The article sounds as if this woman's identity was based on being a virgin, that her Christianity was defined by her virginity, that her virginity was sustained by her perception of sex as "dirty" and "sinful". Consequently, once she lost her virginity she naturally felt dirty and her Christian identity based on her virginity fell apart. She then went to "therapy" in which she was likely told that all forms of self-denial and repression are bad and unhealthy and so now she is preaching the gospel of modern psychology that we should indulge our passions in the quest for self-satisfaction rather than restrain our passions out of love for and obedience to Christ.
It is bizarre for this woman to think that sex before marriage would have been good for her. Sure, she may not have had these particular problems, but she would simply trade one set of problems for another.
All forms of sexual activity, including masturbation, both before marriage and outside of marriage are sins that cut us off from Christ, keep us from receiving Holy Communion, and deprive us of the grace of God. All such sexual sins should be confessed, repented of, and penanced according to the canons. Celibacy before marriage and chastity in marriage cannot be maintained in a healthy and beneficial way outside of living an active Orthodox lifestyle by participating in the mysteries, maintaining a prayerful lifestyle, and engaging in an ascetical struggle against all of the passions.
Ascetical struggle is required of all Christians, but we have to understand why we abstain from certain things at certain times and for what purpose. The same action can be either pleasing to God or displeasing to God based on a person's understanding and intention. For instance, in the Scriptures we find both praise for those who refrain from marriage and remain virgins for the sake of God, as well as condemnation for those who "forbid to marry" as teaching "doctrines of demons". It is not the action (virginity) that is pleasing to God by itself, but rather the good action (virginity) embraced in a God-pleasing manner.