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How do you stay attentive?
« on: September 12, 2018, 03:09:59 PM »
I sometimes have the problem of going on "autopilot" as I read my prayers. My attention drifts in and out and I sometimes feel like I'm barely "aware" of what I'm reading as I'm reading it. I also find that I sometimes have a problem with rushing through my prayers to "get it over with." This could also apply to while I'm Church, if in slightly different ways.

What are some things that you do to make sure that you keep "meaning it" the whole time and keep your mental presence up as you're reading your prayers? The last thing I want to do is wind up validating the "vain repetitions" stereotype with my own life.
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Re: How do you stay attentive?
« Reply #1 on: September 12, 2018, 03:47:27 PM »
i also suffer this problem in general i just notice my voice going more quiet and soft and snap back to reality and focus on my prayers (not much help sorry!)
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Re: How do you stay attentive?
« Reply #2 on: September 12, 2018, 04:02:37 PM »
i also suffer this problem in general i just notice my voice going more quiet and soft and snap back to reality and focus on my prayers (not much help sorry!)

It's alright. In the end, that might be the only real solution to it lol!
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Re: How do you stay attentive?
« Reply #3 on: September 12, 2018, 04:11:22 PM »
Perhaps try a fixed amount of time of prayer vs. merely getting through a set of prayers.

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Re: How do you stay attentive?
« Reply #4 on: September 12, 2018, 04:29:50 PM »
Memorizing helped me a good bit.  I have to start over sometimes, though--at least a given section; like the prayer of the hours, for example.  Extra Jesus prayers and crossing thrown in when it's particularly bad; it comes and goes.
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Re: How do you stay attentive?
« Reply #5 on: September 12, 2018, 04:30:44 PM »
Somewhere a saint talks about, when going to prayer or worship, imagining that you are standing before an emperor, and how you'd want to make everything perfect, how nothing would draw your mind away from them, how you'd make the most of your time, how you'd fear approaching things flippantly or inattentively, and all that just for a mortal man; then imagine how it must be to stand before the all-powerful creator and sustainer of the universe. Doesn't really help me much, but it might work for others...
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Re: How do you stay attentive?
« Reply #6 on: September 14, 2018, 08:51:54 PM »
Memorizing helped me a good bit.

Memorization hasn't come easily to me...

St. Theophan the Recluse has got my number lol:

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Why is it, you ask, that one can pray for so many years with a prayer book, and still not have prayer in his heart? I think the reason is that people only spend a little time lifting themselves up to God when they complete their prayer rule, and in other times, they do not remember God. For example, they finish their morning prayers, and think that their relation to God is fulfilled by them; then the whole day passes in work, and such a person does not attend to God. Then in the evening, the thought returns to him that he must quickly stand at prayer and complete his evening rule. In this case, it happens that even if the Lord grants a person spiritual feelings at the time of the morning prayer, the bustle and business of the day drowns them out. As a result, it happens that one does not often feel like praying, and cannot get control of himself even to soften his heart a little bit. In such an atmosphere, prayer develops and ripens poorly. This problem (is it not ubiquitous?) needs to be corrected, that is, one must ensure that the soul does not only make petition to God when standing in prayer, but during the whole day, as much as possible, one must unceasingly ascend to Him and remain with Him.

In order to begin this task, one must first, during the course of the day, cry out to God more often, even if only with a few words, according to need and the work of the day. Beginning anything, for example, say ‘Bless, O Lord!’ When you finish something, say, ‘Glory to Thee, O Lord’, and not only with your lips, but with feeling in your heart. If passions arise, say, ‘Save me, O Lord, I am perishing.’ If the darkness of disturbing thoughts comes up, cry out: ‘Lead my soul out of prison.’ If dishonest deeds present themselves and sin leads you to them, pray, ‘Set me, O Lord, in the way’, or ‘do not give up my feet to stumbling.’ If sin takes hold of you and leads you to despair, cry out with the voice of the publican, ‘God, be merciful to me, a sinner.’ Do this in every circumstance, or simply say often, ‘Lord, have mercy’, ‘Most Holy Theotokos save us”, ‘Holy Angel, my guardian, protect me’, or other such words. Say such prayers as often as possible, always making the effort for them come from your heart, as if squeezed out of it. When we do this, we will frequently ascend to God in our hearts, making frequent petitions and prayers. Such increased frequency will bring about the habit of mental conversation with God.

— St. Theophan the Recluse, On prayer, Homily 2
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I have to start over sometimes, though--at least a given section; like the prayer of the hours, for example.  Extra Jesus prayers and crossing thrown in when it's particularly bad; it comes and goes.

I thought I read Fr. Hopko advise against this somewhere. And if his reasoning was that it can turn into an endless spiral of just repeating things over and over again because you never feel like you "did it right," then I definitely agree with him lol.
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Re: How do you stay attentive?
« Reply #7 on: September 14, 2018, 08:52:40 PM »
Somewhere a saint talks about, when going to prayer or worship, imagining that you are standing before an emperor, and how you'd want to make everything perfect, how nothing would draw your mind away from them, how you'd make the most of your time, how you'd fear approaching things flippantly or inattentively, and all that just for a mortal man; then imagine how it must be to stand before the all-powerful creator and sustainer of the universe. Doesn't really help me much, but it might work for others...

I also have a tendency to space out and drift in my attention when I'm talking to people face to face, though lol.

I guess that imagining God killing me for my impudence has helped a little in the past. Not sure I want to make a habit of that lol.
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Re: How do you stay attentive?
« Reply #8 on: September 14, 2018, 10:43:04 PM »
I wasn't super clear; I'm sorry!  The starting over a section and extra crossing and such is for significant or even total mental derailment, not messing up a line or a word.  Memorization actually keeps the vague sort of drifting at bay for me, precisely because it's not easy at first, and also because then it's in me instead of in a book.  It was one at a time, pretty slowly, and I'm not done.  I don't see anything mutually exclusive between St. Theophan's advice and recitation/memorization, either.  It seems to be about disposition more than logistics.  :)  It's hard though; these are just ideas.  You sort of need to know your own strengths, weaknesses, and current needs and work specifically with those to achieve whatever goal you've set.
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Re: How do you stay attentive?
« Reply #9 on: September 14, 2018, 11:25:42 PM »
Oh, I know, I didn't think St. Theophan was warning away from memorization. Just that he encapsulates why I suck so much at it lol.
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Re: How do you stay attentive?
« Reply #10 on: September 15, 2018, 12:01:06 AM »
I just maintain a sense of interdependence on the Lord’s commands to pray & give alms in Matthew 6.Each one nurtures the other.
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Re: How do you stay attentive?
« Reply #11 on: September 15, 2018, 12:16:47 AM »
I just maintain a sense of interdependence on the Lord’s commands to pray & give alms in Matthew 6.Each one nurtures the other.

In what ways do you do that?
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Re: How do you stay attentive?
« Reply #12 on: September 15, 2018, 12:19:46 AM »
Somewhere a saint talks about, when going to prayer or worship, imagining that you are standing before an emperor, and how you'd want to make everything perfect, how nothing would draw your mind away from them, how you'd make the most of your time, how you'd fear approaching things flippantly or inattentively, and all that just for a mortal man; then imagine how it must be to stand before the all-powerful creator and sustainer of the universe. Doesn't really help me much, but it might work for others...

I also have a tendency to space out and drift in my attention when I'm talking to people face to face, though lol.

I guess that imagining God killing me for my impudence has helped a little in the past. Not sure I want to make a habit of that lol.

Oh, yeah, probably not the best route!  Maybe just snap a rubber band on your wrist when your mind starts wandering...  8)

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Re: How do you stay attentive?
« Reply #13 on: September 15, 2018, 07:36:14 AM »
Perhaps try a fixed amount of time of prayer vs. merely getting through a set of prayers.

That's one of my priest's advices.
Another one is to try chant/sing some of the prayers.
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Re: How do you stay attentive?
« Reply #14 on: September 15, 2018, 07:47:57 AM »
Perhaps try a fixed amount of time of prayer vs. merely getting through a set of prayers.

That's one of my priest's advices.
Another one is to try chant/sing some of the prayers.

That's not a bad idea.
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Re: How do you stay attentive?
« Reply #15 on: September 15, 2018, 08:40:00 AM »
Perhaps try a fixed amount of time of prayer vs. merely getting through a set of prayers.

That's one of my priest's advices.
Another one is to try chant/sing some of the prayers.

what if you can not chant or sing?
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« Reply #16 on: September 15, 2018, 08:42:31 AM »
Perhaps try a fixed amount of time of prayer vs. merely getting through a set of prayers.

That's one of my priest's advices.
Another one is to try chant/sing some of the prayers.

what if you can not chant or sing?

I just do the best I can. I don't think God minds if it's not perfect :)
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Re: How do you stay attentive?
« Reply #17 on: September 15, 2018, 08:43:45 AM »
"Make a joyful noise unto the LORD."   :D
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Re: How do you stay attentive?
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Perhaps try a fixed amount of time of prayer vs. merely getting through a set of prayers.

That's one of my priest's advices.
Another one is to try chant/sing some of the prayers.

what if you can not chant or sing?

Private prayer (actually, every prayer) is not a singing competition. I'm sure that God is interested not in beauty of the voice, but in beauty of the prayer ;)
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Re: How do you stay attentive?
« Reply #19 on: September 15, 2018, 09:55:33 AM »
Memorizing helped me a good bit. 

Singing/chanting (with the same tunes as in Church) helped me memorize the Lord's Prayer, Creed, and Rejoice, O Virgin/More Honorable.
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« Reply #20 on: September 15, 2018, 11:55:52 AM »
I just maintain a sense of interdependence on the Lord’s commands to pray & give alms in Matthew 6.Each one nurtures the other.

In what ways do you do that?


I understand prayer to be substantiated by my commitment to trying to do a good work. In prayer I ask God for the work to be by His commandments and his will in the hope of doing good for others and to work out my salvation. This is amidst living out the daily ups & downs in life.
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Re: How do you stay attentive?
« Reply #21 on: September 15, 2018, 04:15:06 PM »
I just maintain a sense of interdependence on the Lord’s commands to pray & give alms in Matthew 6.Each one nurtures the other.

In what ways do you do that?


I understand prayer to be substantiated by my commitment to trying to do a good work. In prayer I ask God for the work to be by His commandments and his will in the hope of doing good for others and to work out my salvation. This is amidst living out the daily ups & downs in life.

Huh. Interesting perspective. Thanks :)
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Re: How do you stay attentive?
« Reply #22 on: September 15, 2018, 07:38:09 PM »
Memorizing helped me a good bit. 

Singing/chanting (with the same tunes as in Church) helped me memorize the Lord's Prayer, Creed, and Rejoice, O Virgin/More Honorable.
We don't chant the Lord's Prayer or the Creed, actually.  But I grew up in the UMC, so the Lord's Prayer and the Apostle's Creed were already known.  Services have definitely helped with learning the other two.  There's a lot to learn, though.
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Re: How do you stay attentive?
« Reply #23 on: September 15, 2018, 08:10:50 PM »
I sometimes have the problem of going on "autopilot" as I read my prayers. My attention drifts in and out and I sometimes feel like I'm barely "aware" of what I'm reading as I'm reading it. I also find that I sometimes have a problem with rushing through my prayers to "get it over with." This could also apply to while I'm Church, if in slightly different ways.

What are some things that you do to make sure that you keep "meaning it" the whole time and keep your mental presence up as you're reading your prayers? The last thing I want to do is wind up validating the "vain repetitions" stereotype with my own life.

I would say don’t do too much.  Pray the Psalter, a Stasis or a Kathisma and mean it.  The little Hours, Vespers, or Compline without worrying too much about combining propers and such.  The Hours of Prayer is an excellent prayer book for such a rule.
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« Reply #24 on: September 15, 2018, 10:42:44 PM »
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Still waiting for someone to misread the thread title as "How do you stay attractive?" and start posting about head scarves, toiletries, ankle-length skirts with 19th century Eastern European patterns, beard gels and trimmers, etc.

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Still waiting for someone to misread the thread title as "How do you stay attractive?"...

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