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Title: For my wife...
Post by: Heorhij on November 14, 2009, 05:07:36 PM
Dear folks,

I am afraid I have become too obnoxious with this, but may I ask, again, for your prayers for my wife Lesya (Alexandra)?

Lesya is very stressed out and annoyed by her Ukrainian relatives.

Lesya's mother (Maria) is in a mental institution, with a full-blown senile psychosis. Maria is, actually, taken care for; she is given medication, kept in a neat room, fed, washed, etc. Physically, she became even better than she used to be when she lived in her apartment: she gained a little weight (used to be terribly thin), her blood pressure is under control, etc. Mentally, however, she is deteriorating: she does not remember anything except what happened during her childhood, does not recognize any of her relatives, says that she is in the USA (while in fact she is in Ukraine), tells her doctor that she needs to help her father (who died in the 1970-s) to harness a horse, etc. etc. etc.

Lesya's aunt and cousin, however, raised hell about Maria's hospitalization. They say that Myroslava (Lesya's sister) "buried her own mother in a shrink hole" in order to get Maria's apartment. (In fact, Myroslava still lives in her own apartment - it's one of her daughters, Olesya, who is currently living in the former Maria's apartment; but that move happened before Maria began to show symptoms of psychosis). Myroslava's "extended family" is putting horrible pressure on her, demanding that Myroslava takes Maria back from the "shrink hole" and takes care of her herself. Myroslava, a professor of history and theory of music in a music college, a single mother of two who works days and nights, and who in all earnesty visits her demented mother daily, is crying hysterically and bombarding Lesya with letters, causing Lesya much grief and distress.

I know there is probably little if anything that can be done about all this, but I am just asking a quick prayer. Thank you all.

G.
Title: Re: For my wife...
Post by: Alveus Lacuna on November 14, 2009, 05:10:05 PM
Lord, have mercy!
Title: Re: For my wife...
Post by: Rosehip on November 14, 2009, 07:30:20 PM
Lord have mercy on Lesya and her sister Myroslava, who is enduring such stressful times as she cares for her mother. Be with the entire family-help them to find peace and centering in spite of the turmoil that surrounds them. Please help the extended family to treat Myroslava with kindness, love, consideration,empathy, and compassion and not to exacerbate the situation further. Please grant Maria's caregiving team wisdom and compassion as they care for her. Please send an ministering angel to the family at this time. Amen!
Title: Re: For my wife...
Post by: Riddikulus on November 14, 2009, 09:25:05 PM
Lord, have mercy. People say weird things at times like this; probably just venting their frustration that they can't really be of any help to the situation and feel that making a noise, any noise, somehow makes up for that.
Title: Re: For my wife...
Post by: GabrieltheCelt on November 14, 2009, 09:58:53 PM
Lord, have mercy.
Title: Re: For my wife...
Post by: LizaSymonenko on November 14, 2009, 11:33:43 PM
Lord, have mercy!
Title: Re: For my wife...
Post by: simplygermain on November 14, 2009, 11:40:25 PM
Lord have mercy. +++
Title: Re: For my wife...
Post by: Super Apostolic Bros. on November 14, 2009, 11:48:27 PM
Gospodi polimuj.
Title: Re: For my wife...
Post by: SolEX01 on November 15, 2009, 12:39:29 AM
Lord have Mercy.
Title: Re: For my wife...
Post by: ozgeorge on November 15, 2009, 06:30:26 AM
Lord have mercy.
Title: Re: For my wife...
Post by: mike on November 15, 2009, 05:22:01 PM
Lord, have mercy!
Title: Re: For my wife...
Post by: stashko on November 15, 2009, 07:45:03 PM
Prayers For You and your wife, Lesya (Alexandra),also others of your family
not mentioned ,,,Gospode Pomiluji....Amin...Blagoslovi Boze..Amin...
Title: Re: For my wife...
Post by: Heorhij on November 15, 2009, 07:57:16 PM
Many thanks to those of you who prayed.

Is it an accident or not that those who fiercely opposed my idea that I should not pray for the US veterans (because of my anti-militaristic stance) never pray for me or my relatives on this forum?
Title: Re: For my wife...
Post by: jnorm888 on November 15, 2009, 08:05:14 PM
Lord have Mercy!













ICXC NIKA
Title: Re: For my wife...
Post by: ozgeorge on November 15, 2009, 08:05:48 PM
Many thanks to those of you who prayed.

Is it an accident or not that those who fiercely opposed my idea that I should not pray for the US veterans (because of my anti-militaristic stance) never pray for me or my relatives on this forum?

How do you know they are not praying for you privately?
Title: Re: For my wife...
Post by: Asteriktos on November 15, 2009, 08:11:35 PM
I can only speak for myself, but your wife was in my thoughts. My grandfather, who was basically the father figure throughout my life, and who was also my legal guardian for a few years, at the end of his life was in a similar situation to that of your wife's mother, in that he was cognitively not there. We tried to keep him at home, because he was only expected to live a short time, but my grand mother couldn't handle the stress, so we had to put him in a place where others could look after him. So, having had my own experience with a loved one not able to care for himself anymore, I certainly understood part of what your wife was going through (though thankfully we didn't have the family turmoil, which I understand is a significant cause of the stress).

However, for personal and theological reasons, I have mainly avoided prayer threads since my return, and have only posted in maybe 4 or 5 of them in the last month. I feel that it would be, for the most part, disingenuous of me to post in them, since I believe in an impersonal rather than personal God. So every once in a while I give my well wishes, but generally speaking I stay out of the prayer forum. It was not out of lack of compassion, or because of your position regarding U.S. soldiers, that I did not post here.
Title: Re: For my wife...
Post by: Heorhij on November 15, 2009, 08:17:29 PM
Many thanks to those of you who prayed.

Is it an accident or not that those who fiercely opposed my idea that I should not pray for the US veterans (because of my anti-militaristic stance) never pray for me or my relatives on this forum?

How do you know they are not praying for you privately?

I hope they do and I am thankful.
Title: Re: For my wife...
Post by: HandmaidenofGod on November 15, 2009, 09:44:08 PM
Lord have mercy!
Title: Re: For my wife...
Post by: Papist on November 16, 2009, 05:11:36 PM
Lord have mercy.
Title: Re: For my wife...
Post by: ytterbiumanalyst on November 22, 2009, 11:37:29 PM
Lord have mercy.
Title: Re: For my wife...
Post by: Heorhij on December 01, 2009, 09:43:47 AM
Thank you so much for your prayers. Lesya is in a good shape right now. Her stomach aches are gone (simple Mylanta-like stuff actually helps!), and emotionally she is quite well. Actually, this ordeal with her mother and other relatives, paradoxically, made her and myself closer to each other. We are extremely happy together, we do not have any disagreements or tensions between us. I am very grateul to you, good OC.net folks.