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Strange Subject
« on: June 10, 2018, 08:05:17 AM »
Hi all there!Blessed be your souls!I am just wondering how to get an Orthodox girlfriend.At my church are only old people so I am the only teen there.(when I say girlfriend I say without sins,I mean a pure love between two teenagers-I need a girl to confess to and to help me battle with my sins and also to give me her love)

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Re: Strange Subject
« Reply #1 on: June 10, 2018, 08:25:49 AM »
Hello Razvanciurescu!

It is not a strange subject.  There are a lot of us looking for spouses.  Since you are in Romania, pray to St. Paraskeve (Petka).  Her relics I believe are located in the cathedral in Iasi.


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Re: Strange Subject
« Reply #2 on: June 10, 2018, 10:50:14 AM »
Hi all there!Blessed be your souls!I am just wondering how to get an Orthodox girlfriend.At my church are only old people so I am the only teen there.(when I say girlfriend I say without sins,I mean a pure love between two teenagers-I need a girl to confess to and to help me battle with my sins and also to give me her love)

Truthfully you sound a little selfish. You want a sinless girl. While you yourself are not sinless. Nobody is really. You have set some pretty high standards that nobody can meet. So you are pretty much eliminating just about everyone.
Secondly there are plenty of young people's orthodox gatherings.  You just have to find them and get off the couch.  You will make new freinds and those friends will introduce you to others. Eventually you will find someone.  Its not that difficult.  Just take it easy with the other stuff. No girl is going to want a blind boy.  ;)

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Re: Strange Subject
« Reply #3 on: June 15, 2018, 01:06:27 PM »
Actually I didn’t meant without sins-I meant virgin(without sexual sins)!

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Re: Strange Subject
« Reply #4 on: June 15, 2018, 01:22:04 PM »
You're in the US, so there are definitely a lot of space for Orthodox young people gathering and meeting across different churches...
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Re: Strange Subject
« Reply #5 on: June 15, 2018, 04:25:34 PM »
Actually I didn’t meant without sins-I meant virgin(without sexual sins)!


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Re: Strange Subject
« Reply #6 on: June 15, 2018, 04:32:20 PM »
Actually I didn’t meant without sins-I meant virgin(without sexual sins)!

What about a girl who's not a virgin but who has repented of that past and no longer wants to have pre-martial sex? You'd need to get to know her to find out, I would think.
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Re: Strange Subject
« Reply #7 on: June 15, 2018, 05:15:46 PM »
Actually I didn’t meant without sins-I meant virgin(without sexual sins)!

If you're living in the US and you want to marry a virgin, good luck. They're out there, but it's not common amongst marriage-aged Americans. Still better odds than finding an Orthodox girl though.

If you'd like to get married, you might have to compromise one of those standards. I gave up on finding a girl in the Church, decided to import. I'm dating a devout Protestant girl who I am working on turning into an devout Orthodox girl.

RalphaCam's advice to attend any sort of Orthodox gathering you can find seems wise. I'd also add: lift weights and make sure you dress decently.
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Re: Strange Subject
« Reply #8 on: June 16, 2018, 10:32:45 AM »


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Re: Strange Subject
« Reply #9 on: June 16, 2018, 11:28:45 AM »
Actually I didn’t meant without sins-I meant virgin(without sexual sins)!

No offense but how old are you? My advice would be get an education to support you and your new wife when you find her. Trust me working in a hot factory isnt fun.
  And finding your soul mate isnt easy, but even if you find her and shes not a Virgin, dont throw that away, everyone sins my friend. But that doesnt mean to find just anyone, take time.

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Re: Strange Subject
« Reply #10 on: June 16, 2018, 11:48:33 AM »
One should never enter into a romantic relationship without considering marriage with the other person. Since are you just a teenager, you should not be seeking for a girlfriend at this moment. Besides, the needs you described are not up to a girlfriend to answer, only a wife.

Take it off your mind and strive to expand your circle of friends of both sexes. Besides, the best romances begin with a good friendship.
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Re: Strange Subject
« Reply #11 on: June 16, 2018, 06:04:29 PM »
The last two posts are both good advice.
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Re: Strange Subject
« Reply #12 on: June 23, 2018, 01:10:31 AM »
Good luck on finding an Orthodox girl, let alone a devout one.

You may have to relax some of your standards like platypus said.

I didn't find my wife in the Church, but she was open to everything from day one. That helped a lot. It's not easy but with God everything is possible.
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Re: Strange Subject
« Reply #13 on: June 23, 2018, 11:40:36 PM »
One should never enter into a romantic relationship without considering marriage with the other person

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Re: Strange Subject
« Reply #14 on: Yesterday at 12:10:53 AM »
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Quote from: Fr. Thomas Hopko, dystopian parable of the prodigal son
...you can imagine so-called healing services of the pigpen. The books that could be written, you know: Life in the Pigpen. How to Cope in the Pigpen. Being Happy in the Pigpen. Surviving in the Pigpen. And then there could be counselling, for people who feel unhappy in the pigpen, to try to get them to come to terms with the pigpen, and to accept the pigpen.

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Re: Strange Subject
« Reply #16 on: Yesterday at 12:09:10 PM »
find a friend who is a girl, first. (a friend-girl)
then maybe you will be become best friends.
Marry a best friend.
unfortunately, this takes time.

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Re: Strange Subject
« Reply #17 on: Yesterday at 12:39:49 PM »
find a friend who is a girl, first. (a friend-girl)
then maybe you will be become best friends.
Marry a best friend.
unfortunately, this takes time.

I prefer demarcate "best friend" and "boyfriend". As I've said this in a few places in this forum, in other cases friendship between women and men wouldn't be possible. But it is.
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Re: Strange Subject
« Reply #18 on: Yesterday at 01:48:35 PM »
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