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« on: November 16, 2010, 11:14:08 PM » |
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well, as I'm sure usually happens, I have developed a strong relationship to my Spiritual Father. he really has replaced my dad as a father figure, since my parents divorce. he has become a role model for me, and I'd be lucky if I become half the person he is.
well, I am suddenly wanting his opinion on several issues in my life, but I am having trouble talking to him. I have no trouble confessing to him, but I just can't bring up a long conversation about anything potentially embarrassing that I'm dealing with, but I do so crave his opinions.
how can I get passed that embarrassing awkwardness and have a real "grown-up" discussion with him?
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« Reply #1 on: November 16, 2010, 11:32:26 PM » |
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Ask him out for a beer?  |
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« Reply #3 on: November 16, 2010, 11:39:43 PM » |
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Ask him out for a beer? lol, perhaps if I wasn't 16! Coffee always works. I don't THINK they've started IDing for coffee yet. |
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« Reply #4 on: November 16, 2010, 11:59:15 PM » |
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How about something like:
"Bless, Father!
I have a few "touchy" subjects that have been bothering me and I would truly value your advice and could benefit from your wisdom and experience.
Do you think you might have some time available in the near future, to just have a talk? Maybe, I can stop by after school this afternoon?"
Don't be shy....just dive in! If he's half as "good" as you say, he'll understand, pick up on the cues and jump in to help you.
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« Reply #5 on: November 17, 2010, 01:32:10 AM » |
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well, as I'm sure usually happens, I have developed a strong relationship to my Spiritual Father. he really has replaced my dad as a father figure, since my parents divorce. he has become a role model for me, and I'd be lucky if I become half the person he is.
well, I am suddenly wanting his opinion on several issues in my life, but I am having trouble talking to him. I have no trouble confessing to him, but I just can't bring up a long conversation about anything potentially embarrassing that I'm dealing with, but I do so crave his opinions.
how can I get passed that embarrassing awkwardness and have a real "grown-up" discussion with him?
Trevor, my brother in Christ. This was MY life! Don't you dare steal it!  Whenever I mention it to the Mrs, she recommends I ask for a meeting during his office hours. He is always really willing to make a meeting time work, and it is extremely beneficial to bounce ideas off him. Remember, you will always have to make your own decisions! |
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« Reply #6 on: November 17, 2010, 01:38:09 AM » |
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well, as I'm sure usually happens, I have developed a strong relationship to my Spiritual Father. he really has replaced my dad as a father figure, since my parents divorce. he has become a role model for me, and I'd be lucky if I become half the person he is.
well, I am suddenly wanting his opinion on several issues in my life, but I am having trouble talking to him. I have no trouble confessing to him, but I just can't bring up a long conversation about anything potentially embarrassing that I'm dealing with, but I do so crave his opinions.
how can I get passed that embarrassing awkwardness and have a real "grown-up" discussion with him?
Trevor, my brother in Christ. This was MY life! Don't you dare steal it! Whenever I mention it to the Mrs, she recommends I ask for a meeting during his office hours. He is always really willing to make a meeting time work, and it is extremely beneficial to bounce ideas off him. Remember, you will always have to make your own decisions! lol, I'm afraid I'll have to keep it, as I'm finally on the cusp of the "happily ever after" part! |
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« Reply #7 on: November 17, 2010, 09:39:33 AM » |
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Trevor,
You can always bring the issues your struggling with up in confession.
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« Reply #8 on: November 17, 2010, 11:33:59 PM » |
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Trevor I truly wish you the best in your conversation with your spiritual father, with a great connection as you say it should be fairly easy you can get some of the other stuff off your chest. I'm willing to bet, once you do get it off your chest how much more relived you will be.
Not to distract from Trevor but I have a similar issue. I'd love to become an orthodox Christian, but how do I approach the question to the priest of the church? What do I say, I've never met him before.
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« Reply #9 on: November 18, 2010, 01:11:39 AM » |
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I'd love to become an orthodox Christian, but how do I approach the question to the priest of the church? What do I say, I've never met him before.
Do you attend a large parish? Do you know other people in the parish? If the former is the case, tell someone who looks in charge of something that you want to meet the priest. If the latter is the case, ask whoever you know in the parish to introduce you. Either way, you'll get a personal introduction, and the priest should be able to remember you. |
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« Reply #10 on: November 18, 2010, 01:20:51 AM » |
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Yeah this parish is huge, so I have no idea how I could get into contact with him. I think I saw some people with name tags on them, so I assume that has something to do with being church officials.
I just don't know how to approach him. Do I put my right hand over my left, palms up, say "Bless, Father"? I don't want to disrespect him in any way.
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“Without music, life would be a mistake.”
“The last capitalist we hang shall be the one who sold us the rope.”
"Face the facts of being what you are, for that is what changes what you are."
"We see at once that the words absolute, divine, eternal, and so on do not express what is implied in them.
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« Reply #11 on: November 18, 2010, 01:53:33 AM » |
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Yeah this parish is huge, so I have no idea how I could get into contact with him. I think I saw some people with name tags on them, so I assume that has something to do with being church officials.
I just don't know how to approach him. Do I put my right hand over my left, palms up, say "Bless, Father"? I don't want to disrespect him in any way.
Ask someone with a nametag to introduce you to the priest. |
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