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Title: I think my father confessor is irritated with me
Post by: Lauren_Elisse on July 05, 2010, 11:07:29 PM
It's a sad thing that I'm far from my parish but I do try to call from time to time if I have big questions, if something is wrong, or if something may be going on that I may enjoy. In October I had my break up with my first love and I was devistated and I needed someone to confide in so I talked to my father confessor, I did call a lot and I feel bad for it, I called maybe everyday for a week. Even though this was wayyyyy back in October I think my father confessor is irritated with me because of this. What should I do?
Title: Re: I think my father confessor is irritated with me
Post by: PeterTheAleut on July 05, 2010, 11:16:04 PM
It's a sad thing that I'm far from my parish but I do try to call from time to time if I have big questions, if something is wrong, or if something may be going on that I may enjoy. In October I had my break up with my first love and I was devistated and I needed someone to confide in so I talked to my father confessor, I did call a lot and I feel bad for it, I called maybe everyday for a week. Even though this was wayyyyy back in October I think my father confessor is irritated with me because of this. What should I do?
Have you asked him if he's irritated with you?  ISTM that you may be making assumptions that have no basis at all in what he really thinks of you and may thereby be depriving yourself unnecessarily of his spiritual guidance.
Title: Re: I think my father confessor is irritated with me
Post by: scamandrius on July 05, 2010, 11:19:49 PM
We often forget that our priests are ordinary people, too.  It's been 7 months.  Just ask him!  If he is, then he is and he needs to be reminded that this is in the job description (not by you, but by his bishop) and hopefully he will calm down.  If you find that he still is and that such would be a huge spiritual impairment for you, ask for release to find another father confessor.  But that is a LAST resort.  No harm in asking.

BTW, I voted "pirates."
Title: Re: I think my father confessor is irritated with me
Post by: Keble on July 05, 2010, 11:36:38 PM
The important thing if to ask sincerely and not be offended with the answer.