03:34:01 PM
If ever I set up such a thread, berbere is all I will be offering. :angel:

What do you mean "all", Hiwot? That is quite a deal even by itself!

hehehe, very smart! lol that must have been what those men have said too.  :laugh:
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Hiwot on May 22, 2012, 03:43:54 PM
I think the Polish girl is the prettiest.  ;D

I think you are prettier than them :D  :police:

This is exactly the sort of pedestal behavior I have been telling you people about.

This is not the way you should discuss women , like they are some sort of prey .. You scarred her away you wank.

this is getting hilarious! :laugh: :laugh: Azul is the vegetarian shark lol

I don't think it is appropriate for you to be calling Azul fat!  Do you even know him in real life!?  When I think of "vegetarian shark" the only thing that comes to mind is rhincodon typus, and that is not very polite!


 ;)

LOL It was the Squalus carcharias variety in Finding Nemo, that I had in mind, but now that you mentioned it hmm ... :-\  Nope! Azul  just moves too fast to be a Whale shark ;D

Wow.  A lady who knows her sharks!  And uses an antiquated term just to be extra non-mainstream!  Let me know when you put up your own trying to find a husband thread!   ;)

Hehehe, As lovely as it would have been to bond over sharks,and as much as I would have loved to be an authentic geek, I found our friend's fancy name from google.  :D If ever I set up such a thread, berbere is all I will be offering. :angel:

And I found the whale shark on wikipedia...come on now, don't you know that all successful relationships are built on lies and deceit?

Sauron, back me up!

 ;)

LOL! yeah Sauron is the right man to ask on this, he might even add D&S to the mix  ;)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 22, 2012, 06:31:56 PM
Care to know my guess about yours?


Not particularly.  I would have to care first, and I don't.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Sauron on May 22, 2012, 06:34:14 PM
Care to know my guess about yours?


Not particularly.  I would have to care first, and I don't.

(http://homepage.mac.com/kyosuke/2008fark/burn.gif)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Aindriú on May 22, 2012, 06:38:02 PM
Care to know my guess about yours?


Not particularly.  I would have to care first, and I don't.

(http://homepage.mac.com/kyosuke/2008fark/burn.gif)

LMAO
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on May 22, 2012, 09:23:58 PM
Care to know my guess about yours?


Not particularly.  I would have to care first, and I don't.

(http://homepage.mac.com/kyosuke/2008fark/burn.gif)

LMAO

I am trying very hard not to laugh . . . and failing.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Opus118 on May 23, 2012, 12:27:40 AM
Finally, I was raised by my father to be a gentleman. He was a exceptional human being. I frankly can't remember him ever erring from the path that Christ set out for us to follow. I need him now and I am surviving on the basis of my remembrance of him.  I greatly appreciated the logic of your arguments in the past and I wish you will return to your old self.  I am tired of your current vapid statements. Take care (meaning I am striving to be a nice guy and one of my goals in life is caring about you).

Did your mother submit to him?

It is a shame you posted this post-weekend. I will answer the question. But first I would like you to tell me precisely what you personally mean by the phrase in your own words, with no scripture citations, just your own words, with no ambiguities, demonstrating the precise question that your are curious about, such that anyone over age 16 could understand. Anything less is a cop out and the ball is in your court. The reason I am asking is that I do not understand the logic in your question. Which is worrisome, so you might want to deal with that as well.



What don't you understand about the question, "Did your mother submit to him?"

Your worry is a personal problem, so I am not going to deal with it.

I understood it to be a vague and open ended question. I decided to have some control of the center of the board rather than winging it. What didn't you understand by my reply? Is is clear enough for you now?

I am sorry it is vague and open-ended to you. I asked the question with certain passages of scripture in mind, so I imagine those writers were also vague and open-ended. Don't shoot the messenger.

Did your mother submit to your father?

As you certainly know that I certainly had in mind your quoting scriptural citations (but not the substance contained within) and since I took control of the board due to your lack of consideration to paying attention to opening moves, the ball is still in your court. You can of course leave this as another instance of empty rhetoric or you can provide declarative statements in regard to the scriptural passages you have in mind at the 16 year-old language level. That is up to you and your current frame of mind.

And despite what you say, my posts stem from my concern about you.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: jnorm888 on May 23, 2012, 01:12:16 AM
Although I must add, the Ethiopian women I have seen have all been beautiful. (And it wasn't just because they were offering me food. Though, my suspicion is the Queen of Sheba brought berbere to Solomon.)

I have to say that I have noticed the same thing (interestingly, they were bringing me food, too).  My father spent two years in Ethiopia when he was a teen, and he has remarked at the beauty of the Ethiopian girls.

Here is a picture of average faces from around the world. Ethopian is ok, but there are lots of other countries that are hotter. Samoan is the ugliest, of course. As for me, I am all about Uzbek. Lord have mercy (x3).


Ethiopian women are some of the most beautiful women I have ever seen! Also, how can you call Samoan women ugly? The Samoan woman in that pic looked pretty to me, and so speak for yourself and only for yourself when it comes to your own personal preferences of beauty.

For you most certainly don't speak for me!
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: jnorm888 on May 23, 2012, 01:24:04 AM
Where do good Christians meet?  :angel:

How do you look? The best way for a woman to find a man is to be pretty and in shape. (not obese)


lol. 5’2”, 110lb

You are right, but I’m fit and beautiful. I also don’t have a problem meeting men. It is just so hard finding the true OC and attractive guy.


I never saw your pic, but I'm sure you are a very beautiful woman, however, it's a personal preference of mine to pursue women who are 5'4 and taller. Sorry! Height is something I can overlook if the person has other qualities I desire, but I'm a little over 6 feet, and I would have to bend over alot in order to talk to you and walk with you. Such a thing is very uncomfortable for me.


I wish you well in your search!
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on May 23, 2012, 12:44:41 PM
Where do good Christians meet?  :angel:

How do you look? The best way for a woman to find a man is to be pretty and in shape. (not obese)


lol. 5’2”, 110lb

You are right, but I’m fit and beautiful. I also don’t have a problem meeting men. It is just so hard finding the true OC and attractive guy.


I never saw your pic, but I'm sure you are a very beautiful woman, however, it's a personal preference of mine to pursue women who are 5'4 and taller. Sorry! Height is something I can overlook if the person has other qualities I desire, but I'm a little over 6 feet, and I would have to bend over alot in order to talk to you and walk with you. Such a thing is very uncomfortable for me.


I wish you well in your search!
I understand. You are too tall for me  :)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Asteriktos on August 23, 2012, 06:15:30 PM
Where do good Christians meet?  :angel:

Orthodox discussion boards, of course  :police:
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on August 24, 2012, 08:28:55 AM
Where do good Christians meet?  :angel:

Orthodox discussion boards, of course  :police:

Hahaha…. No longer looking  ;D If it is God’s will; He will send a husband to me. :)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Aindriú on August 24, 2012, 08:37:15 AM
Where do good Christians meet?  :angel:

Orthodox discussion boards, of course  :police:

Hahaha…. No longer looking  ;D If it is God’s will; He will send a husband to me. :)

With a bow to your door? Like the Old Spice Guy?

(http://5.mshcdn.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/07/old_spice_guy.jpg)
I'm here to be your husband.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on August 24, 2012, 11:13:11 AM
Where do good Christians meet?  :angel:

Orthodox discussion boards, of course  :police:

Hahaha…. No longer looking  ;D If it is God’s will; He will send a husband to me. :)

My priest and I have discussed this at length.  Not looking and expecting God to do all the work is a great way to stay single.   ;)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: bytania on August 24, 2012, 06:07:57 PM

I agree with Vamrat. Trusting the Lord to bring that person to you is the best thing one can do. I have seen several people's life being somewhat complicated because they were desperate enough to fall in the wrong hands.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: JamesR on August 24, 2012, 07:05:33 PM
OMG! Man-hungry Orthodox female! Are you decently attractive, not too emotional and able to cook? If so I am highly interested if you don't mind having a younger man :)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on August 24, 2012, 07:46:29 PM
OMG! Man-hungry Orthodox female! Are you decently attractive, not too emotional and able to cook? If so I am highly interested if you don't mind having a younger man :)

She wants a husband, not a son (at least not at this point).
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shiny on August 24, 2012, 07:57:43 PM
OMG! Man-hungry Orthodox female! Are you decently attractive, not too emotional and able to cook? If so I am highly interested if you don't mind having a younger man :)

She wants a husband, not a son (at least not at this point).
Lulz
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Anastasia1 on August 24, 2012, 10:18:13 PM
I want a husband. I am thinking I would like to date an Armenian man, or one of a similar culture, though I am open to ones who may resemble the traits of a Catholic, Portuguese futball coach.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: JamesR on August 24, 2012, 11:47:10 PM
So if any of you ladies are interested in children, I am pretty fertile. My Mexican teenage boy sperm packs a pretty powerful punch if I do say so myself, my Coptic caramel skinned beauties :) rawr.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: That person on August 25, 2012, 12:13:07 AM
^Post of the month, easy.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shiny on August 25, 2012, 12:21:03 AM
So if any of you ladies are interested in children, I am pretty fertile. My Mexican teenage boy sperm packs a pretty powerful punch if I do say so myself, my Coptic caramel skinned beauties :) rawr.

Ok I just talked to all my lady friends and this is what they replied back with:

I have
I say
I give
I do not
I despise more.
I hate 
I sympathize
I hate
I tell you
I do not
I see it
I want
I want
I want
I acknowledge
I think
.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: That person on August 25, 2012, 12:23:48 AM
By the way James, I'm a decent cook on the offchance you need a roommate and we're in the same city.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: neon_knights on August 25, 2012, 12:52:55 AM
^Post of the month, easy.

+1
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on August 25, 2012, 01:08:51 AM
So if any of you ladies are interested in children, I am pretty fertile. My Mexican teenage boy sperm packs a pretty powerful punch if I do say so myself, my Coptic caramel skinned beauties :) rawr.

Hahahahahahhahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahaha.

Ha.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Anastasia1 on August 25, 2012, 01:19:41 AM
So if any of you ladies are interested in children, I am pretty fertile. My Mexican teenage boy sperm packs a pretty powerful punch if I do say so myself, my Coptic caramel skinned beauties :) rawr.
I am surprised that you have tested it so much.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: JamesR on August 25, 2012, 01:20:54 AM
Oh you can laugh but we Mexicans are known for being notoriously fertile :-) this on top of the fact that none of us get abortions leads us to having tons of kids.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shiny on August 25, 2012, 01:24:01 AM
Oh you can laugh but we Mexicans are known for being notoriously fertile :-) this on top of the fact that none of us get abortions leads us to having tons of kids.
Or not knowing what a condom is.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: JamesR on August 25, 2012, 01:27:37 AM
Pffh, you can keep your condoms. My sperm does not deserve to be held back by a condom.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on August 25, 2012, 01:31:35 AM
I miss when this thread was about finding Ergib a husband. I miss it a lot.  :-\
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shiny on August 25, 2012, 01:47:12 AM
Pffh, you can keep your condoms. My sperm does not deserve to be held back by a condom.
What Would Karl Marx Do?
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Anastasia1 on August 25, 2012, 02:12:23 AM
I miss when this thread was about finding Ergib a husband. I miss it a lot.  :-\
Ok, fine me a husband.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: JamesR on August 25, 2012, 02:43:54 AM
I miss when this thread was about finding Ergib a husband. I miss it a lot.  :-\
Ok, fine me a husband.

TA-da!
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Anastasia1 on August 25, 2012, 02:49:06 AM
I miss when this thread was about finding Ergib a husband. I miss it a lot.  :-\
Ok, find me a husband.

TA-da!
Edited for typo on my part.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on August 25, 2012, 03:12:19 AM
JamesR,

In this country, the internet, people don't want to marry 16 year olds.

Well...uh...people who aren't destined for/already in jail don't want to marry 16 year olds.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: orthonorm on August 25, 2012, 03:16:52 AM
JamesR,

In this country, the internet, people don't want to marry 16 year olds.

Well...uh...people who aren't destined for/already in jail don't want to marry 16 year olds.

Umm . . . uh . . . the age of consent in parts of this country is 16. Canada it is 16. Mexico, who knows . . .

I've met many 16 year olds who were much more ready for marriage than people twice their age.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Anastasia1 on August 25, 2012, 03:18:16 AM
JamesR,

In this country, the internet, people don't want to marry 16 year olds.

Well...uh...people who aren't destined for/already in jail don't want to marry 16 year olds.

Umm . . . uh . . . the age of consent in parts of this country is 16. Canada it is 16. Mexico, who knows . . .

I've met many 16 year olds who were much more ready for marriage than people twice their age.
Personally, I refuse to marry someone who cannot legally drink in every state of this United States.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: orthonorm on August 25, 2012, 03:20:11 AM
JamesR,

In this country, the internet, people don't want to marry 16 year olds.

Well...uh...people who aren't destined for/already in jail don't want to marry 16 year olds.

Umm . . . uh . . . the age of consent in parts of this country is 16. Canada it is 16. Mexico, who knows . . .

I've met many 16 year olds who were much more ready for marriage than people twice their age.
Personally, I refuse to marry someone who cannot legally drink in every state of this United States.

If you are going to be picky . . . well good luck!
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: orthonorm on August 25, 2012, 03:24:18 AM
Ladies, you could do worse than to speculate on JamesR. Get in on the ground floor while you can.

In 10 years his value will be through the roof.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: JamesR on August 25, 2012, 03:34:36 AM
The man makes a good point. I'm not too picky either. I only have three requirements for a woman. 1) can cook 2) doesn't complain too much 3) is decently attractive.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shiny on August 25, 2012, 03:34:49 AM
Wait.

Why does legally being able to drink matter? Just curious.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shiny on August 25, 2012, 03:36:43 AM
The man makes a good point. I'm not too picky either. I only have three requirements for a woman. 1) can cook 2) doesn't complain too much 3) is decently attractive.
4) Doesnt bring baggage
5) Intelligent
6) brings home the bacon

Sorry about the last part, not sure if my list is Sauron approved yet. I'm still waiting for his novella "The Role of the Woman and her bacon"
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shiny on August 25, 2012, 03:37:45 AM
I've met many 16 year olds who were much more ready for marriage than people twice their age.
Seriously? Not that I want to be loserly and hang around high schools for my speed dating...
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Pan Michał on August 25, 2012, 04:14:58 AM
The man makes a good point. I'm not too picky either. I only have three requirements for a woman. 1) can cook 2) doesn't complain too much 3) is decently attractive.

Sounds like me, if you'll skip the "woman" part - will it do?
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: William on August 25, 2012, 07:08:12 AM
This thread got real dumb real fast.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on August 25, 2012, 10:50:25 AM
This thread got real dumb real fast.

That usually happens upon a certain poster's first post.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on August 25, 2012, 06:32:45 PM
The man makes a good point. I'm not too picky either. I only have three requirements for a woman. 1) can cook 2) doesn't complain too much 3) is decently attractive.

Sounds like me, if you'll skip the "woman" part - will it do?


Works for me!   :-*
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Pan Michał on August 26, 2012, 07:19:08 AM
Works for me!   :-*

Nah, you're just flattering me... :>
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on August 30, 2012, 08:48:16 AM
Where do good Christians meet?  :angel:

Orthodox discussion boards, of course  :police:

Hahaha…. No longer looking  ;D If it is God’s will; He will send a husband to me. :)

With a bow to your door? Like the Old Spice Guy?

(http://5.mshcdn.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/07/old_spice_guy.jpg)
I'm here to be your husband.

Anything is possible with God  ;)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Azul on August 30, 2012, 10:21:58 AM
JamesR,

In this country, the internet, people don't want to marry 16 year olds.

Well...uh...people who aren't destined for/already in jail don't want to marry 16 year olds.

gypsies can marry from the age of 3 :D
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Azul on August 30, 2012, 10:26:02 AM
I want a husband. I am thinking I would like to date an Armenian man, or one of a similar culture, though I am open to ones who may resemble the traits of a Catholic, Portuguese futball coach.

:) Mourinho the bastard?He is taken.. I am here to be ur husband :D
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Marc1152 on August 30, 2012, 12:01:02 PM
Here in suburban DC there is an Orthodox Singles club. When they started it they were literally overrun so many people were interested.

They have mixers and ski trips and such the like. Several marriages have resulted.

You can contact St. Mark Orthodox Church in Bethesda, MD and ask them for contact info.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: NicholasMyra on August 30, 2012, 12:41:55 PM
ski trips
Orthodox ski trips.

I imagine at least 70% of the participants are lost to the call of hermitage somewhere in the snow-capped peaks of... wherever you go to ski near DC.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Marc1152 on August 30, 2012, 01:23:32 PM
ski trips
Orthodox ski trips.

I imagine at least 70% of the participants are lost to the call of hermitage somewhere in the snow-capped peaks of... wherever you go to ski near DC.

You can ski on the enormous dung piles around town once they are covered with snow  ;D
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on August 30, 2012, 02:45:26 PM
Here in suburban DC there is an Orthodox Singles club. When they started it they were literally overrun so many people were interested.

They have mixers and ski trips and such the like. Several marriages have resulted.

You can contact St. Mark Orthodox Church in Bethesda, MD and ask them for contact info.

I’ve been to St. Mark in Bethesda. People there have lovely voices…
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Marc1152 on August 30, 2012, 03:39:41 PM
Here in suburban DC there is an Orthodox Singles club. When they started it they were literally overrun so many people were interested.

They have mixers and ski trips and such the like. Several marriages have resulted.

You can contact St. Mark Orthodox Church in Bethesda, MD and ask them for contact info.

I’ve been to St. Mark in Bethesda. People there have lovely voices…

Come out and see us too in Beltsville. Slim pickens single man wise but love to have you.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on August 30, 2012, 04:16:32 PM
Here in suburban DC there is an Orthodox Singles club. When they started it they were literally overrun so many people were interested.

They have mixers and ski trips and such the like. Several marriages have resulted.

You can contact St. Mark Orthodox Church in Bethesda, MD and ask them for contact info.

I’ve been to St. Mark in Bethesda. People there have lovely voices…

Come out and see us too in Beltsville. Slim pickens single man wise but love to have you.

Is it St. Mark in Beltsville? I will try to visit during Lent time…will not be seeking for single men.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on August 30, 2012, 04:23:36 PM
JamesR,

In this country, the internet, people don't want to marry 16 year olds.

Well...uh...people who aren't destined for/already in jail don't want to marry 16 year olds.

gypsies can marry from the age of 3 :D

LOL :)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: That person on August 30, 2012, 04:52:01 PM
JamesR,

In this country, the internet, people don't want to marry 16 year olds.

Well...uh...people who aren't destined for/already in jail don't want to marry 16 year olds.

Umm . . . uh . . . the age of consent in parts of this country is 16. Canada it is 16. Mexico, who knows . . .

12, actually, although some parts have it higher.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on August 30, 2012, 05:07:19 PM
JamesR,

In this country, the internet, people don't want to marry 16 year olds.

Well...uh...people who aren't destined for/already in jail don't want to marry 16 year olds.

Umm . . . uh . . . the age of consent in parts of this country is 16. Canada it is 16. Mexico, who knows . . .

12, actually, although some parts have it higher.

12, eh.  Mexico - the Thailand of the Western Hemisphere
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Anastasia1 on August 30, 2012, 05:12:12 PM
I want a husband. I am thinking I would like to date an Armenian man, or one of a similar culture, though I am open to ones who may resemble the traits of a Catholic, Portuguese futball coach.

:) Mourinho the bastard?He is taken.. I am here to be ur husband :D
I don't mean him literally. He's too old for me anyway.

BTW, you need to fill out forms 1A-E and G, 7C, and 8B, . Also please leave a resume of character, life style, and goals, with a cover letter stating what you want in a relationship and why you want this one, and at least three character references.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on August 30, 2012, 07:51:07 PM
I've never understood what character references are supposed to do. Almost everyone puts either their friends or relatives, who are far from unbiased sources about your character, so they should really just re-title that part of applications "Prove to us that you have at least three friends by writing them down in the space provided".
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Cognomen on August 30, 2012, 08:38:35 PM
Here in suburban DC there is an Orthodox Singles club. When they started it they were literally overrun so many people were interested

Now you tell me...
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shiny on August 30, 2012, 08:47:49 PM
How are Orthodox single women anyway? A little hestitant myself.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Marc1152 on August 30, 2012, 10:15:20 PM
Here in suburban DC there is an Orthodox Singles club. When they started it they were literally overrun so many people were interested.

They have mixers and ski trips and such the like. Several marriages have resulted.

You can contact St. Mark Orthodox Church in Bethesda, MD and ask them for contact info.

I’ve been to St. Mark in Bethesda. People there have lovely voices…

Come out and see us too in Beltsville. Slim pickens single man wise but love to have you.

Is it St. Mark in Beltsville? I will try to visit during Lent time…will not be seeking for single men.


Holy Apostles in Beltsville. Rocor
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Asteriktos on August 30, 2012, 10:17:51 PM
How are Orthodox single women anyway? A little hestitant myself.

Meek, guileless, and feisty, depending on the situation.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Anastasia1 on August 30, 2012, 10:59:54 PM
How are Orthodox single women anyway? A little hestitant myself.

Meek, guileless, and feisty, depending on the situation.
Good summary.  Doesn't help when most of the people at the church are either old or married with kids. I'm planning on visiting a few other parishes after I am chrismated.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: That person on August 31, 2012, 12:20:24 AM
JamesR,

In this country, the internet, people don't want to marry 16 year olds.

Well...uh...people who aren't destined for/already in jail don't want to marry 16 year olds.

Umm . . . uh . . . the age of consent in parts of this country is 16. Canada it is 16. Mexico, who knows . . .

12, actually, although some parts have it higher.

12, eh.  Mexico - the Thailand of the Western Hemisphere
All I know is you're not supposed to drink the water in either.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on August 31, 2012, 01:52:55 PM
How are Orthodox single women anyway? A little hestitant myself.

I found an article about the differences between attracting Christian women and secular women.  I copied and pasted it:

Quote











Hope this helps.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Asteriktos on August 31, 2012, 01:54:51 PM
How are Orthodox single women anyway? A little hestitant myself.

I found an article about the differences between attracting Christian women and secular women.  I copied and pasted it:

Really? So secular women now pray Orthodox prayers, fast with you, go to hour and a half long church services, read the Scripture together, etc.? Awesome!  8)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: orthonorm on August 31, 2012, 02:44:00 PM
JamesR,

In this country, the internet, people don't want to marry 16 year olds.

Well...uh...people who aren't destined for/already in jail don't want to marry 16 year olds.

Umm . . . uh . . . the age of consent in parts of this country is 16. Canada it is 16. Mexico, who knows . . .

12, actually, although some parts have it higher.

Sounds like the age of certain person named at like every Orthodox service. And something that should be kept in mind with all the "adolescent" bashing that goes on around here.

In many States of the Union the age of consent is lower if you are married. So you can actually marry someone depending on the statutes governing marriage before the age of consent and still have sex with them legally.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: orthonorm on August 31, 2012, 02:47:36 PM
JamesR,

In this country, the internet, people don't want to marry 16 year olds.

Well...uh...people who aren't destined for/already in jail don't want to marry 16 year olds.

Umm . . . uh . . . the age of consent in parts of this country is 16. Canada it is 16. Mexico, who knows . . .

12, actually, although some parts have it higher.

12, eh.  Mexico - the Thailand of the Western Hemisphere

Not that you are planning on doing what anyone might think you might, but surely you know you are still governed by the laws of that Nation from you are a citizen in.

I was in Austria before the big reform on age of consent laws. IIRC, heterosexual sex was consensual upon the age of 14 and homosexual upon the age of 18.

They reformed the laws and made both 16.

While I know is a scintillating story, I'll spare you all.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on August 31, 2012, 04:05:56 PM
How are Orthodox single women anyway? A little hestitant myself.

I found an article about the differences between attracting Christian women and secular women.  I copied and pasted it:

Really? So secular women now pray Orthodox prayers, fast with you, go to hour and a half long church services, read the Scripture together, etc.? Awesome!  8)

I said "attracting".  I have yet to find an Orthodox woman IRL who finds a man who prays, fasts, reads scripture, and attends hour long church services to be attractive unless there are other factors involved.  I think you will find that any Orthodox girl you attract will find the same things attractive in you that a secular girl would have.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on August 31, 2012, 04:12:29 PM
Sure, everybody wants a partner who is Orthodox and X, Y, Z. No surprises there. That's why this thread exists, right? And a million more just like it, after Ergib gets married? ;)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Anastasia1 on August 31, 2012, 04:14:35 PM
JamesR,

In this country, the internet, people don't want to marry 16 year olds.

Well...uh...people who aren't destined for/already in jail don't want to marry 16 year olds.

Umm . . . uh . . . the age of consent in parts of this country is 16. Canada it is 16. Mexico, who knows . . .

12, actually, although some parts have it higher.

12, eh.  Mexico - the Thailand of the Western Hemisphere
All I know is you're not supposed to drink the water in either.
Cerveza.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on August 31, 2012, 04:21:45 PM
Really? So secular women now pray Orthodox prayers, fast with you, go to hour and a half long church services, read the Scripture together, etc.? Awesome!  8)

Strangely, I have found few Orhtodox woman that do this either.  That is, if they even bother to attend Church.  Now Lutheran women, that is a whole different story.  Don't even get me started on the Interdenominational and Pentecostal women!
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: JamesR on August 31, 2012, 04:35:20 PM
I always figured that I would either marry an Orthodox, Roman Catholic or atheist woman. I think that Protestantism may be too difficult in regards to reconciling our religious beliefs in our life and deciding how to raise the children. In fact, I imagine that it would be fun to have an atheist wife. I imagine that she would be the most open-minded in bed.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on August 31, 2012, 04:48:06 PM
Sure, everybody wants a partner who is Orthodox and X, Y, Z. No surprises there. That's why this thread exists, right? And a million more just like it, after Ergib gets married? ;)

The question I answered was "How are Orthodox single women anyway?"  The point I was trying to drive home was - they are very woman-like.  Women all operate pretty much the same.

But if you want my honest answer, in my experience the non-religious women I have dated have been on average much more pleasant than the Christian ones.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on August 31, 2012, 04:49:16 PM
I always figured that I would either marry an Orthodox, Roman Catholic or atheist woman. I think that Protestantism may be too difficult in regards to reconciling our religious beliefs in our life and deciding how to raise the children. In fact, I imagine that it would be fun to have an atheist wife. I imagine that she would be the most open-minded in bed.

Ever dated an atheist?  There's a lot more than just wild sex...like, 100% of it.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: JamesR on August 31, 2012, 05:36:09 PM
In my experience, I have found that irreligious women are much more easy-going, openminded and pleasant to be around opposed to the religious women who expect to be treated like royalty and are much harder on you and closedminded.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: NicholasMyra on August 31, 2012, 06:04:14 PM
In fact, I imagine that it would be fun to have an atheist wife. I imagine that she would be the most open-minded in bed.
(http://05.images.fireden.net/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/DO-YOU-EVEN-LIFT.png)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Pan Michał on August 31, 2012, 06:27:33 PM
JamesR, I'm sorry if I'm wrong at deciphering your thought pattern, but I think you should consider a woman to be your partner in life, not a thing in bed, it'll do very good for both of you.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on August 31, 2012, 09:36:38 PM
I always figured that I would either marry an Orthodox, Roman Catholic or atheist woman. I think that Protestantism may be too difficult in regards to reconciling our religious beliefs in our life and deciding how to raise the children. In fact, I imagine that it would be fun to have an atheist wife. I imagine that she would be the most open-minded in bed.

Why don't you just marry an inflatable woman.  She would seem to be right for you.  You might want to buy an inflatable Arab woman.  They are the easiest of all.  They blow themselves up.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on August 31, 2012, 09:43:15 PM
Hahaha. Racism. ::)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on August 31, 2012, 10:18:40 PM
Hahaha. Racism. ::)

I know . . . my bad.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Asteriktos on August 31, 2012, 10:29:27 PM
How are Orthodox single women anyway? A little hestitant myself.

I found an article about the differences between attracting Christian women and secular women.  I copied and pasted it:

Really? So secular women now pray Orthodox prayers, fast with you, go to hour and a half long church services, read the Scripture together, etc.? Awesome!  8)

I said "attracting".  I have yet to find an Orthodox woman IRL who finds a man who prays, fasts, reads scripture, and attends hour long church services to be attractive unless there are other factors involved.  I think you will find that any Orthodox girl you attract will find the same things attractive in you that a secular girl would have.

I married a girl based on little apart from prayer, church attendance, fasting, etc...   :angel:   But I did read your post too fast and missed what you were getting at :)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shiny on August 31, 2012, 10:35:36 PM
I always figured that I would either marry an Orthodox, Roman Catholic or atheist woman. I think that Protestantism may be too difficult in regards to reconciling our religious beliefs in our life and deciding how to raise the children. In fact, I imagine that it would be fun to have an atheist wife. I imagine that she would be the most open-minded in bed.

Why don't you just marry an inflatable woman.  She would seem to be right for you.  You might want to buy an inflatable Arab woman.  They are the easiest of all.  They blow themselves up.
Gold mine.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: JamesR on September 01, 2012, 04:32:55 AM
I always figured that I would either marry an Orthodox, Roman Catholic or atheist woman. I think that Protestantism may be too difficult in regards to reconciling our religious beliefs in our life and deciding how to raise the children. In fact, I imagine that it would be fun to have an atheist wife. I imagine that she would be the most open-minded in bed.

Why don't you just marry an inflatable woman.  She would seem to be right for you.  You might want to buy an inflatable Arab woman.  They are the easiest of all.  They blow themselves up.

That is not a bad idea. Say $100 for an inflatable woman that lasts a lifetime and only requires being blown up every once in a while. Low maintenance, doesn't talk or nag, isn't very expensive, doesn't age etc.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shiny on September 01, 2012, 04:42:01 AM
I always figured that I would either marry an Orthodox, Roman Catholic or atheist woman. I think that Protestantism may be too difficult in regards to reconciling our religious beliefs in our life and deciding how to raise the children. In fact, I imagine that it would be fun to have an atheist wife. I imagine that she would be the most open-minded in bed.

Why don't you just marry an inflatable woman.  She would seem to be right for you.  You might want to buy an inflatable Arab woman.  They are the easiest of all.  They blow themselves up.

That is not a bad idea. Say $100 for an inflatable woman that lasts a lifetime and only requires being blown up every once in a while. Low maintenance, doesn't talk or nag, isn't very expensive, doesn't age etc.
I'd recommend something that costs a couple of thousand, but I won't solicit it on this forum.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Pan Michał on September 01, 2012, 04:43:19 AM
That is not a bad idea. Say $100 for an inflatable woman that lasts a lifetime and only requires being blown up every once in a while. Low maintenance, doesn't talk or nag, isn't very expensive, doesn't age etc.

(http://img.partybox.pl/zasoby/images/middle/9318.jpg)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shiny on September 01, 2012, 04:51:04 AM
(http://i.imgur.com/GCbcj.png)

Yea...
To all the Brooklyn girls
To all the French girls
To all the Oriental girls

Chinese...
Japanese...
To all the Swiss girls
To the Italian women

To the upper east side Mombiles
To all the Jamaican girls
And to the top-less dancers
Australian...

And Brazilian
To the southern belles
To the Puerto Rican girls
To the stewardesses flying around the world...
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: neon_knights on September 01, 2012, 05:03:17 AM
(http://i.imgur.com/GCbcj.png)

Yea...
To all the Brooklyn girls
To all the French girls
To all the Oriental girls

Chinese...
Japanese...
To all the Swiss girls
To the Italian women

To the upper east side Mombiles
To all the Jamaican girls
And to the top-less dancers
Australian...

And Brazilian
To the southern belles
To the Puerto Rican girls
To the stewardesses flying around the world...


Post of the month nominee.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shiny on September 01, 2012, 05:21:38 AM
How are Orthodox single women anyway? A little hestitant myself.

Meek, guileless, and feisty, depending on the situation.
What about intelligence though? A big turn on for me. I like a little feisty now and then, but meek is where it's at. Meek and intelligent, the dream girl of thee.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Asteriktos on September 01, 2012, 05:42:26 AM
I've met a number of intelligent Orthodox women on this forum, but I was speaking mostly from personal experience and just listed the first three things that came to mind.

Also, the image above scares me.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: orthonorm on September 01, 2012, 06:05:33 AM
(http://i.imgur.com/GCbcj.png)

Yea...
To all the Brooklyn girls
To all the French girls
To all the Oriental girls

Chinese...
Japanese...
To all the Swiss girls
To the Italian women

To the upper east side Mombiles
To all the Jamaican girls
And to the top-less dancers
Australian...

And Brazilian
To the southern belles
To the Puerto Rican girls
To the stewardesses flying around the world...


Post of the month nominee.

Having this text embedded in my head for reasons too boring to mention, I just gotta make a correction:

Upper East Side nubiles

EDIT: Brilliant and frightening.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shiny on September 01, 2012, 02:33:08 PM
You know I was curious why those lyrics didn't have "Upper East-side nubiles" because I swore I heard the same thing on the CD, and I assumed I was wrong. Oh well.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: tuesdayschild on September 01, 2012, 03:02:49 PM
(http://i.imgur.com/GCbcj.png)

Yea...
To all the Brooklyn girls
To all the French girls
To all the Oriental girls

Chinese...
Japanese...
To all the Swiss girls
To the Italian women

To the upper east side Mombiles
To all the Jamaican girls
And to the top-less dancers
Australian...

And Brazilian
To the southern belles
To the Puerto Rican girls
To the stewardesses flying around the world...


Post of the month nominee.

(http://files.gamebanana.com/img/ico/sprays/doublefacepalm.jpg)

Please be joking.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: tuesdayschild on September 01, 2012, 03:07:29 PM

To the upper east side Mombiles
To all the Jamaican girls
And to the top-less dancers
Australian...



Having this text embedded in my head for reasons too boring to mention, I just gotta make a correction:

Upper East Side nubiles

(http://s3.amazonaws.com/data.tumblr.com/tumblr_m4b94vNRST1qmxe8x.gif)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Shiny on September 01, 2012, 03:10:24 PM
who r u
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Aindriú on September 01, 2012, 03:34:09 PM
lol
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Anastasia1 on September 01, 2012, 08:08:42 PM
Hey guys, I heard that visiting a monastery, getting to know people there and be known by them, and talking to the abbot if he knows any good men who are looking for a wife is a good way to find someone because single guys may visit.  What do you think about this?
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Asteriktos on September 01, 2012, 08:11:40 PM
I stole my wife away from a monastery, though not by visiting one, but we met on the net. I don't know how much luck you'd have, but it's worth a shot. After all, even if it doesn't work, you should still be able to have a spiritually profitable experience anyway :)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on September 03, 2012, 01:11:07 PM
after Ergib gets married? ;)

chances of me getting married, very slim. chances of me becoming a nun, very high. either way, i will be happy :)
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on September 03, 2012, 01:18:30 PM
and talking to the abbot if he knows any good men who are looking for a wife is a good way to find someone because single guys may visit.  What do you think about this?

Father had two guys in mind for me, but they were't my type. Fathers/abbots don't care much about looks as long as they think the girl/guy is a good Christian...
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on September 03, 2012, 01:33:07 PM
after Ergib gets married? ;)

chances of me getting married, very slim. chances of me becoming a nun, very high. either way, i will be happy :)

Good. Positivity goes a long way in these situations.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on September 04, 2012, 12:24:04 PM
and talking to the abbot if he knows any good men who are looking for a wife is a good way to find someone because single guys may visit.  What do you think about this?

Father had two guys in mind for me, but they were't my type. Fathers/abbots don't care much about looks as long as they think the girl/guy is a good Christian...

Yeah, my priest tried to set me up with a girl at church.  I have noticed a common trend in priorities.

1- Money
2- Looks
... ?
X- Christianity
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: tuesdayschild on September 04, 2012, 12:41:00 PM
and talking to the abbot if he knows any good men who are looking for a wife is a good way to find someone because single guys may visit.  What do you think about this?

Father had two guys in mind for me, but they were't my type. Fathers/abbots don't care much about looks as long as they think the girl/guy is a good Christian...

Yeah, my priest tried to set me up with a girl at church.  I have noticed a common trend in priorities.

1- Money
2- Looks
... ?
X- Christianity

A trend among whose priorities?
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Punch on September 04, 2012, 01:06:19 PM

Yeah, my priest tried to set me up with a girl at church.  I have noticed a common trend in priorities.

1- Money
2- Looks
... ?
X- Christianity

A trend among whose priorities?


Women
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on September 04, 2012, 01:54:12 PM
and talking to the abbot if he knows any good men who are looking for a wife is a good way to find someone because single guys may visit.  What do you think about this?

Father had two guys in mind for me, but they were't my type. Fathers/abbots don't care much about looks as long as they think the girl/guy is a good Christian...

Yeah, my priest tried to set me up with a girl at church.  I have noticed a common trend in priorities.

1- Money
2- Looks
... ?
X- Christianity

A trend among whose priorities?

Sorry, I was typing in a hurry.  Christian women.  The money bit refers to status as well as money.  Looks also takes bearing into account.  I could borrow a line from Rollo Tomassi and just say "Hypergamy doesn't care about your Christ".  Women are biologically inclined to look for various things in a man just like men want to find a young (good breeding age) and beautiful (i.e. healthy) woman.  Big boobs look motherly and a big bottom usually coincides with wide hips (therefore less likely to kick the bucket in childbirth).  Likewise, women want a man who is confident (less likely to bug out when the going get's tough) and exhibits higher status (better provider). 

What I am getting at is many young Christian men make the grave mistake that a good Christian woman (TM) is going to want a good Christian man.  In some cases this is true...so long as the man has already exhibited the traits that she is after to a level her market value will allow.  This is true for all women.  All people have a biological imperative to fulfill.  Christian women have the added complication in that they believe that Jesus has a special prince charming out there for them...which is patently wrong.  He has a cross for them to bear, not some fashion-accessory-man to show off.  Any Christian man who believes that he can rest on his laurels that his religion should be enough to entice her to marry him and then stay married to him is setting himself up for catastrophe.



And before you say it, no this is not about me being bitter about this one girl my priest wanted me to date not working out...and by not working out I mean she rejected me repeatedly.  I have dated several other Christian women and have noticed a similar pattern.  I have also dated agnostics, atheists, and non-religious women.  All three of these "heathens" I still have cordial relations with (one of them came over for dinner last week).  This is me pointing out something that should save my unmarried Christian brothers a lot of grief once they have learned this. 
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: Ergib on September 04, 2012, 03:07:53 PM
and talking to the abbot if he knows any good men who are looking for a wife is a good way to find someone because single guys may visit.  What do you think about this?

Father had two guys in mind for me, but they were't my type. Fathers/abbots don't care much about looks as long as they think the girl/guy is a good Christian...

Yeah, my priest tried to set me up with a girl at church.  I have noticed a common trend in priorities.

1- Money
2- Looks
... ?
X- Christianity

Money is not my #1 or #2 priority.  To me, his looks and faith go hand and hand (#1). His got to have both; not one or the other. I have to be attracted to a man whom I will marry.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on September 04, 2012, 03:12:43 PM
and talking to the abbot if he knows any good men who are looking for a wife is a good way to find someone because single guys may visit.  What do you think about this?

Father had two guys in mind for me, but they were't my type. Fathers/abbots don't care much about looks as long as they think the girl/guy is a good Christian...

Yeah, my priest tried to set me up with a girl at church.  I have noticed a common trend in priorities.

1- Money
2- Looks
... ?
X- Christianity

Money is not my #1 or #2 priority.  To me, his looks and faith go hand and hand (#1). His got to have both; not one or the other. I have to be attracted to a man whom I will marry.

I clarified "money" above.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on September 04, 2012, 03:22:17 PM
That does not seem like revelatory information, Vamrat. I don't think religious and non-religious people (of either gender) differ in that regard. If you thought it was enough to just be Christian and not work on yourself in any other way...well, I don't think anybody actually thinks that. It it one of the reasons why people in my church are encouraged to marry more in their 20s-early 30s than before, because you want to be prepared to be the kind of person who is marriageable: you want to have that degree, that good job, etc. No one wants to feel as though they are taking on a freeloader or an immature person in marriage, and women like men who are motivated, and most men would rather be seen as motivated than as lazy slobs, so that bit seems to work out okay. The stated goals of both genders seem to meet at some point, I mean.

As far as looks...I don't know...you are blessed with what you are blessed with, I suppose. I mean, I wish I were taller and more handsome, but I also know that I could clean up well if I would lose some weight and shape up a bit, so I think you also have to be realistic about what you bring to the table. For all the talk of the "princess syndrome" (which definitely does exist, but I don't know if it's more prevalent among Christian women than others), there has to be a male version out there, because I know plenty of guys who are out of shape, lazy, ignorant, and not interested in working on any of those deficiencies, yet still seem to think that they deserve "tens" and wouldn't look twice at a woman with a few extra pounds of her own, or glasses (how is this still a prejudice, anyway? I see a lady in glasses and she generally looks better to me), or the 'wrong' hair color, or whatever dumb thing. People should be more honest with themselves across the board.

Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: tuesdayschild on September 04, 2012, 04:09:22 PM
and talking to the abbot if he knows any good men who are looking for a wife is a good way to find someone because single guys may visit.  What do you think about this?

Father had two guys in mind for me, but they were't my type. Fathers/abbots don't care much about looks as long as they think the girl/guy is a good Christian...

Yeah, my priest tried to set me up with a girl at church.  I have noticed a common trend in priorities.

1- Money
2- Looks
... ?
X- Christianity

A trend among whose priorities?

Sorry, I was typing in a hurry.  Christian women.  The money bit refers to status as well as money.  Looks also takes bearing into account.  I could borrow a line from Rollo Tomassi and just say "Hypergamy doesn't care about your Christ".  Women are biologically inclined to look for various things in a man just like men want to find a young (good breeding age) and beautiful (i.e. healthy) woman.  Big boobs look motherly and a big bottom usually coincides with wide hips (therefore less likely to kick the bucket in childbirth).  Likewise, women want a man who is confident (less likely to bug out when the going get's tough) and exhibits higher status (better provider). 

What I am getting at is many young Christian men make the grave mistake that a good Christian woman (TM) is going to want a good Christian man.  In some cases this is true...so long as the man has already exhibited the traits that she is after to a level her market value will allow.  This is true for all women.  All people have a biological imperative to fulfill.  Christian women have the added complication in that they believe that Jesus has a special prince charming out there for them...which is patently wrong.  He has a cross for them to bear, not some fashion-accessory-man to show off.  Any Christian man who believes that he can rest on his laurels that his religion should be enough to entice her to marry him and then stay married to him is setting himself up for catastrophe.



And before you say it, no this is not about me being bitter about this one girl my priest wanted me to date not working out...and by not working out I mean she rejected me repeatedly.  I have dated several other Christian women and have noticed a similar pattern.  I have also dated agnostics, atheists, and non-religious women.  All three of these "heathens" I still have cordial relations with (one of them came over for dinner last week).  This is me pointing out something that should save my unmarried Christian brothers a lot of grief once they have learned this. 

Someone's been reading Dalrock's blog.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on September 04, 2012, 04:18:45 PM
and talking to the abbot if he knows any good men who are looking for a wife is a good way to find someone because single guys may visit.  What do you think about this?

Father had two guys in mind for me, but they were't my type. Fathers/abbots don't care much about looks as long as they think the girl/guy is a good Christian...

Yeah, my priest tried to set me up with a girl at church.  I have noticed a common trend in priorities.

1- Money
2- Looks
... ?
X- Christianity

A trend among whose priorities?

Sorry, I was typing in a hurry.  Christian women.  The money bit refers to status as well as money.  Looks also takes bearing into account.  I could borrow a line from Rollo Tomassi and just say "Hypergamy doesn't care about your Christ".  Women are biologically inclined to look for various things in a man just like men want to find a young (good breeding age) and beautiful (i.e. healthy) woman.  Big boobs look motherly and a big bottom usually coincides with wide hips (therefore less likely to kick the bucket in childbirth).  Likewise, women want a man who is confident (less likely to bug out when the going get's tough) and exhibits higher status (better provider). 

What I am getting at is many young Christian men make the grave mistake that a good Christian woman (TM) is going to want a good Christian man.  In some cases this is true...so long as the man has already exhibited the traits that she is after to a level her market value will allow.  This is true for all women.  All people have a biological imperative to fulfill.  Christian women have the added complication in that they believe that Jesus has a special prince charming out there for them...which is patently wrong.  He has a cross for them to bear, not some fashion-accessory-man to show off.  Any Christian man who believes that he can rest on his laurels that his religion should be enough to entice her to marry him and then stay married to him is setting himself up for catastrophe.



And before you say it, no this is not about me being bitter about this one girl my priest wanted me to date not working out...and by not working out I mean she rejected me repeatedly.  I have dated several other Christian women and have noticed a similar pattern.  I have also dated agnostics, atheists, and non-religious women.  All three of these "heathens" I still have cordial relations with (one of them came over for dinner last week).  This is me pointing out something that should save my unmarried Christian brothers a lot of grief once they have learned this. 

Someone's been reading Dalrock's blog.

The defendant is found to be quilty...
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: vamrat on September 04, 2012, 04:31:21 PM
That does not seem like revelatory information, Vamrat. I don't think religious and non-religious people (of either gender) differ in that regard. If you thought it was enough to just be Christian and not work on yourself in any other way...well, I don't think anybody actually thinks that. It it one of the reasons why people in my church are encouraged to marry more in their 20s-early 30s than before, because you want to be prepared to be the kind of person who is marriageable: you want to have that degree, that good job, etc. No one wants to feel as though they are taking on a freeloader or an immature person in marriage, and women like men who are motivated, and most men would rather be seen as motivated than as lazy slobs, so that bit seems to work out okay. The stated goals of both genders seem to meet at some point, I mean.

As far as looks...I don't know...you are blessed with what you are blessed with, I suppose. I mean, I wish I were taller and more handsome, but I also know that I could clean up well if I would lose some weight and shape up a bit, so I think you also have to be realistic about what you bring to the table. For all the talk of the "princess syndrome" (which definitely does exist, but I don't know if it's more prevalent among Christian women than others), there has to be a male version out there, because I know plenty of guys who are out of shape, lazy, ignorant, and not interested in working on any of those deficiencies, yet still seem to think that they deserve "tens" and wouldn't look twice at a woman with a few extra pounds of her own, or glasses (how is this still a prejudice, anyway? I see a lady in glasses and she generally looks better to me), or the 'wrong' hair color, or whatever dumb thing. People should be more honest with themselves across the board.



I considered basic hygiene and the absence of physical deformities to be obvious enough not to have required mention.  Likewise, being lazy or an a**hole is unChristian behavior so I assumed that a decent Christian man would have these traits.

I am not talking about base line requirements in a mate, there will always be several, but the level of importance.  You have to be willing to give and take.  For me, religion has usually been a major requirement, if not THE major requirement.  If the girl in question is Christian I will lower some standards in other areas.  If she is Orthodox I will go through my list of standards with a flamethrower.  I have been a fool in the past and hoped that women might do the same.  I have yet to find one who will consider religion to be her top priority.  Ergib, who's honesty is commendable, has ranked religion to be on par with physical appearances.  (And she ranks religion higher than many girls I have talked to.) 
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: dzheremi on September 04, 2012, 06:27:51 PM
I am not talking about base line requirements in a mate, there will always be several, but the level of importance.  You have to be willing to give and take.  For me, religion has usually been a major requirement, if not THE major requirement.  If the girl in question is Christian I will lower some standards in other areas.  If she is Orthodox I will go through my list of standards with a flamethrower.  I have been a fool in the past and hoped that women might do the same. I have yet to find one who will consider religion to be her top priority.

With a flamethrower?  :o Hmmm...well, no, I don't know anybody (male or female) who will do that. I don't really see the problem with that, though. Like I wrote (and you acknowledge), it's not enough to just be Christian. Anybody (theoretically) can do that. I imagine women must compromise in other ways without really consciously advertising that fact, and that might account for the many you've met who don't list religion as the top priority, as they probably don't want to attract a guy who is otherwise unappealing but has his Christian bona fides on display for all to see (which I suppose would be unappealing and un-Christian in its own way). I dunno...never been a woman...not going to start just for this conversation...but it seems to me there might be some advantage in not making faith a stated top priority, as what if you meet someone who is compatible in all other respects and willing to explore the religion, but not quite there yet? (Just a hypothetical.) Or any of the many other situations that you don't want to close yourself off to in the search for a mate. Sure, it would be best if we all met faithful, attractive mates in church, but obviously this thread shows how unlikely that is.

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Ergib, who's honesty is commendable, has ranked religion to be on par with physical appearances.  (And she ranks religion higher than many girls I have talked to.) 

Yes, Ergib is commendable. Axias, axias, axias, and all that...my only point in replying to you as that I don't think she's so atypical in wanting a man who is both attractive and faithful. Perhaps I was reading you wrong, in which case I apologize, but parts of your post such as "He has a cross for them to bear, not some fashion-accessory-man to show off.  Any Christian man who believes that he can rest on his laurels that his religion should be enough to entice her to marry him and then stay married to him is setting himself up for catastrophe" made me think that this was meant to be revelatory material, which struck me as odd to say the least. I'm as single as can be and actually in the current period of singlehood I've become much more religious than I was in my most recent relationship, so it seems obvious to me that the two are not necessarily connected (i.e., we didn't break up because I joined the Orthodox Church or whatever; she was an agnostic cultural Catholic -- I was in a state of spiritual and existential purgatory...heh).
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: admiralnick on January 12, 2013, 12:09:17 AM
Church?

I never heard anyone OC say that he/she met his/her spouse at church. There is a great chance of meeting a future mate by becoming a Sunday school member, but I don’t want to join for the wrong reason. Wanna see if there are other options…

I met my wife at church.

-Nick


Did you meet her through your confessional father or are you an active member at your church?

She sang Soprano and I sang Bass in the choir. We stared at each other for numerous services.

-Nick
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: JamesR on January 12, 2013, 12:18:02 AM
If you're looking for a younger, Mexican stallion, I'm game  ;D if not, then why not just get a mail-order spouse from some old Orthodox country or something?
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: biro on January 12, 2013, 02:34:15 AM
If you're looking for a younger, Mexican stallion, I'm game  ;D if not, then why not just get a mail-order spouse from some old Orthodox country or something?

They don't do that with men.
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: JamesR on January 12, 2013, 05:56:52 PM
So once I hit 18, how do I tell my parents that I am getting a mail order bride from Greece/Russia without them looking at me like I had lobsters crawling out of my ears?
Title: Re: Looking for a husband…
Post by: WPM on January 12, 2013, 06:05:56 PM
I think you have to actively seek out your girlfriend/spouse/wife by talking to her thru a public venue ... could be a streetwalk,bar, a dance hall or whatever social activity that exists.